Is my sister in-law competing with me?

Question

I have a sister in-law (my husband's brother's wife) that I live with. They married a year before me and my husband got married. She seems to be very helpful in the family and she's not quite shy about expressing her feelings to the family. But I think she's all fake.

Everything she does, she does it like she wants to compete with me. When she does one good thing with the family, she rubs it in my face. When I try to have fun with the family, I can see in her eyes that she's jealous. She's angry. She wants to do it too because she doesn't want to be left out. She's the one that wants all the attention.

She wants to be my mother in-law's best daughter in-law. I'm not sure if this is something I should over-think about but it's starting to really bug me. And the fact that I live under the same roof with her makes it even worst. Me and my husband would move out but we wouldn't be able to afford it on our own right now and they wouldn't be able to pay for the house themselves. What should I do?

P.S. I tell you, two females under the same roof does not go well together.

Answer 1

don't force yourself to compete. move out.  

Answer 2

the way i see it you have 2 options:

1) talk to her about it and try to fix things.

2) find a way to somehow be able to get ur own house with your husband. and move out.

...good luck.

Answer 3

i would really look around an see if i can find a way to get a apartment or see if someone is looking for rommies  that is willing to rent to a married couple. this is totaly not healthy and then try to work on a relationship with the lady  for your hubby.