Is preschool better than when a mother stays home and raises her children?

Question

Are preschool children whose mothers return to work and leave them in childcare/preschool develop better than those whose mothers stay at home and raise them? why?

or is it the other way around?

can i please have bother sides, those who agree and their reasons, and those who object and their reasons.

i'm conducting a survey for school, so thanks for your help!

Answer 1

i never went to any child care facilities and/or preschool. i went straight to kindergarten, and although i think that helps build a strong bond with parents, it is a social mistake. i have also been very reserved and shy and i  believe it to be because i had no social interaction with other children until i was 6. i dont think it would hold a child back intellegence wise, because i did well in school for the most part, but throwing a kid into a massive social situation alone for the first time at the age of 6 could cause the child to be self-conscience and uncomfortable.

Answer 2

I'm a stay at home mom although I am sending my children to preschool for 2 years each, just 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. I've personally feel that my children are more advanced than some their age with parents that both work although I think that it has a lot to do with how much time you work with them. Obviously staying at home we spend time every day working on things such as colors, numbers, songs, crafts etc. but when parents work I don't know that they have near as much time to do these things. Another benifit are my children don't seem to get sick near as often as those who go to a daycare or babysitter. I've also noticed that my children are very shy compared to other children their age. I would definitely say both sides have their pros and cons. I love being a stay at home mom and wouldn't have it any other way but sometimes in todays world it is impossible to do financially. So in my opinion staying at home is definitely the way to go if you can do it!  Best of luck to you with your project!

Answer 3

i think if a mother chooses to stay home with her child that is great for the kid IF she is going to teach she baby things and set a  routine for the child, that is the only way i think i would be good. if the mom is not going to make rules and teach her child things the i think it would be better for the kid to be in preschool or daycare so he or she can learn. it also important for a child to play with other kids so if the mom stays home she should think about Sunday school or other little things the child can do with out her sometimes.

Answer 4

First, I think kids can grow up great, no matter which environment; however, I think it is best when the mom is able to stay home with the kids.  Now this is said with the assumption that when the kids and mom are at home they are spending time together and mom isn't in one room and the kids glued to the TV or computer (but that does not mean 100% eather - just good quality time).  I also feel that the more the dad is home the better, also.  

I had a friend, many years ago, whose daughter spent most of her time in pre-school, etc, while she worked.  So time wise, she spent way more time with others, but the way she talked and her mannerisms were all her mom.  Lots of influence even though she worked.

I believe the main thing is that younger kids especially receive lots of love and know that they are loved and encouraged.  It is the nurturing that, I believe, is the key.

Answer 5

It depends on both the parent and the child.  Some kids do great staying at home, others do great in school.  Some parents are better parents at home, others are better parents working (with high quality schools).  

There is no right answer.   I thought I'd stay at home (luckily I had that choice), but I found myself getting really depressed.  I found an outstanding school, and our family is doing great.  

Many stay-at-home parents do still opt for some sort of preschool, even if it's only 3 hours for 2 days a week.  Kindergarten had changed dramatically over the past 10 - 15 years.  Kindergarteners now often get tested to get into school, and usually learn reading and writing immediatly.  So some preschool can be a benefit, but it really depends on the situation.  Every situation is different.

Answer 6

my daughter went to pre-school but I was a stay at home mom

I don't see how one has anything to do with the other

you must be thinking of day-care

Answer 7

I believe in balance.  The other day, a stay at home mother told me my 3 year old was very smart and very mature (for her age), and that she thought she was 5 years of age (she is tall, too).  Her next question was - is she in preschool?  Her children were delightful, but shy and reserved and very "babyish" as they played with toys and other children.

My daughter goes to preschool 2 or 3 days a week, all day.  She has had to learn to listen to other adults, with whom she cannot throw a fit or get her own way.  She has several friends who she plays with - a clique, if you will (already!) and she has meals with them, naps, and plays all day.  At home, she would be playing all day, too - but with one adult.  

I am a huge advocate of women staying home with their children - I believe it is the most natural thing, rather than trying to balance a job and a home life, which I do not believe is the way it was intended to be.  But, I do also believe that children need space to play, and friends their age, and they also need to learn how to mind their manners and other people of authority.

Just a little insight, hope it helps.

Answer 8

No. What's always best is when the mother raises the children rather than someone else. That's her (the mother) children and no one elses. If I was to have a child, I would not want some stranger raising my kid.

