Is she a deadbeat mom?

Question

My ex wife, she used to be the perfect mother and a pretty d**n good wife as well. But it all changed at the blink of an eye. We have always had a rocky relationship, nothing was ever fair in each others eyes. I worked a 24 on/24 off job as a military firefighter she was a stay at home mom raises all three of our children. She always complained about not getting her own time. She was either pregnant or underage and couldn't enjoy weekends like many girls her age would. After turning 21 and having a kid she started going out with wifes of other co-workers, coming home at a decent time and not to entirely wasted. Then she met some single friends and as time went on, she started getting worse. Coming home drunk off her *** (being carried to front porch) 5 minutes before I left for work at 7 am, never spending time with family unless i was at work and she had to, even came home high one day and wished she never had kids. Well, eventually we were divorced, her plans were to make it in the military but they wouldn't allow her to join if she had any custody of the children, so she signed over all her rights, even visitation. In the divorce decree she aggreed to pay little over 400$ a month child support. This was the beginning of March. Till this day, she hasn't sent a single penny and calls the house expecting to talk to the kids when it is only convenient to her, every 3 months usually. My kids forgot about her, they don't even recognize her in pictures or know her name.

Is she considered a deadbeat mom?

Answer 1

i would consider her a dead beat...what kind of person would do that to their own children...she gave up her rights????? thats crazy. take her to court for the child support its not fair that now after 3 kids she wants to live the single life and now you have ALL the responsibility or if the kids have a full time mom in their lives i wouldnt stress it you cant force her to be a mom to her kids...good luck

Answer 2

YES...

And you need to fight for the child support.

If she is in the military, they should be garnishing her wages.

It is great that you are a good father - Keep up the good work.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes, she is a dead beat mom.  It's probably a good thing she left.  If I were you I would go after her for the child support owed to you and the kids.

Answer 4

I would say so.

Answer 5

if she hasn't paid CS is over 3 months and it's on file with the CS enforcement dept. then she should be getting noticing that she is not paying and I believe one more month and court day will be sent out to her, or you can go file for one now..it's foul that's she's doing that and being selfish  

Answer 6

put a motion in to have her brought into court and answer for her child support non payment - the rest isok because the kids are better without her

Answer 7

I would say she is a deadbeat mom now. She shouldn't be neglecting her children thats very wrong. At first I understand why she would want 2 go out and have a life cause she  was young and had no time but 4 her 2 just stop caring is very wrong. She shouldn't see her kids or even talk 2 them due to the fact that she came home drunk when she had 2 take care of kids and she got high. Those kids wouldn't b safe with her and later on in life she will regret doing the stuff that she did.

Answer 8

yup! Its so sad ..I dont understand how a woman could carry a child for nine motnhs and then forget about them like they never happened...I'm glad that they have a father like you to take good care of them. Keep your head up and stay strong. One day a good woman will come into your life and be the woman you and your kids always needed! God Bless!

Answer 9

No she is not a bad mum at all i think she is trying to catch up on all the valuble years she let slip by after all she is still very young im sure she still loves her children.

Answer 10

She is without a question a deadbeat person. She is not a mom in any since of the word and you are lucky she signed over her rights to the children. A person that selfish cannot be of any good to them.

You should be able to get back child support without a problem. Why don't you contact   " Fathers for equal rights"  It is a national organization for fathers and grandparents. They also have help about how to go about what you need to do.

Answer 11

Absolutely! Not only a deadbeat mom but a poor excuse for a human being. It sounds like she felt she was forced into growing up too soon, and was not mature enough to face up to her responsibilities. Getting divorced did not change her for the better, so you should not be surprised by this behavior. For your kids' sake you should look into collecting from her. You can get a judgment that will garnish her wages and tax refunds for child support payments.

I hope you have matured from this experience and when looking for your next woman don't go just for looks, but take your time and look for someone attractive both inside and out. Your kids are relying on you!

Answer 12

Duh. She got rid of her kids to be a single party girl. What you think?

Answer 13

Yes.  She needs help.  Sounds like she is an alcoholic.