My Ex's approach, and subsequent actions, is extremely suspect. Is it a custody ploy? Or is it really the new step Mom (SM) that is the at the root of all of this? Ex never would own up to being ADD himself, yet he's h**l bent on having our son being diagnosed with it. Why? Ex initiated it with son's pediatrician as 'we are concerned about son's behavior, we think it's due to his mother's excessive drinking during pregnancy' (a heinous lie/attack) He was sneaky and silent about his approach and handing ADD questionairre forms to pre-school and then kindergatern teachers every step of the way, trying to keep me in the dark. The sneakyness and silence didn't stop after he was busted. Now he's slanting the test results and providing to the pediatrician inaccurate/duplicate/false forms. It doesn't make sense that the Ex would want his son defined as ADD. It would make sense that SM would, I know who she's married to and what she has to go through.
SM's questionairre is suspect to her and my son having a problem. She rated him as Very Much Cruel, very much this that and the other, whereas his teachers and myself are on the polar end. The highest test results came from both SM (20) and Ex (15), then pre-school (13 and at a time that a wretched wretched child was a horrid influence on my child). I am concerned Ex will get son labeled,amongst many many many other things. I want my son to have a fair shake before he is labeled and on psychotropic mind altering medications for a lifetime. I believe it's a dicipline issue - not ADD. Given that ADD is heretitary, I would not be surprised if it ends up to be ADD, But ADD is so commonly misdiagnosed and there is proof that my son is gifted - which is commonly mis-diagnosed as ADD. He was tested for being gifted, but lacked the patience so he was not accepted into the program. There is a major power struggle going on. Ex is CONSTANTLY cramming SM down my throat at any and every chance he can. What is really going on? I'm in too deep and need some flies on the wall to bounce back some views. PS - I never speak badly about my Ex or the SM anywhere near my child - NEVER. I make a point of speaking up nicely about them with my son. Also, unless you have actually gone back to court and won full custody based on premises as such, Plz don't presume it's so easy to accomplish. I cherish and adore my only child - he is my life, my heart, my everything.
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