Is something wrong??

Question

I know a young woman who has a tendency to confuse relationships with simply knowing facts about a person. This might be hard to describe.. but I mean she tends to try to find out a lot of concrete information about people and then feels as if she is close to them, even if they don't feel especially close to her. She also seems to be in pursuit of certain milestones in relationships with people (eg. saying "you're my friend" or a hug etc) instead of focusing on actually developing a close relationship. She seems content with the more concrete aspects of humanity.

My question is: is this something that could be indicative of some kind of problem or disorder, and if so what? And what should be done about it?

Answer 1

My guess would be that the person is insecure and has low self esteem.  She might try to find out facts about people to find something to talk about because she is desperate to have a close friend.

Answer 2

shes jsut lonely  

Answer 3

What an interesting question!  Has this tendency ever been pointed out to her?  Maybe she's not aware of what she's doing.  I would imagine that if it's something she can't help that there's possibly some sort of social disorder involved.  I hate to be the type of person to throw around the term "Asberger's," but it's a possibility.  As for what can be done, I suppose that has more to do with her age and your relationship with her.  I'm curious to see what others have to say to you.  :)

Answer 4

Maybe she's just a clingy person.