Is s*x before 16 ok?

Question

recently i found out that my best friend has had s*x with her bf and she was 15 at the time. when she told me i freaked out because i care about her and i don't want her hurt. was i stupid to do that they have been in a relationship for about 2 years did i over react

Answer 1

I have been active since I was 15. I look back on it now and realize that I was just a child, and I can't believe that I was engaging in activities of that nature. I don't think that  s*x is okay at 16 either. I think that it should be an act between two consenting adults not children that think they are more grown up than they are.

Answer 2

There are a few issues here. firstly, s*x before 16 is happening more and more and religious values are not being accepted as before like they did. so this means they do it more under 16 as they are either lonely or just even want to try it. overall, I would say it isn't okay as they are more vulnerable to get either diseases or the female pregnant.

HOWEVER REMEMBER, It isn't okay for a person over the age of 16 to have s*x with a minor. and this is something you didnt mention in your quesiton. you can only then think to yourself, wheather or not it was okay but only to a very small extent.

about overreating, don't worry it shows you have sense and care for your friend  :)

Answer 3

its peoples own opinion i had it when i was 14 about to turn 15  

Answer 4

i mean if your friend is ok with having s*x at that age then just except it. but dont be influenced by it. Just do it whenever you feel ready for it.

Answer 5

it is fine to have s*x before the age of 16

it isn't going to do anything bad to her physically

in australia it is against the aw though because the government doesn't think a younger person can handle the emotional stress and consequences of s*x,as well as to protect people under 16 from being preyed upon by older man-s****s who just want to get into their pants

if you friend has been in a relationship for that long then i don't think she is in any danger

hope this helps!!

Answer 6

It's illegal in most countries to have s*x before the age of 16. Just because your friend was in a relationship for 2 years, it doesn't mean she was ready to do it. It's natural for you to be concerned about her, and I hope you talk to her about the consequences of what may happen

Answer 7

Jealous?

Answer 8

s*x is about when the two people are ready.. it sounds like she wasnt forced and she hasnt regretted it which alot of young teenagers do.. so you should support her :)

Answer 9

15 is a very young age to have s*x, most of the time you are foolish and forget to use protection and that's the reason their is so many pregnant teens in the u.s.

I would recommend waiting at least til your 17 or 18 to even consider it. It doesn't matter how long that you've been in a relationship. I'm 13 and I think its very foolish to be having s*x at a young age.

Answer 10

Kids will be kids.

Answer 11

Well it is illegal. That might give you a clue.

Answer 12

Well there are two ways of looking at this ........

1. Is if you think about it before humans became civilised people and came up with all theese rules & laws about this matter - we basically where put on this earth to reprouduce. - now at 15 a girl has probably had her period which means her body is ready to reproduce ect.

and her body has become sexually active.

2.But does this mean that she is mentally ok to have s*x - could she cope with a baby at this age?

Of course there is lots of ways at looking at this - but i think that you where right and had a cause for concern - but in the end its her choice - dont worry - she will learn from her mistakes x

Answer 13

Not really but who am I to judge if one does it. I did when I was 16 so I cant down your friend.

Answer 14

no u didnt overreact. i dnt think anyone should have s*x till 18. im15 and im gona turn 16 this weekend and frankly i dnt feel grown enough to choose what subjects im gonna continue this october since i had my o levels last year, let alone s*x!

probably and more likely than not your friend will not be with this guy forever!so she will one day regret it .... not to be mean but thats what a friend of mine went tru

Answer 15

In my personal opinion, s*x before the age of 16 is not okay as during those ages, your in school and one day you could be pregnant then you have a child or children (this is for girls, obviously). Now even though I'm a boy, I know how it feels to take care of a baby and you don't want to do that during school times. But in your situation, she decided she wanted s*x and it's fine by her because she choose that decision and maybe you did over react a little and it was kind of stupid, but at least you take care about her and that's great. Hope this helps.

Answer 16

i don't think there is a set appropriate age for s*x. your friend may regret it one day, and she might not. unless your friend is in serious trouble (which it doesn't sound like she is), just worry about yourself.

