Is prevention of unprotected s*x the sole responsibility of the male ?

Question

Is that because of a womans last word on abortion or child birth because it is her body and somehow the sperm does not belong to the man it just slipped in by accident!!!!

Answer 1

no, and how can something not belong "to the man" and how the h**l does "it just slip in"?!?!?!?!?

Answer 2

Its both parties responsibility.

Its irrelevant if the law have a double standard in which the woman can bail out of the responsibility and the man cannot.

Answer 3

The reality of it is :"If you risk having s*x at all you risk a pregnancy happening". The responsibility is with BOTH parties and if both parties are not willing to accept that s*x, even protected can cause pregnancy, then you should not be having s*x in the first place. You are right, it is the woman's choice to have the child, but it was also the man's choice to take the risk and have s*x-knowing that abstinence is the only way not to get pregnant.

Answer 4

This has been asked many times, and I've got answers deleted for this.

Anyway, I'll say the same thing. No, it is not the male alone. It is shared responsibility. People say men should by a rubber or have a vasectomy before having fun. Well, women can see that the man or she has got one, or she can have a tubectomy.

People say men must know the woman's stand on abortion before having s*x with her to avoid being shattered. Well, the same can be said of the woman.

Somehow, we must do all the work. And when we decide it is too much hassle and don't marry, we're afraid of commitment. All an intricate web woven by feminists to plunge men into a dark world of emotional torture.

Answer 5

Well, considering that the only method that prevents transmission of STDs is a condom that goes on his body, the man certainly bears a lot of the responsibility for making sure the glove is on.

A woman should always use a back-up method for preventing pregnancy, should the condom rip, but when it comes to STDs, the balls (so to speak) are in his court.

Edit: "Please tell us why the poor guy has no say in the decesion to abort or give birth in this situation."

Because, for the 9,678th time on these boards, pregnancy is risky and painful, and no one can force another person into making choices with her body she doesn't want. Do you think your wife should be able to either force you or stop you from having a vasectomy?

Answer 6

you obviously haven't any experience with pregnant women, otherwise you would understand that there is a very real incentive for the woman to use contraception

if the government stopped handing out free houses to teenage mums there would be less of a problem

it's kind of interesting that men here support unequal reproductive rights (to make it more favourable for men) but probably aren't in favour of say women having lower fitness tests to join the army. both are potential solutions to combat the unequalness in biology

Answer 7

I believe its both people's responsibility but in Reality it boils down to the woman carrying the baby. You should have pulled out.

Answer 8

any woman who likes to fool around may want to keep a condom in her purse so her man can't use the excuse "I don't have one" but the man should either have one readily accessable or be willing to stop at the store

Answer 9

If what you say is true, then you should be saying it's the women's responsibility ;-)

Everyone should play safe but when accidents happen it's the person's body who will have to give birth to it etc that has teh decision.

Talk to our partner BEFORE you drop your pants, that should help.

I think somehow that if you had to squeeze a baby through your p***s and have risk of death, piles, incontinence and lose your libido you would think differently....

EDIT: Lol I take it the questioner doesn't have much experience in s*x, if your just slips out I'd go see a gyno mate...

Answer 10

LORD LOOK it's BOTH people OK.

I made a MISTAKE OK. he left he wants NOTHING to do with her OK. I raise her on my own NO SUPPORT it was MY FAULT I got pregnant. I am doing it alone no family support no child support what more do you want? he pays NOTHING ZERO NOT A THING. I don't ask him for anything.

YES a Man should have a say. but lets not forget accidents happen sometimes TRUE accidents happen.

People if you don't want to get pregnant. protect yourself. TRUST NO ONE. trust yourself ONLY.

EDIT: He DID have a say he wanted me to abort i said NO. had my baby he is NOT paying for it alone. I AM.

YES YES YES a Man should have a say and if he doesn't want to be there don't force him. but then do NOT come here and complain about single mothers. YOU CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS. but if wants to be there let him talk it over before you go to far. but DO NOT JUDGE anyone for making the final outcome it's a hard decision and a life changing decision. I DID NOT regret it once.

