Is my son to immature to start school help!!!!?

Question

my son is due to start school in august!! he is 5 in november but im so worried i cant sleep i have it on my mind 24/7 he seems so immature for one he still wanders off im worried that when he goes to get his lunch he will just wonder outside!! he has no interest in school at all. or maybe he will try to leave the school when its playtime is there teachers there with them at these times.

Answer 1

duh 5 is so early god what's wrong with you? I went to school at 6 in first grade and everyone there was 7 years old... i was immature? Yeah...

Answer 2

well i started school at 4. girls mature faster than boys so just give it a bit. dont worry if your sons maturity level dosent keep up with the little grl next store. kintergarten teachers keep a good eye on little ones, thats there job. dont worry!

Answer 3

When he goes to school he wont be expected to know an awful lot and they dont sit them at desks and make them listen, its pretty much the same as a preschool where there is a lot of play and singing etc... Dont worry!!

Answer 4

My brother was the same. turns out he has ADD and ADHD which together are a problem. He takes his "focus" pills and now he is way better. You can talk to his future teacher and your doctor for more help. he is your son and it will help if you talk to him about it like on a nice walk. you still have a little time. Things will get better. Good luck! :D

Answer 5

he is going to love it. he'll have so many developing activities, many friends, and loads of more benefits.

I dont know your child so it may be hard for a start, but dont give up. you seem very protective over your son. I was like that as well, but now when i come to pick him up, he doesnt want to leave cos he's busy playing:)) he's 1,5 and i am so happy seeing him enjoying the time there. 5 it's definitelly good if not high time to introduce your little one to the school

Answer 6

Have a word with the school and tell them of your concerns. Maybe he can start a for an hour increasing to the normal hours? Good Luck.

Answer 7

i think that you are the one not ready for him to go to school. Don't put it off though even if he is too immature and i doubt that he is kindergarten will help him out alot.

Answer 8

oh please you think your kid is the only child like that.

for some kids school is a new adventure and they love meeting all the new kids and going to school.

for others its a shock they find it daunting and take time to adjust but adjust they do and soon get into the swing of it as your son will.

if your worried about him wandering off just have a word with his class teacher

Answer 9

well since it not time for school yet you should put him in a daycare until school. That kinda gives him skills on what to do like not to run off. Not talk to strangers. Thats what my mom did to me i went to kindergarden at age 4 and graduated a age 5 and i went to preschool at age two

Answer 10

If you have any doubts hold him out a year.  There is nothing wrong with a child being the oldest in a class.  As a parent you know you child better than anyone and if you think he is a bit immature than you are probably right.  I have never ever heard a parent regret holding their child out of school an extra year.  But I know several that wished they would have!

Answer 11

You may be surprised how much he will change when he starts school!  It sounds to me like you're having separation anxiety!  All parents get that when their "baby" goes off to kindergarten and they worry about things that don't need worrying over.  The first day I sent my "baby off to kindergarten I felt awful!  I worried about everything...will she know where the bathroom is...will she cry all day...will she hate me for sending her...will she get lost...etc!  I think I was more scared then she was.  When I picked her up she was all smiles.  She knew where the bathroom was, didn't cry, still loved me and never once got lost!  She had so much fun that all weekend she kept asking if she could go back to school yet!   Teachers keep their eyes on the kids at all times and know where each one is.  He will be fine.  He will grow so much, and so will you.  Be brave mommy...and send him off with hugs, kisses and smiles.  Cry at home for a minute cause it's quiet and you miss him then put a movie in and enjoy the few hours of peace and quiet!  Do something for yourself!!  Have a good first day of school yourself!

Answer 12

ok relax, in first grade, depends on the school, but i know it to be true that they will have the kids eat their lunch in class, or they will have a teacher walk them in a line to the lunch room and eat. then a  lunch aide will have them go out side to play. but there will be constant supervision the aides will be watching them the whole time. and your child will never be left unattened

Answer 13

Nowadays, the children learn a lot in Kindergarten.  If he is not ready to learn, he will be behind when he gets to first grade.  

If you are in doubt, I would advise waiting.  It would be to your son's benefit in the long run because a certain amount of maturity is necessary to really be engaged in the learning process.  He will be one of the youngest children in his class and he is also a boy.  Boys are generally less mature than girls at that age.

I think you should send him to some sort of pre-K a few days a week to help him get ready for Kindergarten.  Waiting until next year, he would be one of the more mature instead of being one of the least.  It is your choice, but I don't see the rush to send him.  Many people decide to have their late-birthday children, especially boys, start a year later.

Answer 14

School could do him the world of good. You'll probably find that he will improve once he starts. Don't worry about him wondering out, they are very secure for the primary school children.

Answer 15

well no he's mature enough for school cause i still see 8 year olds wonder off but not out of school and plus i think him mettting new friends will change him and will make school more exciting cause kindergarten was about fun when i was in it,so ill give it a chance and seewhat is the outcome after a week or so.

Answer 16

I would wait another year. My son starts kindergarten in august and then turns 6 on sept 5th. I kept him in preschool for an extra year because his first year he was slower than the other kids (mostly because he was a year younger than everyone else) his second year of preschool (this last year) he was at the top of his class. His teacher said he is definitely ready for kindergarten now.

The other reason I held him back was that i was thinking way down the road. I didnt want him to graduate at 17.

Answer 17

School is there for the children to learn not to be immature? Also the gates would probably be locked So no way for him to get out, First years of primary school are also a little fun, Theres not that much learning and when there is, its normaly put into games..

So i think he will be Ok.

Answer 18

Oh golly it will be fine! Mine was barely out of nappies when they started and they are cool....the teachers know what 4 and 5 year olds are like! They have seen it all! If you are really worried just warn the teacher that your son is a bit of a wanderer....then they will keep an extra eye on him.

Answer 19

I am a teacher and trust me students all vary.  Your son will learn structure that is needed in the classroom I would say to put him in school and perhaps he may need two years of preschool or maybe not.  Also, it would be pretty impossible for the student to just wonder away adult supervision is everywhere!!!