Is not having any friends ok?

Question

I have never fit in school throughout my whole life..practically since kindergarten.I have had a couple people who I thought were my "friends" but they really werent true friends.I have been bullied and left out so mant times that i'm used to nat having any friends.Now I'm starting an all girls high school and my parents want me to make friends but quite honestly I really don't want any.I grew up not having any,so why should I start now?My parents took me to therapy but all they say is "try and open yourself up to people... blah blah blah".My mom even said that the only reason she got me a phone was so that I could talk and text all my new friends at school and that if I don't make any said she take the phone away!So my question is am I just overreacting?Or should I try and make friends even though I dont want any?

Answer 1

your a shy, and have gone through h**l and back. I understand. Look up a band called ICP, or insane clown posse.  Something tells me you belong with us. I understand how you feel, Just look it up, and see the world as it is.

here' a link,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50Yzb2WyU...

And I'll be d**n glad to be your friend.

Become a juggalo. And yes you need friends.

Answer 2

YOU NEED FRIENDS. if you don't want any, then your whole life will be spent by yourself. which would suck. you aren't gunna get a better social life sitting around talking about how you don't have friends. you get a better social life by going out and making them. it sounds like the other girls would be your friends. I'm sure if you gave other people a chance you would learn that it's harder to survive without them. =]

Answer 3

FIrst off, I do not agree with Steve C. (the first person to answer). Having a lot of friends is not bad or harmful in anyway. I have a lot of friends and they are different, but the main thing is I can be myself around them.

To answer your question I must say I think you do need some friends. =3 Do you ever feel like you want to tell someone something, or there is something ticking you off so badly that you need to let it out? That is where a friend would come in. You don't want to just burst because of all these feelings.

If you get nervous around groups of large people, I would try talking to another person who seems to have no friends, or a small group of girls that seem nice. Just open up, have fun, and BE YOURSELF.

Answer 4

im probably the same age as you since im starting high school

i think the reason u dont want friends, its because you never had any true ones. but i think that having someone to vent and talk to is essential.

when u start high school keep ur mind open and if someone is friendly be friendly back. im not asking u to HAVE to have friends, but iits a great feeling knowing other ppl care fore u

good luck in high school

Answer 5

Honestly I think that if you do not wish to have any friends than you do not need to make any you can't let anyone force you into doing something you don't want to do but you might just find a true friend(s) that you will want to hang out with. But no you are not overreacting sometimes it is not a good thing to make friends or get too close because they could move away soon and it will feel horrible.

Answer 6

i mean its ok but having friends is the best thing!! and i go to an all girl high school and it such a good thing!! its like a close family so there almsot like ur siblings youll meet ppl!!

and if you need someone to talk to u can always talk to me hahah!

Answer 7

been in your shoes and still em and i'm a college student soo lol.Look if you feel ok about yourself not having friends,theirs absolutely nothing wrong with that.And you know what,were doing our best to make friends.If ppl out their suck...well what more can we do?

Answer 8

You do want friends or else you wouldn't have to ask  yourself or us these questions. Make friends.

Answer 9

you will be fine without any just make sure you at least have a great family

Answer 10

yes but can i be your friend?[e-mail] or you can not have a cell phone

Answer 11

I'd be honored to be your friend.   Honestly, the people with lots of friends are shallow and not deep.  The best thing is to have a few close friends that are loyal and sincere.

Answer 12

Hi Hon i was just like you did not have any  friends at all in grade school and maybe 1or 2 in high school it was not in till after high school I met my 3 best friends so i   how you feel and its going to be hard for you at this new school and you can not always trust the ppl u want to and ppl will stab you in the back but their is a few ppl u can trust and you  will weather it be after high school or when ever but in the mean time just be you and keep in mind girls are real catty and that they usually are jealous of you so this is why they this way.It is hard but make just one or 2 friend if you can if I can do this you can.I know that we do not know each other and you do not have to believe a word I say or have to trust me but you will make friends it is hard but  you and let them see you for you good luck sweetie and if you ever need to talk or anything just e mail me if you want god bless you.

Answer 13

Its fine if you dont want any friends! Some people just like their own company! If you feel like you want to make friends go to things that interest you, like if you like reading, go to a book club at school, or dancing. If theres something you like but they don't have it at school ask a teacher to set something up!

Good luck!

Answer 14

I had few friends in high school too, but if you dont want friends it's ok.But in some cases it's ok to open youself up to new things and new people.

Answer 15

Your mom needs to get a grip. She's far more anxious about this than you are. You're fine! And you will have friends whenever you find the right people. You're discriminating, which is fine.

Answer 16

If your enjoying your life so far then who cares. You will make friends when you least expect it and if your happy with yourself now then go with it. I know plenty of people with tons of friends who are miserable.

Answer 17

You might be the type of person who does better or is happier with one good friend rather than several friends.  I'm the same way.  I have a hard time opening up to just anyone.  You are at a time in your life that you don't want any friends.  If you are okay with that, that is okay for now but there will be a time in your life when you will want to have someone special in your life and you will want to know how to find that person and open up.   Start by just saying a few more words to certain girls (or boys) in your class who seem nice and just making acquaintances and then class friends. You don't have to go to their house or anything. If conversing with people is difficult, work on that. If you have class friends but youd don't find anyone you care to hang out with, that is different.  The time will eventually come.  Some people are more introverted (like to be alone).  If you want to make friends deep down inside and don't know how, seek out the nice kids and start talking to one of them and sit by them.