Is she being stupid?

Question

My wife and I are in the process of buying a house. I understand its a process that takes time, but my wife thinks everything should be happening faster and in the end we should have a perfect little home to live in. I see that from the home inspection report I should have a list of things to work on for the next year at least.

Is she being simple minded to think that buying a home should be quick and easy and you should have a perfect home when all is said and done?

Answer 1

My wife is an instant gratification person too. Don't worry. Step back and have her do all the stuff until she pukes. There's nothing like doing to appreciate what it takes to get it done. Take Care

Answer 2

No, she is not being stupid, why do you need to call your wife that?

She may be impractical, impatient, etc. or just inexperienced. Perhaps the Realtor can explain to her the process of home buying and inspections.  

Answer 3

Sit her down and explain to her all the things you need to go through to buy a house. If she still doesn't understand make a list of everything.

Answer 4

That home inspection is not only for the benefit of your family but for your home buyer's insurance as well. Buying a home is tedious and it takes alot of stress out on people. I became so pushy when we bought our first home. I mean really detailed oriented. The caulking had to be right in the tile,I walked my wood floors foot by foot looking for any creaks and testing level.

This is a investment and should be treated as such. Take your time and be precise on every room. It will make you so much more happier in the long run.

Answer 5

she is obviously very inexperienced and unrealistic in my experience - if you do not want to put any work into a home, you need to buy something very new or build yourself. unless you design and build yourself, i do not see how any house is going to suit your specific tastes/needs - maybe she just does not like THIS house and is looking for an excuse?

Answer 6

She is impatient, not stupid. It takes more than a perfect house to make a perfect home. A family living in harmony and making the most out of what they have will be far more perfect than a great house. Hubby and I just found out that we aren't getting into the house he wanted. He is understandably upset, but I am cool with it because we are cosy now with a roof over our heads. It wasn't meant to be, right now, but that doesn't mean we won't keep trying.

It takes time and effort to get what you want, and calling your wife stupid isn't a great step toward the perfect place.

  

Answer 7

She is being a woman dreaming about things to fall in place, you are being a man thinking practically of what needs to be done so you can reap the benefits later. I don't find problem in either way, give her some task to research and be part of your plan and she will agree with you soon.  

Answer 8

She's not being realistic, but that goes along with buying a house sometimes. I didn't realize just how long it took or what you get for your money until we bought our first home 3 years ago.

There is no perfect house. I don't care if you build it from the ground up, by the time it's finished, there will already be things that need improved or changed. That's part of life. We have done and redone a lot of things in our house just in the 3 years we've been in it. I'm not complaining. I like being able to do whatever whenever.

Reality will hit her soon. Don't worry.