Is she overreacting, and what should I do?

Question

Well the other night my boyfriend snuck into my room and my mom caught him. I know it was a stupid thing to do in the first place, but I can't go back in time and it already happened. So my mom was freaking out and there was alot of crying and screaming as we recklessly drove my boyfriend home at 2am. All of a sudden she asks about a burn on my arm, which I got from a curling iron. She thinks I did it to myself and that I'm depressed. She has taken away my phone, she won't trust me to be alone at ALL, she's taken me to the counselor, and she's getting a restraining order against my boyfriend and my best guy friend. I'm living in h**l right now and I don't know what to do. My parents are divorced so my dad can't help me much here. I'm scared of what's gonna happen next, so please someone help me?

Answer 1

Quit worrying and take the consequences of your choices like a man!  er woman! LOL

She's not over reacting, she's trying to save you from your dumb choices!  Teen aged s*x results in: Sexually transmitted disease, unwanted teen pregnancies, kids never finishing high school as they figure out how to raise the baby etc.  That's just the tip of the iceberg.  

Not only that, but you were sneaky and lying, not trustworthy at all.  How can you whine about her taking away all your privileges when you broke her trust?

Answer 2

i know it might feel as though your mom is over exaggerating but that's because your still young.  she is giving you a punishment to help you understand what you did wrong and to insure you won't do it again!  i don't think shes gone to far and seeing a counselor isn't such a bad thing!   it might even help you understand things more and how to communicate with your mom better!  it could help you develop a better relationship with her!   but parents don't do things to make u upset and trust me it hurts her feelings to do it too but just think if she didn't care about you she wouldn't have done anything!   so it goes to show that she is concerned about you and loves you dearly!!     Teen years are the worst but you'll understand fully when your older!  

Answer 3

The counselor might be the best thing that can happen here. Tell all of this to your counselor he/she should be able to help.  

Answer 4

you need to sit down and really talk to her about how your feeling.

Answer 5

My mom is an over-reactor also. And when she makes stupid accusations I call my grandma. My parents are divorced too, and my dad is crazy about the whole guy situations so I depend on my grandma to understand and talk to my mom about it.

Don't tell the counselor anything. I didn't so they let me stop seeing her.

My mom took my phone away now for 2 months because I was talking to someone in Florida that put me in the position of his life or his death. Maybe a break from your guy friends would be a smart thing. Until things calm down.

Answer 6

All your mom is trying to do is protect you.She realizes her baby is gone and now shes upset.Retraining orders do nothing so explain to her that.

It takes a lot to get restraining order she has to prove he is going to cause her harm?they dont just give them out because he snuck in your room.

He has to have threaten her etc..or she lying to get one?

get all four parents together and sit down and talk calmly its not doing you her or anyone else any good being all upset..make a set of rules up you will follow to show her you are serious such as ...in by 11 ,phone use for 1 hour a day etc..

mistakes happen ...