Answer 9

I think a good combination is best.  Children need to learn how to interact with other children AND learn how to adjust to interacting with other adults besides the parents.  They also need to learn how to grow independently from the parents.

At the same time, preschool is not the only way to do this.  There are many ways parents can help develop these in children.  

Like with any either/or question, it's all about balance.

Matt

Answer 10

I neither agree nor object, I am merely stating an opinion.

I grew up when there was no kindergarten (today they call it pre-school)(and they are even thinking about a pre-school now to the pre-school).  My mother watched me, I didn't learn much, just my ABC's and numbers, but it was still part of my formative years (the years you need with your child), and during that time I watched my mother cook, clean house, wash clothes, iron, washing windows, cleaning walls, learning to do small tasks, etc. even though I was only doing "learning books" myself (books that taught me things like putting pegs in holes, learning colors, coloring wihin the boarders, playing with wallpaper cleaner which is better known as playdough today, drawing, learning the clock, learning the names of cars (memorizong), the same as we did each summer when we went to grandma's house for several weeks on vacation where we learned about the farm (animals, feeding and cleaning them) and getting to know our grandparents and family.  And, once I started into school I was taught by the strict nuns who insisted on us learning english and math skils.

Today young people have answered my Q&A questions about school saying that they didn't get the basics, nor learned early enough how to study, and that they didn't know their family because their parents divorced when they were in their formative years, and the result was that they either never finished high school because learning was too difficult, because they were too hurt emotionally by the divorce, or because they got into trouble and had to quit.

My opinion is that if a woman can find a way to give to her child her full attention up until the child's age 9 or 10 then there would be a large difference in the attitude, emotions and the way our children grow up and progress into life.

I'm in the career of real estate, and with all the foreclosures now I understand that people want homes and both the wife and husband are working toward their dream.  But what about the dream of the child?  Why do the parents have to buy a home that's so expensive that it cancels out their child?  When those parents were small were they left to kindergarten, babysitters, and put on someone else's shoulders to raise, and did that happen to those parents because there was war and only one breadwinner?  

I see why it's not a good thing for children, but I also see a single breadwinenr at home, and I don't have a solution.  Maybe the creative parents can come up with one so that they can be with their children more in their formative years.

Answer 11

Staying with mom. That's how i was. Staying home  they'll learn faster with their mother teaching. At preschool,who knows what kind of kid is he/she's going to be like.

Answer 12

children must be sent to preschool, because this is a new era, not like b4. children will learn more things, faster, and can mix around with new friends if u send them to preschool. all i wanna say is, it will prepare themselves for the coming school life.

if u keep ur children at home, and u teach them. well, u r a good mom if u can do so. but in my opinion, ur children will have to takes time to adjust themselves in school later on, and it is not that good when every1 alrd started to suit the society, but ur children are left behind.

working mom today is normal, coz we need money, more money for a better life, and also for their children to have a better future, can go to a great school and get a good tutor to guild their children.

therefore, working mom who leave their children in preschool or childcare is good for the children.

Answer 13

One thing a mother can give a child that no one else can is unconditional LOVE. No matter how good a babysitter or daycare workers are..the love they might offer doesnt compare to a mother's love! When the child enter's preschool having been loved and reared by mom's love, they are more ready to take on the world! :) Good luck!

Answer 14

There is a difference between childcare and pre-school. Children adapt to either choices. I always worked and I had a sitter come to my home. I was able to have the same one until they were ready for pre-school or school. My oldest son , after he turned 3 or so was bored home alone, so we sent him to a day-care center 2-3 days a week so he could play with other children.(even though I also had a sitter at home for my other son) My second child was more of an introvert, and had a friend next door , so they played together most days, and he was cared for by the sitter untill he started primary school - there was no public kindergarten then. he never really liked the atmosphere in a day care - there was too much going on. My sitter had to quit when my daughter was around 3 - she went to a daycare center for about 2 years until she started school. She was a very social child and loved going to daycare.

Now all 3 are grown up. They all went to university, they are all on their own, none of them did drugs (that I know of) or went to jail, and they all seem to be happy. I think that both types of childcare have their place if the well-being of the child is the first consideration. Unfortunately, not all parents have a choice. You have to put food on the table.

Answer 15

Pre school prepares children for kindergarten.  Which with the way they teach today, it is almost really necessary for the child to go.  But, I prefer them to stay home with Mom.