Is s*x good or not? And when do you know when your really ready?

Question

Okay, so s*x is this big thing that people try to make a deal out of and it's supposed to be this really symbolic thing to worship your partner and a step of love, but the problem is that it isn't. People say it's this amazing thing that changes your whole life and others say it's the worse thing and the only reason your first time should be special is because it's your first time and then after that you can do it with whoever.

And this question isn't about me in particular, it's a general what do you think. But how can you tell when your really ready anyway. I mean you can say you are, and have s*x and then completely regret it and wished you could have waited for that right person. Or you could wait too long and then do it with this total jerk who completely ruins it and then you would have wished you would have had s*x with this great guy you used to know. I mean, is s*x this wonderful emotion that our human and rational brain controls to tell us that we should have s*x when we are in love. Of course it isn't! Right? I mean, its that part of our primitive brain that reacts on total impulse.

What do you think about s*x and about the whole are you ready thing? Tell me...PLEASE!!!

Answer 1

Theres a differance between making love and having s*x. You need to remember that. However even married couples can have s*x and make love.

Alot of people have s*x because of lust. I had s*x before I got married; do I regret it? No. Does my husband resent me for it? Of course not. He had s*x too before we got married.

s*x is a very powerfull thing on a differnt number of levels.

Unmarried couples have s*x all the time. Its full of lust. You have feelings for one another, but its nothing like the love you experience when you get married. The s*x is all for the experience. The passion. The body just gets going and it takes over.

Making love with someone is completly differnt. Its emotionally coneccting. Your 2 raw people, with raw emotions, both at your most vulnerable but still together, still in love. Your bonding, spiritually connecting.

Its also important though to just have s*x in a married relationship. Releasing the frusterations, passion, tension and everything you have got built up inside of you when you just have crazy do-me-now s*x with your husband can be very... blissful!

But at the same time, s*x can also be a negative thing.

Rapes, One-Night stands. Because s*x does have so many emotions tied into it, when your used physcailly, your soul is used too. It can be very damaging to a person to be used in such a way.

I dont think I agree with waiting to have s*x until marriage. I think that s*x really, opens up your mind. It helps you figure out who you are. Its hard to explain, but after having the experinces taht I did, I truly think that I was able to grow as a woman in a much deeper way. I wouldnt be who I am today without those experinces. I do think though you should wait until your with someone you care about, and who cares about you. Sleeping around might sound exciting but it can really take away from you.

Everyone has a differnt way of looking at it. You just have to figure it out for yourself.

Answer 2

If you have any doubts then you are not ready.  Virginity is something very special, once gone you can never ever get it back.  It should be shared with someone very very special.  My rule is that I have to be willing to die for them, I know that is very extreme.  But it works.  The consequences of having s*x can forever alter your life.  You could end up with diseases that will stay with you the rest of your life.  Try and picture yourself telling someone that you really love that you have some incurable disease because you couldn't control yourself.  People lie about their s*x life all the time, it is best to be in a long term relationship before even considering s*x.  Hopefully you will find out the truth about that person's past.  Safety is key.  

Answer 3

s*x isn't nearly as good - as when it's with someone you care about!

some people say it's OVER-RATED...

I think they're nuts!

Answer 4

s*x is neccesity to curb the primative need to reproduce, only us humans along the way have made it a whole lot of fun, and yes lots of pleaseure for those that are willing to explore and open there minds x

LOVE making on the other hand is a total different ball game you will know the difference as soon as you are lucky enough to be in the position.  

hope you experience the both  x

Answer 5

you just have to be careful you dont have s*x with an a***e. you will know when you are ready. when you are with someone and you love them and you know they arent just a d!ck in the relationship for s*x then you will know. Its just a feeling you cant explain but when it happends you''ll know and when someone asks you years down the road "how do i know if im ready" you'll say "you just know" hehe HOpe this helps. just be smart and know who your dealing with

Answer 6

you never know when your ready... well you will know.. when it comes to having s*x.. if you back out.. then your not

if your comfortable with your partner and everything feels right.. then yeahh your ready.

Answer 7

You are right about one thing—people do make too big of a deal about s*x.  I will tell you this; fretting about your first time is a horrible idea.  90% of the population will probably tell you that their first time was horrible for one reason or another.  Once you feel ready, it is best to just get the first time over with quickly and safely and with as little pain as possible, so that you can move on to s*x that is fun, feels good, and hassle free.  s*x is natural!  Once your are ready, go for it—you will be glad you did, because its actually pretty great.

