Is my wedding date too far away?

Question

My soulmate proposed to me on my 21st birthday in july 2007. But I didn't tell anyone until I was ready which is recently in august 2008. So we have started making some plans and I decided march 7, 2010 for our wedding day. It will be on the day of our 4th anniversary and its in perfect numerology for us (7 my number, 10 his etc), and its on our favorite day, sunday. I think its perfect. I will be near 24 him 25, it will be enough time to enjoy making plans and get our moneys in order, purchase a home etc.(we do not live together) But he thinks it should be sooner. But will leave it to me to decide. Am I right in my decisions to wait til 2010?

Answer 1

Its not too far away. U both a lot of planning to do ahead of yourself and time flies.  

Answer 2

I hate to tell you this ,but money will always be an issue. The house? It can be purchased for even cheaper NOW than that far in the future. i like the idea of the numerology, but no matter what, you will be stresesd by the time the wedding comes. They say the perfect amoutn of time is 8 months-1 year. Over that and you start pushing the envelope of dealing with the stress of hte wedding on the relationship for too long...that overplanning will take control and it will strain the relationship.

I think by the time the wedding happens, you will be so tired of planning it it wil lbe difficult to enjoy.  

Answer 3

I think its perfect and its never too long to wait.  Just more time to save and plan!

Answer 4

Whatever works for you.  personally, I dont see a point to engagements longer then a year as I figure you shouldnt get engaged unless you ar ready to start planning a wedding (my engagement was 5 months) however, you have already waited over a year so whats a few more I guess.

Answer 5

Theres No Harm In Waiting That Long. Gives You More Time To Make It Perfect.

My Wedding Date Isn't Until March 10th, 2012.

My Fiance & I Want To Get Married On Our Anniversary & Thats The Next Time It's On A Saturday.

That Will Be Our 9th Anniversary.

If You Feel That March 7th Is Your Perfect Date, Go For It.

You'll Have That Extra Time To Make It Everything You Ever Wanted For Your Perfect Wedding Date.

Congrats & Good Luck.

Answer 6

yes. i think its too long. its nice that the date has so much meaning to you... but realize that nothing is perfect. i year from now is not to long. i think summer/fall of 09 would be the latest i would want to try planning. i have been planning for 6 months and my fiance is so sick of the word "wedding." just think...two years of it.  i promise, once you get knee deep in planning, going to bridal shows, and trying on dresses, you will want it to be soon! good luck!

Answer 7

That's less than 2 year away.  I don't think it's too far, especially since 2009 is going to be here in only a few short months.   So, really, your wedding is in 1 year, 6 months. That's not that far at all.  Plus, since it's so late in 2008, anyone who gets engaged between now and next summer, will probably be planning for 2010.

Answer 8

No, I think 1 year 6 months is OK.  I got engaged two weeks ago and whenever people asked about the date, my fiance would say "it will be a while, at least two years...".  It sort of embarrass me even though I don't want to be married in a year.  We haven't really talked about a tentative date up to now, and it makes me anxious already as I think we need to have a plan.  I think that's great that your fiance wants to move the date up but don't do it if you are not ready to.

Answer 9

No it's not to far away. It's only too far away if you believe it's to far away. I happen to know many people who have been engaged and have been engaged for like 4 years. So nothing is to long and like I said before it's only to long if you believe it's to long.

Congrats on getting engaged. It will be a beautiful day for the both of you.

Answer 10

I don't think it's too long at all.  I planned my wedding 18 months after my fiance' proposed and our wedding is Sunday!  You'll be glad you had the time to plan.  Also during this time you and your fiance' should go see a premarital counselor.  Although he's your soulmate, if you've never been married a counselor can help you find ways to communicate about issues that come up with married couples.  It's totally different from when your dating or engaged.  Take your time!

Answer 11

My Husband and I got engaged in March of 2007 and got married August 2008 it took us 17 months to plan everything and it still rushed up on us too fast! from now until you are planning is not much further than that! especially if you are having a big wedding or are a do it yourself bride...you are going to need the time to pull everything off with your sanity intact! also getting your money in order now is going to help. the number 1 marital argument is over money and money is cited as the number 1 cause of divorce! (plus your wedding is going to cost more than you anticipated you are always going to be picking up this or ordering that. long story short. no I don't think it's too far away but you should ask your fiance why he wants to move it up? and be open minded about it. after all he has already been waiting over a year and he might have a legitimate concern or thought that you overlooked in your excitement!

Answer 12

No, its not too long.  You have reasons.  You feel that it would be the perfect day.  Don't ruin all that because you or he may be impatient.  My fiance is wanting our wedding to be tomorrow.  We don't live with each other either.  It is hard to wait, but you want that.  He should respect your desire for it to be on that day.  You only get one of these...make it exactly how you want it!!

Answer 13

if your going to wait that long whats the point

Answer 14

I would aim for 2009. Why prolong starting a life together? It seems to me like you have commitment issues, and that will harm your relationship, if it hasn't already. You've been engaged since 2007, you weren't ready to be official until 2008, and you aren't ready to get married until 2010. Do you see a trend starting?

Answer 15

Well, you seem to have an ok reason for wanting to wait but how do you think your fiance feels? He wants to marry you as soon as he can and you're not interested. He might start feeling like you have commitment issues if you don't negotiate a closer date. I know I would feel that way if I were him.

Answer 16

Yeah, it's too far away in my opinion, although I do respect your reasons for waiting. I think the latest you should go is fall 09. You'll drive yourself (and your fiance!!) crazy if you plan for that long. But it really is up to you. There is no specific time line, and this definitely isn't something you want to rush into. So it's really up to you and your man!

Answer 17

i think your wedding date could ever be too far away... all the planning would stress you out if you had it at a sooner time... do the research for everything now so you will be set for the future wedding plans... i think its a great date for you especially if you want to get a house together and get everything settles before the wedding... plus waiting longer would only make it more exciting when it finally comes... hope i helped...