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Is talking to an unknown female when ur married cheating? ?

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My husband has been getting advice from a women he was trying to have s*x wit before we got married and he get can't give me a reason y he is still calling her. And he said that it's not sexual he just trying to get advice to see how can can make our relationship better. Does that really make sense? I think NOT!

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Put aside the whole s*x thing. If he needs to vent about your marriage he should be dealing with it through his guy friends over a few beers. You should say something about that before pointing any fingers. If it gets really sketchy get to the bottom of it, but in a civil manner if thats any way possible
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....That's a tough one.. It really depends on your husband and how much you trust him.. Trust is essential , in LOVE. Examine your true feelings and decide if you trust him, or not. A serious issue, certainly.

If you decide that you don't, you have every right to demand that he doesn't communicate with her. Best of Luck, Tony62
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No it doesnt and you already know that, but it is a good cover. if he wanted advice about how to make your relationship better he should be asking you.
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ok listen closely i had the same problem with my husband he kept telling me that they were just friends and they used to work together well she was let go but they kept talking everytime i turned around there were more and more lies!!! there is a question in my profile that i asked the same ??? but what i did was well........ i was backed into a corner so i tried to become friends w her first did NOT work out so i told him that i felt very uncomfortable with the whole situation and it was ME his wife and our life together or her and if it really bothers you that much tell him the same thing. it worked for me he said our family was more important than there friendship goodluck sweety msg me i am usually on after my kids go to bed so we can talk if you'd like k
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If he's never had s*x with her or has never been in a relationship with her then how can she help your relationship? He's probably asking her how he can cheat on you, sorry.
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If he was trying to sleep with her then, he's probably planning to do so now. To be honest, the answer is right in front of you. I would consider this cheating. If I were married, I'd want to know every single one of my husband's friends or contacts and I would want him to know my friends too.

If he's not telling you something this important, you need to reevaluate this situation. Marriage should not have secrets.

Hope everything works out, and if doesn't...well, the world is half-filled by men. We've got plenty of reserves ;]
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no it's not cheating. but! he needs to not do that.

1 day he's going to run into someone that is having problems of her own and his problems and her problems might just be similiar and it might be a way for both of them to solve two problems with one stone.

make that two stones and one BAT.

he should concentrate on his wife more, kids more, the house more, sports more, hobbies more, gifts, going out, wining and dining more.

get it? good.

that's all folks!
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That's just sick.  He's asking OTHER women how to make YOUR relationship better?  When a man's in an exclusive relationship, especially marriage he should NEVER discuss his marriage or relationship in detail with another woman.

He's either just a complete idiot, or he's getting ready to hook up with her.  No one in their right mind would put up with this.

Yes, it's cheating because he's having personal conversations with her that only YOU should have with him. No man in a relationship should CONFIDE in another woman.  That is disrespecting the sanctity of your marriage.

And if he thinks he's got to make your relationship better, what's that saying about your relationship.  My god he's a dog.  It's not you, you just married a dud.  Ick.  I'd lose him if he doesn't wise up and I'd never trust him if he doesn't stop.  Therefore I couldn't live with him, get what I'm saying?
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Red Flag Girl!! don't fall for it!! yes thats cheating no matter how you look at it....
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Normally i would say who care if a guy but in this case i agree its shady. i would be pi$$ed
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Relationship advice from a former would-be lover? If your relationship is in need of help, see a counselor.

Yes, it's okay to speak to people of the opposite s*x when married...and befriend them. However if the contact is sexual or intimate (verbal, online, or physical) then it is cheating.
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If there's anyone he should be speaking with on how he can make the marriage better, it should be you, not some strange female. His behavior is very inappropriate.
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If he tried to have s*x with her before, why not now. I'll say it's shady!
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Leave the phone book open under divorce attorney. Tell him if he continues to even have contact with the b-word you will file. Call the B-word and tell her if she doesn't stay out your lives you will hand him over to her and SHE can deal with the problem. You don't mention if kids are involved. If there are no kids, cut loose and dump the lying bum. If you are a newly wed you may be able to annul the marriage as fraudulent. If you have kids leave him and see if the bimbo wants a man paying child support. Get a backbone and don't be a doormat!
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h**l nawl it don't make sense! Even if he is using your relationship as a topic while talking to her. He jus using ya'll relationship problem as a tactic to get to her by sympathy. Girl, address the issue to him now. Don't buy that B.S
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He needs to be talking to you about how to make your relationship better NOT another woman.
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TELL HIM THERE ARE LICENSED COUNSELORS OUT THERE NOT SOME UNKNOWN TRICK ONLINE..GIVE ME A BREAK..HES SUCH A LOSER WITH THAT ANSWER
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You're right. Sounds like listening to sexual advice is getting him a little excited about what the other woman can do to spice up a fun time. If he wants advice he should talk to you about the things you can do that you haven't done, things you would be comfortable or uncomfortable doing. That's making your marriage more successful. The other woman might be feeling hot talking to your husband and the things he could be telling her that he does with you. TO ME THAT SOUNDS LIKE TROUBLE. EVEN MARRIAGE ENDING.
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sounds like a good cover story for him.... he should be talking to you about making your relationship better.......... not someone he wants to have s*x with..... the next thing you know he will be "trying" things out on her...of course only to see if she liked it and then it may work on you..... i wouldn't play second fiddle.... would you???
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Nope, it doesn't make sense and your feeling is correct. He's seeking emotional "assistance" in order to keep in contact with this other woman - in other words he's having an emotional affair with her.

If you have no trust, you have no relationship.
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