Answer 8

i waited till i was 18 the i met this guy who was my first. i was with him for like 5 years and he succcked at it. the only reason i waited was my mom got pregnant with me when she was 16 and she gave me the big scare tactic all the time. looking back if id just used common sense and some protection i could have had s*x earlier realized that guy was a loser and save 5 years of my life.

Answer 9

good s*x is great

bad s*x is awful

you know youre ready when you dont need to ask if youre ready or not

Answer 10

If you read this comment then you're ready for s*x.

Answer 11

I don't believe in the whole s*x after marriage bag, and i believe that we must have s*x to have a full happy life. That said, you are never ready and should never have s*x with someone that you couldn't imagine having a child with and being tied to for life. Even though I support contraceptive and abortion, its just stupid to take that much risk with someone you don't trust or like enough to imagine keeping in your life.  

Answer 12

If you have to ask this question on YA! then you are not ready!

Wait until your honeymoon night.  Wait for your husband.

Answer 13

What? What do you mean, it's not out of love and it's our primitive sexual urges? That's ridiculous! Sure that's how our brains are wired, but we're honestly not going to have great s*x if we do it just because we feel like we have to, or because it's in our nature, that's just plain ridiculous.

   I think s*x is the closest you can get to anybody, and if you give it to someone who's worth it, they'll carry a part of your soul with them forever. Which is why you don't want to just treat it as though it's nothing.

   And you're never ready if you're not sure where the relationship is going. If you're not one hundred percent sure that you're going to be with the other person for the rest of your life, then you don't want to give it them. They won't treasure it.

Answer 14

let me ask you a question...

are you ready to get pregnant?

settle down with a family?

if your answer is no to either of these then you aren't ready.be smart and wait for a (one) great guy to share your love with and he won't care how good you are cause you will be all his.  

Answer 15

i think s*x needs TIME

believe me college students and high shool students have time to do it,

and university students DO NOT..

you should have the time and health care to commit to s*x

and once yo start doing it you can not stop thats why most of people say to wait til marriage, and i agree only if you're getting married by 20-21 if not i'l say go for it , but as i said it needs time.

s*x isnt a big deal but yet it needs life commitment.

Answer 16

For women when we have s*x we get emotionally attached to a guy. So it makes sense to wait until you are married or in love with each other. You don't want your body to be chemically attached to the wrong guy.

As for how you will know when you are ready... You will just know. Wait until you are sure of it. Don't force it, just let it happen naturally when you are sure.

I waited till I was in love and it was amazing. :)

s*x when your in love is great. When you're not in love it's really not that great.

Answer 17

s*x is a physical act not an emotion. It's best to perform this act with someone you really care for, because truthfully the 1st time is pretty awkward for both usually. I can say; in my opinion, that the friends I have that gave it up with a casual partner have regrets, while friends I know that waited for a person they loved were pleased with the decision because it was performed with real affection and consideration.  

Answer 18

Honey

My answer is if you don't want to spend the rest or your life with this guy then don't do it. Being turned on is not the same thing as being in love.  I wish I had waited for the man I married because it is special!

Claire

Answer 19

It's a personal preference whether you wait til marriage or not. From experience (I'm 24)... I didn't wait for my true love. I THOUGHT I was in love, but I was mostly "in love with the thought of being in love" if that makes sense... and infatuation plus peer pressure at age 18. s*x, in my opinion , should be shared by two people who are married. It is special and yes you can regret it if you don't wait for the right person. When you KNOW for sure you are in love, get married and enjoy it with him. I myself regret my decision to have premarital s*x and still feel guilty once in awhile even though God forgives me. s*x should be an expression of love, and that's the only reason you should have it. It is WONDERFUL with the right person. My brain reacted on impulse when I lost my virginity, but LOVE the second time with my husband.  

Answer 20

youre ready when the alcohol tells you youre ready.

Answer 21

I tend to agree, I think it's all about the person.  I don't regret having s*x 'before marriage'.  I'm not one of those girls who dreams about finding Mr. Right, running up the aisle with him and having 2 kids, a dog and a lovely house in the country.  It's just not my thing.  It's my choice and I don't care what other people think.  To be perfectly honest, I don't think I was fully ready when I first had s*x but I definitely don't regret it either.  It wasn't all that good nor was it all that bad...I certainly wasn't taken advantage of but I definitely was somewhat naive.  I doesn't bother me though and I wouldn't want any kind of pity for it, perhaps the opposite.  The way I see it is that if you wait until you meet the 'right' guy/girl and neither of you know what to do, you're kinda screwed...and not in a good way!