Is there a 'right' location for wedding?

Question

I am recently engaged and planning my wedding. I live with my fiance in a different state about 2-3 hours from my parents. He also is about 2 hours from his parents. We are considering having our wedding closer to his parents home but I do not want to hurt my parent's feelings? Any suggestions?

Answer 1

It's your day, not theirs. They will almost certainly come regardless of where it is (certainly a 2-3 hour drive for either) because you're their kids, but keeping it in a place that's equally far from each of them will make sure that no one thinks they're being treated better or worse than anyone else.

Or, a destination wedding might be in order. Go someplace that everyone has to drive or fly to attend.  

Answer 2

Have you considered having it where you live now?  That way, both families have to travel about the same distance.

IF you have it more near your fiance's parents....how far away does that make it for your parents?  

In the end, it is you and your fiance's decision.  No one should make waves.  You should be able to have the wedding where YOU want it.

Answer 3

shouldnt matter..are they both 2-3 hours in the same direction or opposite..oh well im sure it will be fine and your parents will be thrilled about the wedding no matter where it is :)

Answer 4

You two should have the wedding where you want. Consider the venues available: is there a venue you love in one town, and dont really like whats available in the other town?

This is your wedding. People will travel. We are talking about a few hours drive. Thats nothing for the average American!

Answer 5

Have the wedding where you and your fiance want to have it- not whether it will suit either set of parents. Look at places around where you live and closer to each set of parents- tell both sets of parents you are doing this so you aren't seen as favoring one side. Then choose your place and explain to both sets of parents that you looked at places near you, near them and near the other parents and that this particular place suited you and your fiance the best.

I'd also think about where the majority of your other guests are travelling from. If they all live in the same place as you and your husband, it might be better to have it there and just have both sets of parents staying in a hotel rather than all of the wedding guests having to book and pay for accommodation (as well as you and your fiance!).

Answer 6

If you have any sort of buget for your wedding then there is defo a RIGHT place.. it ahs to suit you your partner and the weddign buget.

Before you make any desistion, make sure you shop arond tosee what is avalibel to you... a nicer less expensive place might be just around the corner or even closer to home. Make sure you look at places near to both homes and that will let you see what is out there. it may help make your desition a little easier too. Concider both chapple and reception are if you are doing that sort of thing.

also take into concideration transport as that can add a hefty lot to your weddin bill. you may want to concider gettin married at you reception location...

Answer 7

Ok if you are about 2 hours from each relative, then I would say have it where you live then it would be the same distance for each family to travel. There will never be a right location when planning for a wedding. Trust me I know, I tried to plan like 5 different places for mine and none of them seemed right for me. So I just picked one and it ended up being the best place for me. It is very hard to plan a wedding but what you need to do is communicate with your fiance. let him know your feelings and ideas and let him tell you the same. That's how marriage works, compromise and listening to each other when you are having trouble with something. My husband listens to me all the time and then we come to a compromise with a decision we need to make. so just talk to him and see what he thinks. You guys will be able to work it out.

Answer 8

the better question is "is there a wrong location for a wedding?"

and the answer is no. i doubt your parents will be offended, just say the place you two chose happened to be close to his parents. choose any place you'd like (im not suggesting chuckie cheese, but I bet it's been done before).

Somewhere you'd like to remember as the place you two exchanged vows, etc.

Anywhere is nice if you like it enough.  

Answer 9

talk to them about it first.  If they seem upset by it then have a neutral location where everyone travels the same distance.  My aunt got married 3 hours away from our family (all of us live here except for her) and the location was 5 minutes from his parents house.  Didn't bother any of us at all.

good luck!