Is my subconscious out to get me!?

Question

i had a dream, where I asked out a girl I'm completely crazy about. I couldn't ask her out in real life because I was scared, but in this dream, there wasn't any fear at all, it was all so comfortable and it just felt right and I asked her out (it was a lucid dream where I was semi in control of myself) and then...she said no. It didn't turn into a nightmare or anything, it still had that comfortable, right feeling about the whole thing, and yet, when I woke up, I realized what had actually happened. Now could someone please tell me why the h**l my dreams, which are MINE alone, can't even have her say yes?? What does that mean if my freaking subconscious doesn't even think I have a chance? Not so much asking about the girl but what does this mean, am I secretly self loathing? Do I have some sort of masochistic nature that's been hidden for all this time? Any ideas, anyone?

Answer 1

I believe, even though it was a lucid dream, you had no effect on your crush's answer..because, possibly your subconcious was trying to make you feel calm, make you unafraid. It probably transformed that fear of being rejected into the form of the girl.

You weren't afraid also, because you were partially IN CONTROL. That fear of being rejected came out in the dream by her saying "No." It felt right most likely due to the fact you had the guts to ask her out, and even though you were rejected, there is a hope that later on, she will accept.

You can only act, then wait and see. Don't hesitate, just act. Then you'll see the real reaction. It might be totally different from the dream!

Answer 2

I don't think your subconscious is out to get u. no

Try reading the book Creative Dreaming by Patricia Garfield, it will tell you about lucid dreaming and about training yourself to be a skilled lucid dreamer

http://www.amazon.com/Creative-Dreaming-...

Answer 3

I think it may be because in the back of your head, you're still afraid she may say no when you DO ask her out. That's why you're afraid in real life as well.

It's all subliminal c**p.

Answer 4

i think maybe you are not hopeful about the situation (in real life) and that is what is causing these dreams. Dreams cannot be changed to your liking it is like watching a movie only you cant rewind, pause or fast forward it