Is my teacher aloud to do this to me?

Question

Ok so today my form tutor said i had a connextions meeting ( never ever had one before so didn't know what it was) she told me the time and i was in a blank i think because i couldn't remember what she said. So i thought she said 1:15 but she actually said 10:15. Break and lunch went thinking i would be ok with my meeting later on in the day, but then in form time my tutor said how did your meeting go and i was like what? And she said it again and i said what no i haven't been to it i've got mixed up with the times. She said your telling me that there was someone waiting for you and you didn't go. I replied yes. And then she went on and on about this shouting straight at me saying basically how i can't just ignore things like that when i knew i couldn't and i didn't just ignore it! I GOT MIXED UP WITH THE TIMES!! I almost started to flammin cry and she is well known for making students cry! One of the guys in our form almost started laughing but the rest remained silent. She then said

Answer 1

to the person named "oy vey"...you're are very rude, you don't even know this girl how dare you jump to conclusions like that, you're not much better than her teacher for goodness sake! Some people happen to have a bit more trouble with spelling and typing...

Anyway, hun i'm so sorry to hear about what this teacher did. I used to get this a lot, for no reason at all from my teachers too. She was wrong to start yelling at you like that, and should have listened to your explanation rather than flipping out at you in front of the class. Teachers are supposed tolisten to their students which it seems is something she is not very good at...

I'd suggest going to her after class, when she's calm, and politely explain to her what happened, that you had a lot on your mind and got the times mixed up and that you won't make that mistake again.

If she gives you further trouble about this, maybe you should speak to your mom or guardian about this and they could have a word with her.

She is stressed, which is understandable, but it's not an excuse to take her anger out on you...

I agree with what someone above said, if you were my daughter i would definitely not put up with this behaviour from your teacher.

good luck hun, i hope it works out for you :)

Answer 2

Lesson No 1 - Repeat any messages so that you have heard it correctly.

Lesson No 2 - Put the teacher's remarks down to experience.  It's the real world and you are not a child.

Lesson No 3 - Don't let it happen again for your sake.

Answer 3

you should tell your mum if she made you feel this bad, and dont listen to the other idiots on here talking about your spelling, they should understand that your spelling isnt the problem,

Tell your mum or another teacher you can trust,

Good luck hunny x

Answer 4

yes she can do that but you are always going to get teachers like that so you will just have to get on with it and laugh about it.

Also you didnt miss much with the connextions interview...complete waste of time.

Answer 5

first of all, she can not. and that would be ***** day someone yelled at me, i woudl yell right back. i would tell my parents and i would call the school board.

Next time tyou have a meeting with her you shoudl start tape recording teh conversations without her knowing it this way if it happends again you have proof she yelled at you and that alone could get her fired. if you catch her acting liek that on tape you could go to the media and really start soemthing :D

Answer 6

Judging by your spelling, grammar and punctuation, your teachers have not been nearly strict enough with you!

Answer 7

depends on what grade your in but if i wer you i would be like **** you and leave for the day. what are they going to do. they cant do nothing but just think bad at you. when i was in like grade 7-8 i would just leave school when i was in the office getting yelled at. they physically cannot do anything. the only thing they can do is yell but if your mad and dont care just leave go spend the day at home and de-stress yourself and just chill + you get the benifit of everyone thinking your badass :D

Answer 8

You could and should have asked her what a Connexions meeting was. You also could and should have checked back the time with her to ensure that there was understanding. You also could and should have made a note of the time.

You are young, but these are basic skills which you are going to need in the world of work at the beginning of the 21st Century.

However, there is a simple one, which you can use when you discuss this matter with her. Ask her, "How do you think that made me feel?". This is what is known as an open question, which cannot be avoided with just a yes or no, but forces the person to give a fuller response.

Answer 9

get a new tutor...........

Answer 10

What a cow. I think sometimes teachers like to be teachers just so they can boss people who can't defend themselves because of their position and it makes them feel better because blaitently they would never shout at another adult in fear of them shouting back, funny that? Can you imagine the scrawny doctor shouting, "WHY THE h**l WEREN'T YOU THERE FOR YOUR APPOINTMENT" at Mike Tyson?

EDIT - The Connexions meeting is pointless anyway. They seem to think we are clueless in what we want to do for the future. That is all it's about, the future.

Answer 11

Oh, my God, SUCK IT UP!!!!

Answer 12

No, she cannot just yell at you like that in front of everyone. Not for something so trivial, especially when you had already explained it was a simple mix up with the times. I would speak to your head of year about it. Explain that she really upset you; it isn't on at all for a teacher to behave like that.

Connexions give career advice, and you being in year 9 I guess it's probably to do with what subjects you'd choose for your GCSEs. Your tutor should have explained it to you.

Answer 13

To all those people who said "your spelling and grammar..." Blah Blah Blah...this aint school work we are on an interent site...big wup if I say  u r instead of You Are....it aint like its gonna be marked so....

I think your teacher was far too strict on you and you should get your Mum in..if she had to have a go at you she should have at least done it in private where no one could listen in

Good Luck ...x

Answer 14

nope

Answer 15

I think you should tell your parents.Then they can talk to your tutor. It's so not your fault.You made an honest mistake.

She had a right to yell at you but she should of let you tell your side of the story.Next make sure that you get the times correct and listen carefully.

Answer 16

If you knew that you got mixed up with the times and didn't bother to call or go by or anything then yes you deserved the lecture.

But if you realized your mistake when she brought it up then no.

Next time write it down and say it back to her to see if you were correct in writing down what you did.

