Is scorpio man taken me for a ride?

Question

We see each other all the time we act like a couple but he doesnt want a relationship with me or ne1 he cares 4himself....his excuse moving to cali in 2 months....gets jealous angry all the time if im not with him or ignore him.....he takes me on trips every weekend...but what is the big deal of the relationship factor?? We have lots of fun with each other and are happy, but is it worth waiting till he leaves to see if he doesnt want a future with me or should i cut back on everything with him? he told me hes afraid of screwin me over if we get in a relationship....he plays mind games a lot and flip flops about us. What is the scorpio man really thinking im a joke or hes intimadated from the past and our past we had?

Answer 1

Being a scorpio myself I can at least give you my thoughts as a scorpio woman. In the past I have acted the same way in relationships. My actions were caused by the fear that if I strapped myself to just one relationship something/one better would come along and I'd miss out. Of course I eventually grew up and realized that I would miss out on even bigger more important experiences(ie. marriage and babies). So maybe this guy is just afraid that he might be settling and is unwilling to do that. My experience as a Scorpio is just that...I hate the thought of settling and anything new and shiny is like.....ohhhhh...pretty! I hope that helps!

Answer 2

Sounds like he has major commitment fright.

Maybe there's some truth that he loves you, but when sober his issues about commitment and relationship leave him too shell shocked to even dare whisper the truth to you.

I suppose the real question here is: Do you want him to settle down with you? or more importantly: Are you in love with him?

He seems honest enough to tell you that he might be doing something wrong if you two go into a relationship... But that's his fear isn't it?

That he's not good enough to deserve the love and commitment you want to offer, the relationship you want to go into with him, the possible future that it might imply.

I can understand the thrill there is in being in a relationship that you're in at present, it keeps both of you feeling like love is on this edge of a big canyon. That if you fall in, it'd be a big and long free fall... which usually lands in Splat...

You're ready for a more steady relationship than this, and he isn't.

I don't think he's really as much disrespecting you with his indecision, it's more like he's not sure if he wants to settle down.

Past experiences leaves people permanently changed inside. So it's wiser to take both your experiences into account.

Scorpio men aren't usually thinking that it's fun to play with feelings, especially if it's really the one thing about Scorpio men that matters most... it's their biggest secret, because that's where they can be most hurt.

If you can, try to talk to him about your feelings without demanding him to answer, or commit, the point being that it's a good platform from which you can confide in him that he is needed in your life...

One thing bigger than emotions is the feeling he has to protect and defend... If he sees that you really care, and what you have is really precious then maybe he won't be so closed to you. You still have some weeks time to really let him know you inside and out right? If you think he's really the one, then isn't he worth showing the real you? despite of the risk of getting hurt?

If you can, try to find the song "Sometimes when we touch" by Dan Hill... It'd probably tell you where to find his heart!

Good Luck

Hotaru

another Scorpio

Answer 3

i have afreind hos scorpio im taurus and hes married . he screws his wife over ever chance he gets and is a master minipulator.thats just one guy and may not effect your guy but hes the only scorpio i know and he sounds like your man. just protect yourself, dont thorw yourself on this guy

it sounds like hes trying to break u sofltly , but you should just cut the cord.hif he comes back to you then mabey he cares  (and not for physical connection) but i dont know him or you but good luck

Answer 4

Hun, I'm in a similar predicament in some ways. My scorpio ex and I broke up four months ago because he decided he wasnt ready for a relationship and it's what I wanted. But like a true Scorp, he would automatically becoming more interested in me the more unavailable I was to him. From what I hear, these guys can't stand to be ignored. The moment I found someone else, my ex wanted to see me again. Ever since, I have been seeing him on and off, and only when drunk does he tell me loving stuff that I dont even know if he means or not, but most people say that things said when drunk are usually the whole truth. I don't bring it up what he's said when drunk in case he doesn't remember or in case it meant nothing, so I just pretend I never heard them. We have a very physical relationship, but at the same time we laugh together and cuddle up and hold hands and sometimes spend a few days together rather than just sleeping together and going our seperate ways. Mine is a real committment phobe, and I'm not sure what to do myself. Mine was badly hurt by his last gf.

Answer 5

well seeing that your a gemini, id say that this is a disaster already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I agree with the first two, but from a different angle... he doesn't want to call you his girlfriend before he has to leave to Cali, because he doesn't want to have something to worry about.  Like if you will be faithful or what not... so, who knows... I hate scorpios.

Answer 7

Your being taken for a ride! when Scorpio man falls in love you know about it! but this sign likes an ego boost and can easily have s*x for the sake of it to boost the ego and often without emotion.

I know you love him, I don't know anyone who could resist a scorpio man but you would be better to leave him and someone more suitable for you, this man will not commit to you x*x

Answer 8

Sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it, too. He wants to be with you now, but he wants to keep his options open for when he moves away. He probably also wants to hold onto you just enough so that he can be with you when he comes back on visits.