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Is surrogate motherhood a better alternetive to adoption?

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Is surrogate motherhood a better alternetive to adoption?

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  1. I was appalled by what Margot tenentbaum wrote saying she hated adoption and IVF.

    Are you trying to say that those who suffer from infetility do not deserve to be parents???? Yes it is ALWAYS best to put the childs need before ones own but just because i suffer from infertility does not mean that i do not have a right to one day be a mother! Just because you can get pregnant does not mean you deserve to be a mother. Infertiltiy is devasting and i am soo tired of people making comments that our feelings do not count and we are just needy. I do want a child and yes i do want what is best for that Child and i think adoption is a great thing!!!


  2. I really don't think so.  The child still has a bond with the mother who carried him/her, no matter who's egg and sperm is inside her.  And if the child is created from her egg, then the same identity issues apply.

  3. Absolutely not!  It is illegal in most countries because it's unethical and never in the best interests of the child

  4. you should adopt... i was

  5. I don't think so.  There are a whole lot of ethical issues involved with surrogacy that we're just scratching the surface.  Childbearing is not a risk free process, by any stretch of the imagination and I question the ethical validity of paying someone to put their life and health at risk for the purposes of providing a child for a family that wants one.  

    I'm sympathetic to WHY people would want to use a surrogate mother, but I just can't get around that point.

  6. Not for the child. Way worse - in my opinion.

    At least in adoption - children are usually told that they come from another family - but in surrogacy - it's a whole pretend game.

    Messy head-space for children to be placed in.

    Genetics is a huge part of our make-up. At LEAST 50%.

    Children need to know - personally - of the people they are genetically related to - for better self identity - and self worth.

    Secrets and lies in surrogacy could too easily lead to the child just never being told their truth.

    Adoption is about (should be about) caring for children that can no longer be cared for by their bio relatives.

    Surrogacy is about making designer babies - for the sake of making babies - for the sake of the adults - not for the sake of the children.

    Slippery slope.

    I don't like.

  7. My best friend and I always promised if one of us couldnt have children we'd be surrogates for each other.

    I think if the surrogate is someone you know and a part of the babies life, there is no problem. after all, you can explain to the child from the time they start to understand that you wanted them so much that *so and so* helped mummy and daddy out with bringing them into the world.

  8. NO!  I know I have posted a number of times regarding my views on surrogacy, IVF, and assisted reproduction in general, but to reiterate, I find the entire practice of assisted reproduction to be abhorrent  and would love to see all IVF and surrogacy banned outright.

    Sorry, I got called away.  To continue....Surrogacy is accomplished almost exclusively through IVF (occasionally a surrogate will agree to use her own egg and be artificially inseminated).  IVF entails artificially manufacturing embryos in a petri-dish, which in and of itself is disgusting.  But this also means that, because the sperm is artificially injected into the egg, and therefore not gauranteed to be the strongest, fittest of the group as would happen in nature, many embryos must be created in order to increase the chances of a healthy one.  

    Also, many embryos must be created in order to increase the chance of the pregancy taking in the uterus after transfer.  This means that there are hundreds of thousands "extra" embryos created that are never used, they are kept frozen indefinitely and eventually destroyed.  It's a callous and disgusting disregard for human life.  These embryos are just THINGS to be created and discarded at whim.

    It gets worse.  After the transfer of multiple embryos, if too many of them begin to grow, the excess growing fetuses will be "reduced", which is just a euphemism for killing them by injecting them with a saline solution.  Left  behind are only one or two fetuses, however many the parents desire to mature to full term.  At birth, often these dead fetuses are then delivered along with the placentas.  It's enough to make one gag to think these fetuses were purposely created, and then killed all to fill someone's need for a baby.

    Added to all of this is the socio-economic aspect of using less advantaged persons to provide the genetic material and gestational womb to make these babies.  The donor eggs and sperm that are often used when either the egg and/or sperm of the parent's are not viable are collected mainly from college students who are notoriously hard-up for cash.  Pick up any college paper and you will read the ads offering cash for eggs and sperm.  

    Egg donation is an extremely uncomfortable procedure that can, and does sometimes leave the woman infertile later in life.  Sperm collection is comparatively easy (therefore pays less) but in both cases the collecting is being done from young, naive persons who often cannot fathom how such a choice will later impact their lives.  They do not think of the impact of not knowing whether they have children somewhere out there, and in the woman's case, perhaps not being able to have her own at a later time.

    The surrogate, is most always a woman from a lower socio-economic class than the intended parent(s), who are often very wealthy and compensate the surrogate for her discomfort and the risk to her health.  The whole scenario just smacks of elitism.  It makes me sick to my stomach.  

    The latest trend, is for infertile parent(s) to obtain the donor egg and/or sperm from an "exclusive" donor bank that boasts donors who are only Ivy League students with high IQ's or otherwise more genetically desirable DNA providers.  ADOPTION?!  Why raise some crack hoe's baby, when we could have our own DESIGNER baby, daaah-ling.  I can just hear the conversation around the Country Club..."Oh, for the sperm we got a Harvard Graduate, and the Egg was provided by a Julliard-trained Violinist.  We have Great Expectations for our little Muffy!  Do tell, what were your donors?"  

    Talk about messed up.  As much as I hate adoption, and I feel that adoption can mess with your head...how would knowing you were some freaking designer child mess with your head?   Or, worse yet, how about NEVER KNOWING...since most parents never, ever tell there little donor offspring that they aren't their biological children and that they were made inside a petri-dish.  

    How about finding that out by accident from a drunken uncle at some Christmas dinner when you're 25?

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