My best friend (well, I thought...) is a great person (Girl A), and I can understand if she wants to hang out with other people, but instead of just hanging out with this girl, I almost feel replaced by her. When I first became a friend with her, she gave me tons of attention, and almost always wanted to hang out. Over the past couple of weeks (since around June, it's now the middle of August; all through summer vacation), she's been hanging out with a new girl (Girl B). I have no problems with this, I think it's great that she's branching out, but I honestly do feel replaced by this girl. She's constantly doing things with her. I've invited Girl A over to my house a few times, and she hasn't repaid the favor yet. Everytime I call her up, she was either recently doing something with Girl B, or is going to do something. DOn't get me wrong, I like Girl B, and would like to be friends with her myself; she's a good, nice person. And I hate to admit it, but I feel a little...jealous, of this girl. My friend considered me the best person in the world, and she still likes me, but I still feel pushed over. I've seen her do this whenever she gets a new friend, ALL of her attention is diverted to them, and she doesn't give much of a passing thought to her old friends (I think she has lost a few friendships this way, and I feel guilty, because she lost them after I became her friend (and got all of her attention)).
My real question is, should I talk to her about my feelings? Should I try to make a better connection with her? Should I just ignore her all together (my parents call her a "fair-weather-friend", meaning she's only my friend when she needs one)? I don't want to loose her as a friend, but I don't want to be pushed out of the picture either...
Sorry if I talked your ear off, but I appriciate any helpful advice that you can give me! Thank you so much!
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