For transracial APs, we are often asked if our kids are "really ours" when we're at the mall/park or in line at the grocery store (I've gotten used to it), but have you ever been asked to prove it? At my daughter's nursery school, the admins asked us to bring in pics of hubby and I, so they can keep them on file. When we queried, they said that it was an added safety precaution. They said that because we are white, they thought it might be safer to have our pictures so teachers who might not be aware of her adoption don't become confused when we pick her up. The school has a very stringent release policy, which is one of the reasons we chose the school. "We want to avoid any possible abductions," they said (Gulp). They thought they had offended us, but any extra safety, well, bring it on. They also do this for racially mixed families. Another friend, however, brought her child to a specialist and she was asked to prove her child was really hers? Has anyone else experienced this?
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