MY QUESTION: how can Stacy not care what her mother thinks and just wear the clothes.
This morning Stacy (in her 50’s) put on a pair of white pants and a red and white short sleeve shirt. She noticed that the top button on the blouse had to be sewn back on. So when Stacy got the sewing kit the following conversation took place. The mom is in her 80’s)
Stacy and her mom were both standing outside of Stacy’s bedroom.
Mom: That was your sister on my telephone†Stacy does not share a phone with her mom. They each have their own with their own phone numbers.
Stacy: “Ohâ€Â
Then Stacy’s mom looked at Stacy’s blouse and saw something sticking out on the bottom of the blouse
Mom: “I think it is tornâ€Â
Stacy: “Let me look†and she did and then said “No it is a piece of stringâ€Â
Mom: “I think you have a small stain near it as wellâ€Â
Stacy: “I know when I was having breakfast I spilled a drop of coffee on itâ€Â
Then Stacy went into her room to get the clothes shaver to shave off the piece of string.
Stacy: “Mom how does the blouse look, I shaved the string offâ€Â
Mom: “Fineâ€Â
Stacy feels that her mom will scrutinize every thing she wears and make comments. Stacy knows that if there is a rip in the blouse it can be mended to look like new and if there is stain it can be washed out or dry cleaned. You see Stacy buys sweaters, blouses, blazers at the 99 cent store and they are gorgeous the ones she buys. However, a few of the ones Stacy purchased did have stains which Stacy can either dry clean or wash, depending upon the material. Stacy always dresses beautifully and gets compliments on what she wears . Her mother gets compliments once-in-awhile. Also Stacy starts to feel self-conscious if her mother makes a comment and her mother makes her feel there is something wrong if Stacy does what Stacy wants. Stacy doesn’t know how to ignore it and just do what she wants without feeling terrible like something is wrong with wearing it if her mom points something minor out about the blouse that no one else would really notice.
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