Is the Domestic Discipline lifestyle degrading to women?

Question

Why do some husbands administer DD onto their wives (ie-spanking & the like)? Would you become a part of this? Do you think it is degrading to women? I am somewhat interested in the lifestyle for the future but I just recently heard of it...Thoughts?

Answer 1

Its kinky s*x for Christians.  BDSM.

It appeals to crazy people.

"DD can also look good to a woman who wants to be free from having to make decisions, or taking responsibility in life. All responsibility falls on the husband and the wife is relegated to child status. If she does not live up to her responsibility she gets a spanking, and that's the end of it. There is little effort or motivation to grow into a mature woman of God."

Gimme a break.

Discipline is for puppies and children, not grown ups.

Answer 2

Do some women administer Domestic Discipline to their husbands

Answer 3

I see nothing degrading about DD it's a wonderful alternative to D/s.  D/s can be "too much" for some couples and/or imposable to maintain with life pressures. DD however is basically a strict take on traditional roles.

Answer 4

On initial appraisal and on surface understanding of the lifestyle, it is degrading, but for the men and women who practice it it helps them to express their sexual natures and their gender identitys and to receive pleasure in that sense. Regardless of what others say about it being strictly disciplinary, it is not. Both partners derive sexual gratification from it at some point. The woman irrevocably understand that her man is a man and is aroused by that. I am conflicted in that at an instinctual and visceral level, I desire this kind of relationship but intellectually and predicating everything on my own self respect, I think it is degrading. I am as smart as any man, I am as capable, why should I be disciplined, you know? But in terms of finding peace within myself and eschewing my ego, It definitely appeals to me.

Answer 5

Personally I would find it degrading, but I suppose if the woman fully agrees to it and is comfortable with it than no. I see it much like p**n and stripping, the woman has the ability to choose he situation.  But it seems like there are awfully bing risks involved.

EDIT- I think there is a higher risk of Domestic Discipline turning into an abusive situation that in most other relationships.

Answer 6

I don't think any consensual choice is degrading or abusive. Domestic Discipline is usually done to emphasise the man as the head of the household, and many couples say it brings them closer because it maintains the power exchange that works best for them. I'm into BDSM rather than DD, and I don't think it'd work for me because spanking is a pleasure rather than a punishment. DD does enforce gender roles quite strongly, but as long is everyone involved is happy with that then I think it's fine. :)

Answer 7

I think the intentions of this lifestyle is to be degrading sometimes, and sometimes just authoritative. Also, it's not just men disciplining wives, but also sometimes wives disciplining husbands.

Answer 8

A ship has to be run tight and the captain must sometime dicipline the sailors if they get out of line.

If the captain does not dicipline the sailor, it takes the risk of mutiny or even the sinking of the ship.

A marriage is like a ship and its better to have dicipline now than to sink it later (divorce). Not all styles of dicipline are physical some are emotional.  But a (reasonable) spanking have never really hurt anyone except in the ego.

Answer 9

The reason my husband does it is because I suggested it to him, which seems to be the case with the majority of couples who practise DD.  he does enjoy doing it, and he can see that it gets results, but he would not have thought of it of his own accord if I had not suggested it.

if you visit any DD site on the internet, you will find them full of women who are longing for DD relationships, but can't find someone to have one with, their husbands aren't interested, don't want to be HOH, don't want to be in charge etc, there are a lot of very, very frustrated women about who want this but can't get it.

if you do want it, and you do get it, it can improve your relationship no end, as it has done with my husband and I.  We communicate better, we get along better, we have far fewer rows, we're  much more relaxed with each ohter, we are more considerate of each other's feelings, and I am much more strongly physically attracted to him.  These seem (judging by what I have read on the Internet) to be pretty well universal results of introducing this dynamic into a relationship.

Most of the DD sites I belong to have a few couples where it is the woman who is HOH and the man who is disciplined, but they are in the minority.  And there are also some L*****n couples who practise this lifestyle.  On the sites I belong to though, it is overwhelmingly an M/f dynamic.