Is sneaking out a normal teenage thing to do??

Question

so i am 14 1/2 and last nite i snuck out of my house for the first time. when i came back at 5am my bro was downstairs and saw me come in. i told him not to tell and he promised he wouldnt but later that night i made him mad and he blackmailed me.

me and my mom talked and i told her that it was normal for people my age to sneak out of the house at night.

she told me that it wasnt and that it was from my childhood ADHD; that i couldnt control certain impulses which just isnt true at all.

how can i reassure her that sneaking out is a normal thing and that i will be smart and safe about it?

Answer 1

LOL FUNNY SNEAKING OUT IS A "COMMON" (NOT NORMAL) TEEN THING... ITS JUST APART OF GROWING UP AND FEELING RESTRICTED BY YOUR AGE AND PARENTS.... THEIR REALLY IS NO WAY TO REASSURE UR MOM THAT YOU WILL BE "SAFE AND SMART" ABOUT IT... BECAUSE SHE DOESNT WANT YOU SNEAKING OUT IN THE FIRST PLACE BECAUSE SHE CARES ABOUT YOU, IF SHE DIDNT CARE THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR  YOU TO SNEAK OUT.... IF SHE DIDINT CARE SHE WOULDNT SET A CURFEW FOR YOU... IF SHE DIDNT CARE YOU WOULDNT HAVE TO SNEAK OUT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.... IM NOT ENCOURAGING YOU BUT I WILL SAY THIS: "IF YOU ARE GOING TO SNEAK OUT, PLEASE DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID. DONT LET ANYONE PRESSURE YOU INTO DOING SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO DO. DONT PUT YOURSELF IN A DANGEROUS SITUATION... AND OH YEAH DONT GET CAUGHT" LOL=-}

Answer 2

Umm, not to be rude or anything, but I don't think sneaking out is a normal thing at all! I'm 17 and I've never snuck out, and I never plan to. None of my friends have ever snuck out either... it's not worth it. If you want to go somewhere, especially at 14 years old, have your parents approve it and drive you there and back home - if you're not doing that, then you're not being "smart and safe" about it.

Answer 3

Not necessarily all teenagers sneak out.  She is right though the only reason you do it is because your a teenager.  Teens make poor decisions.  There isn't a smart and safe way about sneaking out.  The only reason one sneaks out is to do something crazy and most likely illegal.  If you were to get caught you could have ended up in Juvie as a runaway.  Even if you simply went out for a walk.  If you were to get in a car after midnight with another friend keep in mind there are curfew laws.  Where I live after midnight no teenager is allowed on the road until 6 in the morning.  Pretty much its not smart or safe.  Funny thing is I am sixteen and I am telling you this.  Also I have snuck out but you know what I did was TP a house and that's technically disturbing someone else's property.  Not all my friends sneak out.  It's not necessarily normal just acting out. Sorry I know that's not what you wanted to hear.

Answer 4

"Normal" is not the right word I think.

It is common, but that doesn't make it good or right.

Perhaps you should instead talk about extending your curfew,

or asking for certain nights/event in which you'll be out to a later hour.

Answer 5

i wouldnt try to assure her that its normal and that you'll be safe about it b/c that might just make it worse, but honestly i've snuck out before me n my best friend did the other night (it was so much fun lol) but the point is it's not right and that's probably going to be the last time i do it b/c it is dangerous and u never know what could happen so i wouldnt suggest trying to assure your mom you'll be safe when sneaking out the house