Is real love is without attachment?

Question

thoughts?

According to Buddhist philosophy - attachment leads to suffering. So we love a loved one and "suffer" - does that mean we attached ourselves to closely to that person?

Answer 1

When you love someone, you love them fully, and with your whole heart. You hurt when they hurt. You are sad when you're apart. You cry when you argue. Your heart breaks when they're sick, and you'll stop at nothing to heal them. Some things simply ARE. Those are the symptoms of love. When a person dies, you morn..you cry..you lose yourself. However, if you are able to realize that there is life after death, and you are able to wish your loved one a happy afterlife, and if you are able to detach yourself from their physical presence in your life, then your suffering will be less. I do believe that attachment leading to suffering can be found in more than just love, though. Attachment to material possessions, for instance, makes us dependent on them, and when we no longer have them, or when for some reason they are not present- we are miserable.

Answer 2

I think so yes - even without buddhist philosophy.

I think real love is something that you are  - a state of beingness - rather than something that you do. When you can be in  a place of comfort for yourself with warmth empathy and unconditional positive regard for others and compassion and without fear - then you are love - you dont have to think about - shall i love this one or not - it just is there within you  

then the idea of attachment  to another just melts away because  its all about your capacity to love yourself and other unconditionally - and the satisfaction in that as a way of being  rather than receiving it back. I think that this being lovingness is the place of enough- ness and not standing in anothers way of what they must do in order to fully be love themselves.

Answer 3

real love isn't about suffering its about commuinication and being open, trusting, and honest, and growing and advancing forward with who you love as they grow and also advance forward with you

Answer 4

I feel Real love is an Extreme Attachment where you become so very Macro that all world can confine in you and yet you have space left enough to merge many many more universes.

Sufferings comes with expectations and not attachments. One could be attached and yet remains understanding enough to give space to each and every relations in ones life.

Regards

Vinay

Answer 5

Buddha is a dead man gone for thousands of years.

Real love does has attachments. If it didn't then what the h**l are our tears for when it is lost?

Answer 6

read Ayn Rand and then think about it

As for attachment they mean all attachment including love,

transcendence is what there after.

wiki transcendence

Answer 7

When Buddhist teachers use the word "attachment," they refer to the way in which our mind clings to ideas, desires, and emotions.

Our pure affection for another person does not cause suffering.

However, most of us taint our affection with mental constructions about that person.

And we hold tightly to those constructs ("he shouldn't be so mean," "she said that she wouldn't do that," "he told me he loved me"). Naturally, this results in suffering, both for ourselves and for the other person.

When we truly recognize that every always changes (Everything! Always! Changes!), then we can let go of our ideas, desire, and emotions.

And when this occurs, we experience another for who they actually are, not as a projection of our own attachments. This permits the liberation of love based on truth, not fantasy.

Answer 8

...all attachments in real love is physical, emotional, spiritual and mental...use or discard what you like in real love...enjoy...

Answer 9

Maybe to a Monk. I am quite attached to my "Real Love". However we are not totally dependent on each other. Our Love is un-conditional. I think that's what they really mean by emotional attachment. You can't put that in the same category as materialistic attachments.

Answer 10

buddhist shmudist....

no disrespect, but getting attached to people is just a natural human emotion...thats like asking yourself not to get the butterflies when you like someone...or to not let yourself laugh...

its just what we do.

real love is attachment because how can you love someone and not feel attached to them in some way??

Answer 11

Yes. That is why I don't want to fall in real love because for me that is impossible.