EDIT 2 I would also like to point out that there are LOTS of single mothers out there in THE REAL WORLD. taking care of their kids ALONE. but all you hear about is the bad side of single moms you never hear the good stories only the bad ones. there are LOTS of good single moms who are good parents. YES there are some who hurt men but NOT ALL do.

I would also like to point out that there are LOTS of great single dads out there working their butts off also. just to be fair.

Answer 11

Well ,being that there are ( I believe 12) many forms of female contraception and males have just one, I'd assume someone thinks it's her resposibility too.

My belief is that a woman who uses no birth control and counts soley on the mans condom, wants, even hopes to get pregnant.

Answer 12

The guy does not pay for this alone - but a male does have control the use of a condom.      I think its almost impossible to put the sperm back once its ejaculated.

Answer 13

Since the generally accepted modern definition of "unprotected s*x" is "without out a condom" then yes, the ball would seem to be in your court.  If you are merely speaking of pregnancy prevention, then the responsibility is with the woman.

If everyone would just TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES these things are not that complicated.

Men:  Guard your health, your bachelorhood, your finances- and wear a condom.

Women:  Protect yourself and your future- Insist he use a condom, and use a second method of birth control.

Answer 14

It should be a responsibility of both people involved.  I don't think, necessarily, the woman has the last say in what happens with the pregnancy.  Unless, of course, the guy isn't involving himself or is denying the pregnancy.  Then, it's all about her and what she wants for herself, her future and for the child in question.

Answer 15

to answer your question:  no.  i don't think any woman would rather go through the cost and heartache of an abortion when they could instead use a condom.

Answer 16

Both partners need to be responsible. They both should go into the act knowing what can happen...and therefore be ready to face the aftermath. I think the man should be able to voice his opinion in the matters of abortion. I feel the two should come to a compromising decision. At the end of the day the women will most likely do what she feels is best for her. Do I think this is all ways right no because I know great singles dads that raise their kids if the mom doesn't want the child but the father does could that be an option that she gives sole custody to the dad maybe. It is very hard because i know alot of situations like this in the and it never gets easier.

Answer 17

It is the responsibility of both party or either party who doesn't want to take that risk. It takes two to tango.

Answer 18

It SHOULD be the responsibility both partners, but all too often the man is somehow "expected" to carry out that responsibility on his own and if anything happens, it's HIS fault for being irresponsible and not using safe s*x even though the woman is clearly capable of carrying out those safe s*x practices as well. There are so many ways of female contraception but people still act like contraception should be the man's duty only.

Answer 19

HUH? lol how does spirm accidentaly slip in lol never mind i know a girl who thought she wuz pregnant and didn't even have s*x so idk! sorry i don't fully ge the question...

Answer 20

No it is the responsibility of both Male and Female

Answer 21

Yawn....

There are a million ways to spin this question, but the bottom line is this:

If preventing pregnancy is important to YOU, then YOU are responsible for using an effective method of contraception designed for YOUR body.

Answer 22

That responsibility lies on BOTH people involved. If a woman gets pregnant it is just as much her "fault" (depending on how you look at it), as it is her partners.

Answer 23

It's the responsibility of both who participate in the act. A man can say he's not going to wear protection, but the woman can stop him & say, no way, no how buddy, either you do, or this won't happen. If people were more cautious with things such as this, we wouldn't have so many at risk children.

Answer 24

No - it is the responsibility of both partners.

Answer 25

No, both people are responsible.  I would always use birth control pills when I was having s*x and unmarried.  That way I knew I was protecting myself from an unwanted pregnancy.  Condoms was for preventing pregnancy and STD's.  If I wanted to enjoy s*x with a man, I made sure that I was not getting pregnant until I was ready.

Answer 26

s*x protection is the responsibility of both man and woman, but abortion/birth is the woman's choice only. The male can't force the abortion/birth.