Is "Talking Back " and respect in general a bit taken over the top in todays society?

Question

So being a teenager people say i have the tendency of "talking back" and it is the most irritating phrase i hear. One of my parents of Teachers could be screaming at me accusing me of something or something along those lines and id i try to defend myself i am considered being disrespectful and to be talking back. But is it not common Curtisy to hear the other persons side of the story? Immagine if in a court room a prosecuter has a murder suspect up on the stand is accusing him of murder and the murder suspect tries to defend himself but is charged in contempted with "Talking Back" ( ok maybe an over the top example but at this time it seems to fit.) wouldnt that be outrageous?

I guess what im trying to say is that in todays time people take the word respect way over the top when it applies to people in general. In my opinion ( almost all of this is in my opinion....) respect is just a person view on how THEY think they should be treated.

-the end

Answer 1

same here my friend

cant really do anything bout it

Answer 2

IMO 'talking back' is more the tone of voice, body language and the way you conduct yourself....my teens are very welcome to speak their peace HOWEVER they MUST be respectful while doing so.

Answer 3

I'm from a real strict culture when it comes to respect and "talking back". I never heard of talking back to elders till I came here. I've kept that view ever since, so my reaction to little kids (teens) being fresh is irritation. "Teens" have lost perspective of respect, they now border on equality which half of the time they cannot give their share. There's a certain tone one can explain ones self. Today's teens, by the time they are done talking or rather explaining their own side of things you're just about ready to knock them out! All with the cursing in between flapping mouths with gum snapping in their jaws and the rotation of the head and clicking/ snapping of the fingers with the horrible grammer, I really don't care what their side of the story is.

Answer 4

I know young people believe that they aren't being disrespectful when defending themselves. BUT, you should let your parents/guardians, teachers, police, elder, etc finish what they have to say BEFORE you open your mouth with a rebuttle. To keep peace, let them yell, rant, and rave until they run out of breath, THEN and only then should you speak out. Adults hate when kids try to out-yell and out-argue them. This approach may not always work, but 9 times out of 10 it will.

Answer 5

Well said!

I agree it really is over the top. The thing is.. younger people are always expected to respect their elders (or people older than them) and arguing with them would be considered disrespectful since you are disagreeing with their point of view. But really, everyone has the right to defend themselves and we can't just let this whole 'respect' thing apply to adults only. Teenagers deserve it too, especially if they are standing up for what is right.

Hard to change the way people think.. teenagers will always have less authority.

Answer 6

If, when "talking back" you choose your words wisely, tactfully and in a respectful tone you would be surprised at what you can get away with saying to your elders.  Of course some of your more intelligent elders will pick up on this and be even more agitated that you are patronizing them, but who has really won in that situation?  

Some people are broken at a younger age and taught not to "talk back" and this seems to have also taught a lot of people not to speak up.  Don't let anyone break your spirit.  In my opinion people who continue to speak up are more respected and go farther in life than those who have learned not to "talk back".  Keep in mind that it is not so much what you say, as it is how you say it.

-el fin

Answer 7

problem is adults dont like to be corrected. ESPECIALLY teachers. they hate it. once i corrected the maths teacher and she went into a fit about how kids these days are so dis respectful and arrogant and snappy. when alls i said was "shouldnt it be squared not to the power of 5?" and the teacher ended up leaving the school. and turned out  i was right. :)

Answer 8

Respect goes both ways.

Make sure you must defend and consider if you are really loosing anything before you speak. People forget it is not easy being young either.

Good luck

Answer 9

I agree.

No one has my "Respect" until they earn it.

Answer 10

Maybe its just that you talk TOO DAM much, look at how much you wrote. You could have written a bibliography with that.

The end.

Answer 11

If u you talk back in a nice and sensible way, people will respect you and treat you the way u like it....but if u talk back without thinking it over, you will be treated without respect...i think thats a more humane perspective....