I understand why she was upset about you not going, because I had a parent that was supposed to come into a meeting with me so we could talk about the child's improvements. Well she never showed up, and I never even got a call from her saying that she was gonna be late or not come. I could have told you a million things that I could have done other than waiting for her to show up. She later called me that afternoon and said that she forgot about it and then told me that she wanted to reschedule. Even if I wanted to I couldn't so I told her that I would just write a letter and send it home with her child. Get this she actually got mad at me because I couldn't reschedule with her.

Answer 17

Well, honestly, you should have confirmed the time with her.  It's a good habit to repeat the time back to someone when an important meeting is involved.

Hopefully this taught you a life lesson.

BTW..."Is my teacher ALLOWED to do this to me?"  

APOLOGIZE...jeez.

Work on your grammar.

Edit**If you want to be taken seriously then learn how to form a sentence!

You're gibberish is ridiculous.

You think we're picking on you, but our point is that you need to take a look at what you are putting down on paper and see that no teacher, boss, or any employer will take you seriously.

As for typing quickly,  I type around 60 words per minute and in no way shape and or form do I ever type in gibberish so that is not an excuse.

Answer 18

Teachers can be a bit paranoid sometimes. dont worry about it

answer my question

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...

Answer 19

Your teacher was out of control, you explained what happened and that should have been it, but we obviously don't have her side of the story and until we do, it's hard to comment.

Answer 20

What ever you did or didn't do she isn't very professional if you needed to be told off then she should have done it after class when no other people were around and not make you feel inferior and embarrassed.  As for getting you times mixed up get your self a diary and write things like appointments in  it. By the way your spelling is awful and you should use spell check and next time perhaps you will remember the correct spelling.

Answer 21

Hmm. Just give It time she'd get over it.

Good Luck.

And I think it was okay for her too tell you off, but not that hard.

We are humans, we all make mistakes.

For next time make sure you right your times and date's in your planner / diary.

Answer 22

speak to ur parents and get them to phone the head teacher first thing in the morning and make sure a complaint is logged !! i know wen i was at skool if someone spoke to me like that be it a teacher or a pupil they wud have got a right gobful back !!

my tutor happend to be married to my cousins wifes brother..( confussion) so she some how thought she could be even ruder to me as she knew my parents she would always say " i will phone your dad " so one day i got out my mobile phoned my dad and said claire wants to speak to you dad and waved my phone in her face...she didnt do it again !!!

Answer 23

I guess she was a bit tough, but  by the sound of it she's the one that suffered most and  life is tough so don't worry much about this, go and apologize and all will be well :)

Btw " i would of allready "  should HAVE been "I would HAVE already"

that 'of' is a real bad error as it means nothing at all. It's the verb TO HAVE you are using, not "of". I WOULD HAVE. lol.

Answer 24

1. She is allowed to.

2. It is the end of term and everyone is tired and stressed - please take the feelings of your teacher into account as well

3.  Please talk to her about how she made you feel, tomorrow, or the next day, but before summer starts - she probably feels bad, give her a chance to apologise

4. a connexions meeting is a meeting with an external (connexions) adviser about careers and options.

Answer 25

No she isn't and she sounds like a right Cow - too many teachers think they can behave how they want and no one will do anything about it - you could speak to her when you calm down and say 'Sorry for not attending but it was a genuine mistake and I'm disappointed you didn't give me chance to say so' or speak to your Mum, if you were my Daughter I'd give her what for - she's supposed to set an example for goodness sake!

Answer 26

connextions meeting is bascially where you go to sit with someone to discuss your future, like college or uni whatever you want and they basically point you in the right direction for whatever you want to do. If it was a simply mistake then she shouldnt have spoken to you like that, but she proberly was annoyed as she expected someone like you to have gone to the meeting and proberly thought it was an excuse. Just ignore it and move on, you can rearrange this meeting and if the school wont then you can do it. Just type in conextions into google and go to there website.

Answer 27

ignore what people on here are saying they have no right to moan about your grammer, puntuation, spelling! there all lab rats who have no right to judge you. to be honest a teacher only wants whats best for its pupil, but has no right to be little you or manipulate you or a situation. and not aloud to scream at you in front of the whole class, as this is classed as abuse. its not the end of the world you missed a meeting, i bet this has happened to them many of times, get your parents to speak to the head teacher about the teachers bahaviour

Answer 28

Well maybe you should learn to listen. "blanking" out is no excuse. You knew she was talking to you, you should have paid attention.

And a suggestion, you may want to learn to listen more in your english/grammar classes, cause I had a h**l of a time trying to follow what you were trying to say.

She shouldn't have yelled at you in front of everyone, but maybe next time you'll learn to listen.

Answer 29

Although it was a bit cruel of her, you have to remember that teachers are people too with emotions of their own. Imagine if you were her, you'd had a really hard day and then when you saw one of your nice quiet pupils you thought you'd comfort yourself by asking how a meet you'd arranged had gone and telling yourself you were doing good things for some pupils futures, then she tells you that she didn't go to the appoinment because she wasn't listening (ok, I know it wasn't exactly like that but that's probably what she heard from the excuse).

My dad's a teacher and sometimes when I come home upset after a teacher had a go at me for a little and I say what happens, he  explains that sometimes teachers have been bottling up their anger from pupils that mess loads around all morning and then one pupil who doesn't do much wrong can set it all off. He says he does it all the time, but once he's accidentally yelled at someone, he'll apologise if it wasn't necessary. Sometimes its like a big bomb of anger built up and all it needs is a little spark to set it off in the wrong place Your teacher probably didn't mean to blow her top, apologise to her and she should understand.

BTW Connexions is like a meeting to choose what exams you are going to take for future job ideas.

Answer 30

Allowed.

Answer 31

Uhm yeh she really didnt even do nothing go  cry me a river