Is that how you want your daughter to remember all these events?

Question

I am 13, and when I was in 5th grade, instead of normally brying me privatly bra shopping, my mom brings me and my 9 year old sister to the mall. When we are in Limited Too, she grabs 2 bras and puts them on the counter with our purchase. Never a further discussion then that.

Then when I was maybe 4th grade, I saw an ad for a tampon on TV and asked what it was. My mom said a breif thing about your period, and that's how I know about it. She then bought me a book and I have health class. I didn't really respond to her "discussion" in 5th grade she apparently "tried to have with me", so she stopped trying.

I started shaving at the end of 6th grade. I just took my moms razor and did what I had to do. I knew just taught myself how to do it. To this day, my mom has noticed my legs and is yet to buy me my own razor.

I also got my period. The only reason she knew is because I put the (at one point full) bag of pads that was now half empty to the front of the cabinent....(more)

Answer 1

My mom gave me a book to read about cows. Still don't understand what she was trying to accomplish with that.

She never wanted to talk about anything. I learned a lot by reading "Forever" and "Are You There God Its Me Margret".

My friend also shared information whenever we got it. I am very open with my children and when the time comes, I am gonna give them the facts.

Answer 2

i grew up with my dad and grandpa... i had to teach myself all of this...

why are you making such a big deal out of all this?

Answer 3

3 of my girls have gotten their periods so far and we didn't have any special "woman's day", neither did I have one with my mother.  I don't feel bad that my mother didn't do this with me.  There is so much (if misguided) information being passed out in health class now that some parents just don't talk to their children anymore.  Sit and talk to her.  She may feel that you already know and doesn't want to give you a talk that she doesn't feel is necessary.  I talked to my girls about bras, I told them I thought they should start wearing them and took them to buy them for them.  Nothing special.  My girls and I have very open relationships.  They can talk to me about anything and do.  We treat everything as if it is an everyday thing, because it is.  If you need a new razor or box of pads because you have run out, just let your mom know.

Answer 4

This is kinda sad.  Im sorry.  You should try and talk to your mother about these things, let her know how you feel.  My family was just allways so open about these things.  Maybe these topics make your mom feel uncomfortable.  But you need to let her know that you would rather talk to her about these issues than learn about them somewhere else.  Yahoo Answers for ex.

Answer 5

yes it is

Answer 6

I feel like I could've written this word for word. But honestly, not talking to my mom about all of these things didn't really bother me. I just did what I needed to do and we all moved on. I'm glad my mom didn't do some crazy "women's day" when I had my period. The only reason she knew I had my period was because she was the trash in the bathroom, and I didn't even know if she saw that until years later.

If you need new bras, or tampons, or razors, just tell her that or throw them in the shopping cart next time you're out shopping.

Answer 7

if it makes you feel any better , when i was 9-10 all my mom did was read the definition out of the dictionary !!! i was not paying attention.... later when i did start { i was 10 1/2 } i was shocked to say the least..i thought i was dying !!!  she gave my pads and then said i would stop in a few days....she never explained that i would have it happen every month from then on.... talk about an eye opener when i found out that info !!!

Answer 8

Pull your mom aside and tell her how you feel. Al of the events you named were important. Tell her!! Hope this helps.

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Answer 9

Parents should engender in their children a willingness to openly and honestly discuss all kinds of subjects.  Parents should anticipate life's milestones in their children's lives and prepare them for it before it happens.

My daughters discussed with me menses and childbearing while they were still preteens.  When my daughter had her first period, she already knew what was happening, what to do and the importance of this step on her way to becoming a full blown woman.

I took the same type of learning with my sons as well.  One is now a retired Army officer and the other is a Naval war hero still serving in the military.

I am a retired Naval officer (and a father).

Answer 10

Sadly, I know some families that are like this. I know a ten year old girl that got hers and was basically traumatized. Her mom told her nothing about it. She cried when my daughter told her she would have to tell her mom, so that she could get products and learn about it. My daughters know about the period from as long as I can remember. It's just natural.

You should print this out and start it with Dear Mom.. and sign your name. Leave it on her pillow. Some moms are just kinda clueless... and they may think you don't wanna talk about it.

Answer 11

I'm so sorry that you're mom wasn't there for you. Those can be very scary milestones in a young girl's life. Those are times when she needs an older woman to guide her. You mom probably never had that experience where an older female helped her. She probably figures that if she can do it on her own, so can you. Or maybe she grew up in a place or time where it was unacceptable for young women to discuss their changing bodies. Have you tried to mention your concerns with your mother? I saw that you said you guys talked, but it never really went further than that. =\. If your mother is not able to be there for you, try leaning on a friend, or someone you can trust who has been there for you. I know my little sister is going through some of that, but she doesn't like to talk about it...even though my mom and I want to help. Another thing that could be bothering your mom, or stopping her from helping you, is that maybe when she went through these stages, she was made fun of or was unintentionally scarred by someone she idolized. Keep your head up! You're doing great! Sometimes you have to learn things on your own...and that's going to be the hardest lesson of all.

I wish you the best. And when in doubt, use your resources =).

Answer 12

Honey, Im so sorry. I was lucky, my mom and grandmother always talked to me about stuff. When I started my period at age 12 my brother who was 17 at the time, started singing at the supper table, this girl is a woman now.....our  family talked about everything. Some people just cant communicate like that. When you have a daughter, you will do it differently...good luck

Answer 13

I'll want my daughter to remember us talking about it years before it ever happened, and remember being at ease in coming to me when it was time. I couldn't imagine just sweeping it under the rug like nothing, thats horrible.