Is she to big for this?

Question

I babysit for a little tiny 7 year old. She was adopted from China as a baby and was a sick baby. She is better now, but looks more like a two year old instead of a 7 year old. Her mom BABIES her soooo much. (but she isnt a brat, she is really thoughtful and nice) but her mom puts her in a stroller when they go shopping, and Molly (the 7 yr olds name) is still in a crib. She isnt allowed to get out of it, either. She has to wait until her mom gets her out, and sometimes Molly has to wait for hours. What is your opinion on this? Should she be out of a crib? I think so.

BTW- ya know that at some places "2 and under" get in for free? Molly's mom puts her in a stroller and says she is two!

Answer 1

i suppose if she's really the size of a 2yr old she may tire easy and the mother  feels a pushchair will help.. i know a girl who's almost 7yr old and because of a growth problem she looks more like a3-4yr old (my 11yr old as the same condition and looks about 7-8yr old)..  this other little girl does use a pushchair at times because she has some mobility problems.. too much walking and her feet swell up and she limps with the pain.. That said she's sleeping in a proper bed.

If Molly has no mobility problems she should be walking even if she is tiny..

Answer 2

yes, too old for this. now is the time that she is learning the world and who is safe and not. nothing you are saying is healthy for her.

Answer 3

It just sounds like her mom is doing these things so they are convenient for her. She needs to let the 7 year old be a 7 year old. The child needs to walk and learn to be independant otherwise she can have problems depending on people when she gets older.

Answer 4

Yes, I think she is.

Answer 5

Wow, 7 years old, ya she should be out of a crib and a stroller. Her mom should not be take advantage of Mollys height to get her in for free. That is just horrible.

And leaving her in the crib for hours, wow, i would have to say that is close to neglect. THat is just horrible.

Her mom is not letting her grow up. That is so sad. I feel awful for that little girl. Is there a father involved? What does he do? Does he treat her the same way?

Answer 6

I think she is too big for a lot of this, but think of the mom's perspective. Taking care of a really sick baby like that is a traumatic experience. We are not used to seeing babies so helpless and frail like that, and having to take care of one really sick traumatizes a lot of people. They remember that sight in their minds for a really long time, and they are scared that if they aren't super careful, the child could get sick again, so they do whatever it takes not to let that happen.

She could just be really scared that if she doesn't take extra extra over the top good care of her, she will fall ill again, so she's being paranoid. It's pretty common.

On the other hand, she shouldn't be lying and saying she's 2 to get in free, that's just wrong.