Answer 17

Just because something is illegal isn't a reason to not do it.  I wish people would stop acting like s*x is this massive mountain to climb, it isn't.  If someone feels like having s*x and wants to have s*x, they should have s*x.  If they're not, they shouldn't, it's their choice.

Most of all, people should be safe and enjoy themselves, that's what life is all about.

Answer 18

well if they were safe about it i dont really see the problem.

Answer 19

I will be 16 next month and I would never had s*x at this age. You should wait until you know that is the RIGHT person because you will remember who you lost your virginity to for the rest of your life. And you can't take it back so think hard before you do it. Two years is a great amount of time to wait, that means your friend was at least taking it slow. I'll give her that!

Answer 20

Hahaha are you kidding look at today's world

kids are turning into adults quicker then ever.

Answer 21

2 years is a long time and its quite important that they completly tructed each other on this desicion. even though the legal age is 16...that hasnt stopped anyone before.

its nice that u care for her just dont freak out becoz it will probably put her in a postition that she regrets it.

if ur still upset that she did it underage, ask her subtle questions that will re-assure you such as, did she use protection, did u two talk about? etc.

good luck

Answer 22

I think its not advisable and mistakes can happen. But if they have been together for a while... they use contraception and make sure its special then its not the end of the world. I think it means more if you wait though. Feelings for you partner are stronger when your older cause you face more problems in life together, the stronger the bond, the greater the s*x is

Answer 23

I understand where you coming from and you were not wrong but it is her choose.

Answer 24

Well I think that that's your friends business, but it's still good that your looking out for her. However, you have to let them make their own decisions because it's what they want, but make sure you tell her the pros and cons, and how to be safe. Then she'll know that you care for her and not just nagging her about doing it. It sucks that you can't do anything about it but that's how it is. I'm sure she can make her own choices and she'll learn on her own if it is a mistake, not by your reaction.  

Answer 25

Well if she is ready to take care of a baby, then yes. s*x before you are adults is stupid. I have seen too many kids having kids and they didn't even use protection. Have s*x when you can afford a kid.

Answer 26

Legality laws like that were set for people to be at an age where they are most likely to be able to handle that sort of thing. You were right to worry about her, because she was underage, but make sure you talk to her about how you reacted, because she may become resentful. You should be able to voice your concern, but be sure not to completely flip out. :-)

Answer 27

Not at all... i think s*x is a very special thing and should be done at the right time(marriage)when a person has s*x they become one with the other person and their souls connect that is why its hard to forget someone once u get involved sexually,then ask yourself how many people u will tie ur soul to and why show ur nakedness to someone u are not sure how far u will go in life..we are made in god's image so we should treasure our bodies and use s*x the way he designed it for married people only.

Answer 28

s*x before 16 is stupid, you are not fully developed both in body and mind.

Hence the thousands of unwanted teenage pregnancies.

Answer 29

Not really.

Teenagers of that age haven't developedenough physically or mentally to be able to deal with what s*x presents.

Answer 30

Is it okay? Well I wouldn't want either one of my daughters to be having s*x at 16, but realistically??? Kids are having s*x at a younger and younger age. She's the one that would have to deal with a pregnancy or STD if something happened, there isn't anything you can do, except make your own decisions.

Answer 31

Theres actually two different answers to this question

On the one hand no, s*x before 16 isnt a good idea....they have the law there for a reason, and its exaclty what all the rest of the threads have been talking about - because of emotional maturity etc etc.

What is more important however is the 2nd part, and thats your reaction to your friends news. Here you were wrong.  This is a friend letting you in on important information that she was probably wanting support with, and you go and freak out on her.  While you are completley justified in having your doubt, what she really needed was a friend.  you can let her know that you are wary of her having s*x at such a young age, while also letting her know that you are there if she ever needs to talk about anything thing with you.  If you flip out on a friend like this, you will find in future, they will be much less likely to confide in you about anything important