Is she jealous, insecure or just plain crazy?

Question

My single guy friend (a dad too) and I have been friends for a few years..he is dated a married lady which i think is dumb but he seems happy so whatever. He called me the other day to tell me he was sorry he left me hanging on a conversation but he said that he didn't want to talk to me and the he doesn't want to talk to me (wow news to me - he texted me and asked how my day was going last week)..that he and his gf were getting married. Okay, no problem. I'll move on although it's quite baffling. 2 days later she called me and left me a voicemail (i've never met her nor talked to her so how she got my number is beyond me)...to tell me that my friend wanted nothing to do with me, I was not to call, text, email or anything. And if he contacted me again the wedding was off. Wow. I don't know what the point in her calling me me was (and by the way we're all 30 sumthings) except maybe to try to scare me? Being I don't participate in such high school drama - i'm walking away from this. But should I contact him first? Tell him she crossed the line, I did nothing wrong...and that she's crazy? Is this why she would call me?? Major insecurity - remember she's married (not happily of course)......thoughts, ideas, opinions?

Answer 1

You are doing the right thing to distance yourself away from this situation.  She is totally insecure, wrong also for being married and engaged at the same time, and treacherous.  She is actually a dangerous person to be around.  Let your friend contact you--- leave him and her alone.  If he has any sense, he will call and wonder what happened to you.  That is when you can open up Pandora's Box and tell him about his future so called wife.  She is a poor choice if she can't even be faithful to her husband.  It's sad to see your friends go down a wrong road. He will regret having ever known her.  Somehow she has persuaded him that she has something going-- and she does--a miserable life--- Toni D.  

Answer 2

Hang in there, wait till your friend calls you and asks what the deal with you not calling or anything,  then tell him, about your conversation with her.   He will be in shocked to hear she did such a thing!  and rethink the whole marriage thing,   Misery like company, save your friend! before he makes a big mistake.

Answer 3

ok, you NEED to talk to him, tell him how you feel about her and what she convinced him to do because obviously its all her doing, have him talk to her or something because if you guys are just friends then she has no reason to be jealous, hope that helps

Answer 4

She's jealous and insecure. The fact of the matter is that she's afraid that her fiance will break off with her to marry you. If the girl is making him think like that then you need to have a talk with him. She did cross the line because she has no say in who his friends are. I've dealt with this before, so if you (or anyone with this problem) need anymore help, email me.

Answer 5

Check out my question (below) and what I did with this crazy woman

(Has anyone had something crazy like this happen)?

In Yahoo answers and you see what I mean.

This woman was insanly jealuse of me and I did not do anything to stir it up and it seems its allways women. I am just glad I have all my marbles together.

From a woman.

Answer 6

she's crazy..and if you care about your friend you should tell him what happened unless you want your friend to marry someone like her.  

Answer 7

She's nuts.   Very jealous of you I guess

Answer 8

she is crazy.  do your friend a favor and tell him all about her.  if he chooses to continue relationship with her, you can feel good about yourself that you tried to help him out.  

Answer 9

let him go. if he's dumb enough to give up a friendship for a married woman (who he cannot marry until she is divorced by the way) then he wasn't a very good friend to begin with. i'm sure he'll come crawling back when she refuses to get divorced or ends up cheating on him anyways but don't be there for him!  

Answer 10

Don't feed her craziness.  Delete his number and move on.  No need to tell him, she's likely ranting and raving to him anyway since he said he wants nothing to do with you...  she made him do that.  She called to make sure he told you and if he didn't, she was letting you know.  Shes a nutjob - insecure and probably crazy too.  But he's her nutjob now and you can be assured never to have to deal with her insanity beyond that call again...  

Answer 11

I think shes being insecure and your friend needs to remember if she cheated on her current husband she'll eventually do it to him. But if your friend is foolish enough to let her control who he can be friends with he deserves what he gets. Don't worry about it I'm sure when they have their first big fight i.e break-up he'll be calling.

Answer 12

Just ignore her, if you want to contact you're friend, she has no right to stop you.

Answer 13

dont know

Answer 14

Okay She sounds slightly phsyco..

Try getting in touch with your friend when she is with her husband, that ways he is hardly going to want to tell her husband "I have to make sure my boyfriend isnt talking to his friend"

How can she get married to your friend anyway? Since she is already married in the first place...

Anyway, Talk to your friend Ask him if this is was HE wants.

Good luck x

Answer 15

Jealous and insecurity go hand in hand. Do you have feelings for this "friend" of yours? Also, have you done anything that would warrant her to be wary of you? Think hard.

Again, though, a lot of girlfriends, fiances, etc. etc. do not like their man to be hangng around with a "best" friend female. It makes them feel insecure and jealous. This is probably what she is feeling and I think you should talk to her and let her know you and your guy friend are JUST friends. Let your guy friend know to so he can set the record straight himself.

Answer 16

yes.

Good luck!!!

Answer 17

I had no reason whatsoever to read that paragraph of ****. Who are you people and where is my horse?

Answer 18

i guess tell your friend, but tell him in a good way that wouldnt hurt his feelings.

and i don't think you can marry a married person.

and

I don't think that the church really allows a married person to marry any other person unless they are divorced or annulled.  

Answer 19

it sound like your friend  is stupid . for beening  with a **** ! sorry but she sounds like a old girlfriend !!!  maybe he will wake up before he marry the dum ***** .if she call you again call the cops & have put in jail

Answer 20

These people are both idiots of the highest order. You have the right idea. Walk. Away.

(and don't look back...there's nothing there worth having around.)

Answer 21

go eat a cheeseburger.. now forget the call and let him hang himself..