Is the Word Nagging a Bad word to Use towards your partner?

Question

My gf said that ive ben nagging lately.i told her i really dont like the word"NAG"as i think its a strong word but she thinks not And cannot believe she responded "thats Stupid what you just said look it up in the dictionary" hoenstly that really hurt...we dont and will not have a relationship where we talk to eachother that way and i was a bit surpirsed ....she had claimed in the beginning of our relationship that i wasnt so "controlling" and such a wifee and now im nothing but...its funny to me cus im the least to Be controlling of one if anything im the opposite i let you be who you are and do what you want, whatever makes u feel comfortable,.but honestly i have ben speaking my mind lately and letting her know how i feel about certain things ....we've had issues which her EXGF (that she was been with for 6 yrs and the ex broke it off about 2yrs ago) has sumthing to do with it the MAJORITY of the time.....very irritated by her.....but she was or IS i suppose,one of the girls that u cant get over yet...she still "cares" very much for her and me and gf just recently got into a emo argument about it last week. my gf insists im the ONe that makes her happy, that she loves me and chooses to be with me and have a future together but sumtimes i feel like her heart is with her...im just so fed up cus i think thats where the"nagging" has been coming in lately..and its only been a WEEK! ....i just dont think she doesnt want to see where thats coming from...

Answer 1

Long question, short answer, Yes Nag is a bad word it usually means that I want space when I use or think it.  Not space in the bed for an extra person p***e (although that can be fun) but space to go for a walk and usually a no talkie night.  It sucks for him, he's an only child used to making conversation with whoever is around him at any given moment and I am the youngest, I just want some peace and quiet to think and meditate!  In any event...  Yes when I use the word "Nagging" it means Back Off.  And Yes it is a Bad Word.  Cause I cant call him an uptight spoilt rich brat with no life...  That would be rude!  

Answer 2

If she's still not over a woman she broke up with 2 years ago I think it is time for you to move on. This person should not have any influence on your relationship with each other. Your girlfriend shouldn't even have contact with her ex. To bad if she feels she is being nagged about her ex girlfriend being around. Stand up for yourself!  Good luck!

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Answer 3

Do you not like it because it strikes to close to home?  I know girls who are total b!tche$ who say 'i'm just keeping it real.'   Or does she call it nagging because you are on point with what you are saying and she does not want to hear it?   Often, it's a bit of both.

Really look that your interactions and try to figure out which one it is.  You can only change your own behavior, not hers.      

Answer 4

The word "nag" is transcendental in its application to relationships, so it's fair play. Your partner needs to cut all ties to the ex - you two won't be happy together until you both get rid of the outside influences nagging (there's that word again) your relationship. At the very least, you two need to come up with an agreement to keep certain aspects of your relationship strictly confidential; that is, AWAY from others who might be apt to throw their "two cents" in where it doesn't belong.