Is texting cheating?

Question

I met this guy while running errands one day. He was taking down information for surveys. we can exchanged numbers so we talk some more about the survey another day because I had to go. He is married so am I, but soon to be separated. We both have children. When I met with him again to complete the surveys I was smitten. We had a great conversation. He kind of hinted to wanting to see me again but never came out and said so. We've been texting everyday late night into the night and sometimes all night until morning. Nothing sexual just about life and our interests and children. He said if his situation were different perhaps we could have a relationship I feel the same way. Should we stop texting and move on with our lives or just maintain our casual freindship? Although deep down I know he would be the perfect guy for me

Answer 1

I understand you are soon to be seperated but if you are having thoughts this guy is the "perfect" one I recommend you leave him alone.  Cheating is best defined as doing things you wouldn't want the other person to know about...especially since you have children...do you think your children deserve for you to try to work things out with your husband?  What if your husband was doing what you are doing...I don't think you should tell him how you feel as well because it is irrelevant...I am not trying to lecture you but please remember your vows, "For better or for worse"...Try this and see how it works...but please give it a full effort.  Take the time you spend thinking about this other man and think about how you could improve your relationship.  But hey, that's just how I think...It just me

Answer 2

How do you know he would be the perfect guy for you?  Can you tell that by a relationship of texts?  I'm quite sure your husband was the perfect guy as well.  Stop playing games.  If you are interested in him then be with him...but whoa!...he's married.  Move on before someone really gets hurt like his wife or your husband.

Answer 3

You don't have to completely stop texting, just put it on hold while you separate/divorce.  If the spouse were to find out, he could use this against you in court.

Answer 4

Now this is a good one ,I t depends on intent,Its what you know inside of of you.You know what u really want from the other and u no it  

Answer 5

go for it

Answer 6

He knows that he should not be doing what he is doing, and so do you.  It is emotional cheating.  you and he are sharing the things that you both should be sharing with the respective spouses.  That is not fair to your spouses.  How would you appreciate it if you were his wife, in bed at night, and he was sneaking around texting some other woman?  You wouldn't, and he is not being fair to her.  You are not being fair to your husband by not ending it now, so he can go on and find a person that will love him and want to be his wife.  

You are both selfish people.  you and he both need to reassess what your perception of marriage is.  You both took vows that committed you to be honest faithful, and stand by each other in good times and bad.  maybe you both need to take your spouses to marriage counseling instead of trying to console yourselves with each other in a sneaky, underhanded way.

Answer 7

Number 1 - He is a charmer.

Number 2 - He is a cheater.

Number 3 - He is not the perfect guy for you.

You are getting divorced and you are probably not cheating. Has he said that he is getting divorced? NO

Your words are: "He said if his situation were different perhaps we could have a relationship."

I am afraid that he is just having a little fun with you and there is no way to know if he isn't doing the same thing with another girl as he is doing with you.

Answer 8

Its not REALLY considered cheating, but both of you have children & are in a marriage, i think you should consider each other good friends.

Answer 9

you are having intimate conversations with this guy. Yes, you are cheating. If you can't accept that then you have issues. Again, if it isn't getting in your head - Yes. You have cheated on your husband with guy. Cheating doesn't have to be sexual. Again, if you haven't gotten it yet - Yes. You are cheating on your husband. You have commited adultery.

Answer 10

You have more than one question in here...

first...texting is cheating if you are hiding it....

second...if you are about to be seperated from your husband, then you need time to yourself...the last thing you need to do is jump into another unhealthy relationship.  That is what this would be because it starts with secrets & lying...and he is still married.  Most of the time, men do not leave their wives because they don't have to...there is always some woman who is ok with being the other woman.  So, you need to decide if you are ok with that.  Good luck!

Answer 11

Oh come ONNNNNN... You KNOW deep inside you are smitten with this guy (said so yourself) you are being deceitful and secretly fantasising about where this could go etc. It IS most definately cheating and I have one thing to ask you-

Picture this all happening behind your back, except it is your husband doing it to YOU with some chick.

How do you feel?

What are the consequenses of you doing this, not only to your husband but to his wife and all the children involved?

Quit it immediately and focus your affection on your husband or let him go.

Answer 12

Sound like you're cheating with your heart to me, so yes, texting is cheating.

There's too many people involved - and all of them will get hurt.  If he's the perfect guy, go ahead and tear your family and his family apart.  But don't kid yourself into thinking that you can continue a 'casual friendship' with him.

Answer 13

If you will only maintain a casual friendship and nothing more...then I say it would be okay to text each other. Especially if you're conversations aren't intimate. However, if deep down inside you want there to be something more than friendship, it'll be a lot healthier for you and for his marriage for you folks to stop the texting.  

Answer 14

Hi. I think that it would be best if you two both remained casual friends like you said so yourself. You said you are soon to be seperated right? Well what about him, if you fall for him, and are heads over heels about him, and he is happily married, then circumstances are a conflict is going to result. I wouldn't really consider texting to someone else cheating, unless its about s*x, and saying i love you to amongst one another. Its really up to you though, you can make the right choices.

- take it ez.