Is the first year of marriage the hardest?

Question

My husband and I have been married a little over six months. We've had a few minor spats and one big blowout, but it's been pretty awesome so far. Can we just expect it to get even smoother?

Answer 1

It's all on you two, that makes it a marriage. If you want it to be exciting then it will if not then get ready for the bumpy ride of your life!

Answer 2

Actually ppl say 1st  yr of marriage is hardest b/c when you live w/a person you get to their good/bad sides and that can stress you out and make you stubborn in fights and can make you not fight fairly.

But it seems that when you lived together for 9 months b4 marriage, that part mainly got done.

I think for ur marriage, the coming years might be hard (idk abt hardest) because you two have to be careful abt taking each other for granted, and thinking selfishly.  Always think of "we" instead of "I" kk. Make sure you two talk abt ur opinions/feelings abt everything calmly since that will help greatly to overcome many small or big fights if you both know wat each other thinks.

Any time one of you feel you are taking each other for granted or ur marriage life is becoming bored/something, TALK to eachother your feelings and make sure to be supportive and always think what YOU can do to improve urself to change the situation for the better--not what he can do to change himself. That part you can think after wards you think abt what you can do to change ur attitude/something.

Always in a fight/argument, at then end when u reconcile, always make sure to ask him what you could've done to change the situation for the better--anything u can do to improve urself. And also tell him too what you would like to see him change in himself for the better.

Good luck! And may ur marriage bring A LOT of happiness with only small sadness in ur lives. ^__^

Answer 3

Every Marriage is different

Answer 4

the first one is a piece a cake.

the next few are hard, and it gets harder and harder after that.

then finally you hit the 20 years plus. and that's when you have midlife crisis, then you cheat and have wild s*x with lots of people.

Answer 5

Expect it to get harder, especially when kids come into the picture.  I recommend regular counseling for all couples, just to keep th lines of communication open.  My wife and I didn't and now things are bad and she has had an affair.  We have two small kids, too.  What a mess.

Answer 6

Whichever year you're currently in is the one in which you will need to work the hardest.  When you look back on it, the satisfaction will be worth it.  

Answer 7

No, the first year is the honeymoon year.  

Answer 8

The first and second year were the easiest for me.

When the third year came around, though, we started bickering a LOT more.  Nothing to divorce over, besides that we both agree that divorce isn't in our contract.  The bickering lasted for a few months, and us both getting annoyed with each other easily. Like I would get really annoyed when I would ask him to put the dishes away while I was at work and he was off for the day and when I would get home the work would not be done.

But we both learned to let things go and worry so much about the little things.  Now it's our fourth year and it's pretty easy again.

Answer 9

hmmmm....according to me, the first year is pretty fine....the problems begin after that....the problems r not too much, but still, they appear without any cause.....silly things.....

Answer 10

no the first year is the all i love you and no i love you googly eye phase. when you have been together for over 4 years then i think the hardest phase starts. Thats the phase where you know each other so well that life may seem to get a little blah and boring and now you HAVE to WORK at it. if the marriage is strong you will work at it. marriage is a JOB. maybe the hardest job you will ever have but the payout in the end is greater then ever.  

Answer 11

No one can really say for sure. It is what you make of it. Marriage is a big change for both people. That is why you both have to work to make it strong and make it last. Bailing out is too easy. Stand long stand strong and you will survive. I have been married for 37 years in November and I don't think there has been an easy year the whole time.

Answer 12

Things will change from year to year.  

Adjusting to those changes can be difficult or not depending on how willing you are to work at them.

Having children will be your biggest challenge.    But if you work together at it , it will be quite rewarding.  

Give yourselves at least 5 years together before bringing little ones into your lives.  Get to know each other and do some of the things you want.  Once they come your whole life will change.  

Best of luck !  

Answer 13

The first year always seems to be hardest, because both your lives are entertwining with the other, you have to share everything, and butt heads about different things and you can't run home to Mom anymore and have her patch things up with a tub of ice cream and a bag of tater chips.  You have to work things out with each other now.  As with anything in life, it gets better with time.

God's blessings on you and yours...Always!!

Answer 14

sure, if you both are commited to it.  marriage can be the best if you are totally commited to it and each other.

Answer 15

I think it differs for every couple. My husband and I had an extremely hard first year, it was really miserable. We manned up and worked out our problems and things are great!! Now.... I dont think you should assume that it will be smooth sailing from here on out, there are still a lot of thing that could come up that could cause problems, so dont get too comfortable. I think that having a positive attitude for the future of your relationship is a good thing, but expecting things to never get really hard is unrealistic. Congrats on the marriage, sounds like youre really happy!

Answer 16

the first year is the easiest, could be why most marriages end up in divorce after 2 years.  people are able to wise up, own up to their mistakes in judgment, and move on to a better life and love