Is talking about s*x with your fiance is ok before marriage??

Question

Is it ok to talk about s*x with your fiancee before marriage. Is it ok to share your sexual views and ideas.??

Answer 1

If your religious beliefs allow it without giving guilt to either one of you.  For you to ask the question, I can assume safely that you are not American? ;o).  Americans have s*x without marriage ever being a factor, so most can not qualify to answer.

Talk to your fiance lightly first, see how he/she reacts, tell her/him it is imporatnt to you and you would like her to be your friend, as well as wife/husband. If you are hesitant about the marriage because you can not communicate about it yet, wait until you are completely sure what you both want...

Answer 2

Its absolutely ok! but yes your partner shouldn't feel odd if the topic is against her thinking that s*x is the topic discussed after marriage! Infact now you can both talk about it, fantasize n later after marriage make your fatacy true!It will be a wonderful feeling n experiance!

Answer 3

It is not just ok but a must.

Answer 4

Why not you can always talk to her depends on the kind of relations u guys share at this moment. Also i feel it should not be u u first and then me. Some times even guys can ask and make it clear about the intentions at first place. Talking about s*x is not actually doing s*x. Your talk should be such that it should not offend your fiancee and also should in no way harm your relations.

Answer 5

is it u r really asking us

why  u believe that is not righteous

well lets see

if u r not in any religion than do anything who cares about it

and there is nothing to stop me frm doing what is i think

Answer 6

Its absolutely essential so talk away ! its the only way you get to know each other.

Good luck

Answer 7

WTF are you like jewish or something??

Answer 8

YES,

Answer 9

yes u should but it should be in decent way not to misunderstand in it!!!

Answer 10

One is going to indulge in s*x after marriage and it is fine if you talk about it.

Answer 11

can't say!

Answer 12

it is a good idea, if you're not doing it before marriage then you at least need to talk about it. how else will you know the other will ever want to do it? if you are going to marry someone you need to know everyhting about them, and if you aren't going to be physical you should talk about what you will expect when you are... plus it will build up the excitement and make it better when you do it

Answer 13

you can even perform if you have urges

Answer 14

Yes, you definitely should be talking about s*x with the person that you plan to marry. It's very difficult on a marriage when two people find out that they have very different ideas about s*x. I've met too many people who should have talked about things like that first. What if your idea of what is normal and healthy is totally different from your that of your future spouse?

As one of my friends once said in a fit of wisdom: good s*x makes for about 10% of a marriage, but bad s*x can make up 90%. In other words, if the nookie is good and compatible, then the two of you are far more likely to be able to weather other things that you do not see eye to eye on. If the s*x is NOT good, then the two of you are far more likely to fight about other things, too.

Yes, talk about it!

and about children, and finances, and vacations, and housing, and in-laws, and...

Ideally, you only want to get married once, right? So make sure that you have the best match that you can or that you deal with the differences you can before instead of after you wed.  

Answer 15

as far as u not meet him phisically.

Answer 16

s*x is not everything after marriage.

A LOT of planning, future directions, etc are to be in there...

Its surely OK and essential to talk about s*x and even more than that.

Answer 17

Uh huh. Maybe give it a trial run... wouldnt be fun to marry a dud.

Answer 18

of course.......if you wont talk yuh might have troubles in your life

Answer 19

It is perfectly fine. I talked to my fiancee lots about it and we imagined what it would be like on our wedding night our first night together. It is ok! dont worry...it is perfectly normal...

Answer 20

If you havent had s*x within 3 days of meeting your girlfriend then you are not a real man.

Answer 21

Of course.

I mean,  you plan on spending the rest of your lives together,  you should know as much about each other as possible.

Answer 22

You should be talking about it and a lot of other things too.