Is she REALLY spoiled?

Question

My daughter, Brittany, said that a friend called her "spoiled" because I gave her $300 for the mall! Is it really Brittany's fault that her friend's mom forces her daughter to WORK for money?

Answer 1

I don't know how old your daughter is, but yes, you are spoiling your daughter and not teaching her the value of money. Just because you can afford it means that your daughter will have the same earning capability in the future, or that you will always have the capacity to bail her out of financial difficulties. Fortunes can change.

Answer 2

dude, i just wanna say that is crazy. my mom made us work for money, all the kids that have money handed to them i cant stand to be around. they just get on my nerves how stuck up they are. since you give your daughter whatever she wants, she will never appreciate anything. i bought my own car, and it wasnt the nicest thing out there, but i appreciated it. i drove it carefully, i watched how people treated it while they rode in it, and everything like that. all the kids that their parents bought them a stupid mercedes they got burn holes everywhere and ended up wrecking them due to carelessness.

my fiances little brother gets anything he wants whenever he wants and he is the most annoying kid ive ever met. i am sooo glad the way i grew up it made me who i am and i dont look down on anyone! i had a hard life growing up, but i wouldnt have changed it for anything to be in your spoiled daughters place....

Answer 3

hmm...I'd say she's spoiled. But it's YOUR DAUGHTER. YOU make all your own decisions. If YOU want to give your daughter 300 bucks HECK thats your own business. I think alot of parents will make their kids "work" for their money though. I didn't but I was the baby. So its understandable. Right? LOL. I do however think that kids should be reminded that everything isn't just handed to them. Make her do some chores. Clean her room, WASH dishes, fold clothes. But again this is your own decision.   GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

She is BEYOND spoiled!  $300 for the mall!?!?  What kind of financial skills are you teaching her?  When she gets older she will blow all kinds of money on unimportant stuff and get heavily into credit card debt because you aren't teaching her the true value of money.  What would a kid even spend $300 on at the mall?  It seems like the only justification would be if she were buying a computer or something, and even then you should go along to make sure she doesn't buy one thats outdated or something.  

If that money is for clothes than all I can say is that that is one VERY pampered daughter you have there and that you should be putting that money to some better uses like saving it for her college education or something along those lines.  $300 about covers a whole college class these days, better that than some fancy shirts.

Answer 5

No. It is however Brittany's mom's fault that she doesn't know the first thing about responsibility and it will probably be a big shock when she gets into the real world and her boss doesn't just fork over the money so easily.

Answer 6

It depends how old she is. If she is over 14 i dont think she is. If she is younger than that maybe. I get about 100-200. I dont think its really a bad thing when a kid id spoiled. Hope this helped!

-Tara

Answer 7

id say very spoiled, kids have no business with that kind of pocket money, thats the ones that tend to get in trouble because they can afford to get into things other kids cant.

Answer 8

So not spoiled. Any of u ever read the clique books? that is spoiled. it is your daughter and u raise her however u like!

Answer 9

I guess it depends on how old your daughter is. If she were nine and burning through $300 on her own, that would be something, but if she were older and a little more responsible then I could see the sense behind it. Perhaps her friend was just jealous? Some parents think working for money helps their kids learn "the value of a dollar," and others just give them the money. Different parents have different methods. In my opinion, being spoiled is more of an attitude, so only you can determine if your daughter is "spoiled."

Answer 10

She had no right to call your kid spoiled it's none of her business(unless your kid was bragging) but you should make your kid learn the value of hard work. She might just appreciate the money more. Because if she spends that much now how will she be able to manage her money as an adult? (coming from a 14 year old's perspective lol)

Answer 11

It's fine as long as you can assure Brittany's care for the rest of her time on earth as it obvious she will never understand that

work ='s income.

or has she earned it purely by putting up with her parents.

engage brain then wright

do you have any understanding on how much of the worlds population is struggling for food???????

Marie Antoinette had her head cut off WAKE UP

Zoe

Answer 12

hmm.. if shes old enough to work. thats where she should be getting her money. shes spoiled!

let her earn her money.

Answer 13

Yes I would say that is spoiled if you just "handed" her $300 to go shopping for an afternoon at the mall.

She should have "earned" the money.

Answer 14

Firts of all How all is your daugther

And is not thei r<r obbligation to say if somedy is dpoiled or not

Is your desicion so do you think that you are spoling her

Answer 15

Yep, your daughter is spoilt

Answer 16

Definately spoiled. Make her work for it or she'll think everything will be handed to her in life.

Answer 17

No. She is not spoiled, parents have different parenting styles thats all. Brittany shouldnt brag to her friends about though. Spoiled means that your bratty, braggy and you get everything you want, you gave Brittany $300 for the mall.Her friend's mom makes her work for money. My parents mixed me between those.I would say that that amount of money was reasonable for the mall, if she doesnt spend all of it make her give you back the extra, or if your really generous let her keep it.

Answer 18

Are you out of your mind?

How are you setting up your daughter to cope with the world when she's an adult?

Brittney's friend is the lucky one here.  She and Brittney may not realise it, but the friend is going to be happier as an adult because her expectations will be more in line with reality.

Answer 19

Did she do anything to earn the money??

When I would do stuff around the house, I'd get like $5. I'd say she's definately spoiled. I think people should earn their money.. not just have it given to them.

Answer 20

$300 for the mall! How old is Brittany.. I say max $100.  That is a little on the outrageous side...

Answer 21

well duh you have to teach your child responsibilty wait intil she gets older and wants a car house this that she will always want something with out working to get the money goodl uck with your daughter and YES she is spoiled

Answer 22

I have to work for my money always have but no thats not your daughter fault that her freind has to work for her money but yes I would say your spoiling your daughter but its your daughter so do what you want to

Answer 23

Uh yeah, I'd say that's being a little indulgent....

Answer 24

wow..yeah she is spoiled!

Answer 25

Just make sure she deserves it and that you're not just giving it to her because she asks for it or throws a tantrum.

"WORKING" for money aka CHORES are a great way for kids to actually deserve the money, instead of being unconditionally spoiled by their parents. :]

Answer 26

Yes, $3OO is a lot of money!, especially for a child to be carrying - unless a birthday present I suppose.

Why are you shocked that her friend has to work for her money - what about learning about the value of it?.

Unfortunately you sound like a snobbish person with more money than sense who probably allows their child to rule the roost in many aspects.

Answer 27

I'm a teen and the most my mom ever gave me for the mall was $40 and I worked for it. Though it is rude  to call someone else spoiled though. Unless she deserved it by bragging or calling her friend poor. As much as I wish I didn't have to work for spending money I think it makes me more apprechiative and hard working.

Answer 28

spoiled without a doubt

Answer 29

Oh, yeah.  Definitely spoiled.  No kid needs that much money just to go to the mall, atleast not when they haven't earned it.  Keep it up and Brittany is going to be the suffering when it's time to go out into the real world.

Answer 30

No offense, but she IS spoiled. My daughters, when they see something they like, I give them $25 and tell them that they can get whatever they want with it but when they spend it all I'm not going to give them more. I make sure they use their money "wisely" and I make sure not to give them to much $ so they don't get the idea they can have anything they want and that I'll never say no to them when they give me the "puppy face".

Answer 31

ok how  old is your daughter? well, really, at any age, $300 dollors is alot for the mall. that really is spoiled. and im sure her friend has way better values and morals  and will be succesful in life because she is learning how to earn and save her money, not just having everything given to her.