Is the father of the little girl I babysit flirting with me?

Question

I want to know if the dad of the little girl I babysit for a few times a week is hitting on me. I'm 19 & he's 43, & I admittedly have a little crush on him (I know he's much older & married, & I would never act on my crush, but he IS very hot and nice). Usually when I babysit, the mom isn't home.

He often touches me on the shoulder or gives me a pat on the back or a little hug, & he's even grabbed my hand before & touched his scars with it (when I asked what they were from). He usually steps into my "bubble" & gets pretty close to me (I am 100% comfortable with him, though, so it's never uncomfortable).

He sometimes asks me to stay even after he gets home and we just talk, & one time we were watching a movie & he asked me a non-personal question about s*x (again, should have been uncomfortable, but it wasn't). Once he even gave me some money for no reason, to just use to have fun (not for babysitting), and he texts me quite often.

Is he flirting with me?

Answer 1

No...he is setting you up....

Unless you stop this now...and by that I mean stop babysitting this man's child....you will wind up in bed with this man....

Then....your life will be complicated like you have never known before....and it won't be fun....

There is a name for men like this one....Pond Scum....

I hope you don't have to find out what I mean...

Answer 2

but u know he is and u're leading him on.

Answer 3

Think on this:

1. Why does he need a babysitter when he's home?

2. Are you sure you know the difference between comfortable and uncomfortable physical contact?

3. Do you check your text messages from him for content and how they are worded?

4. Do you believe it to be harmless flirtation?

My suggestion to you princess, is, TALK TO SOMEONE about this. A minister, doctor, your PARENTS, someone with whom you have an honest dialog. NOT HIM. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You know the answer to this- yes! And the fact that he is old enough to be your dad makes him sick. I would find another job if I were you. Then tell the mom what has been going on so she can keep an eye on him with her kids and the next babysitter, who may not be of legal age.

Answer 5

Sure sounds like it. Are you subconsciously leading him on? You did say you had a crush on him. You have to ask if you would feel guilty to have an affair with a married man.

Answer 6

Run, don't walk! This guy is seducing you. If you don't want to be a home wrecker, don't be alone with this guy. He knows exactly what he's doing. Relationships are progressive. He will continue to push the envelope. You already are having an emotional affair with him and it won't be long before it's sexual.

Answer 7

Do you have to ask?  Yes he is.  His actions will increase as long as you reinforce by your acceptance of it. If you want it to continue do nothing.  He will get bolder with his actions with more sexual overtones..

Answer 8

OK, I do not want to tell you what you want to hear, I am going to tell you what you should hear.  Based on what you typed, I would have to say no, he is not hitting on you.  He, if anything, is trying to treat you like a part of his family.  You do care for his child a few times a week.  Plus, why wouldn't anyone want ever talk to the person baby sitting their child.  Making conversation with a babysitter is the best way of finding that babysitters intentions.  A non-personal question about s*x?  That is a good topic to have with a babysitter.  That way, you can get a feel for if that babysitter is going to abuse your child in any way, including sexually.  Now, tipping a babysitter and keeping in touch with them, be it by phone or text messaging, or some other way of communication is also a good idea.  It keeps the babysitter happy.  Good babysitters are hard to come by and are needed.  Also, this man is married.  Give him the benefit of the doubt.  Just because he is 43, and some people would want to assume he is at the time of a "mid life crisis", and guys like him sometimes cheat on their wives with babysitters does not mean this man will.  His wife apparently trust him.  My advice to you would be, until he makes an apparent move on you and tells you his intentions, do not assume anything.  You could ruin a good working relationship with something like this.  Stay cautious of you actions.

Answer 9

he is, and if you sleep with him, you're a s**t and I will hate you forever