Is there a Biblical reference about getting a divorce because of abuse?

Question

(physical/mental/emotional/verbal abuse)

Answer 1

Yeah it called use your common sense!!  

My thing is you didn't know how he was before you married him or let me guess you thought he would change once he married you???

Your coochie aint' all that great to stop abuse of any kind!!!  

Answer 2

Divorce in the Bible:

The Bible has relatively few verses which deal with divorce. Among the most important passages are:

In the Hebrew Scriptures (Old Testament): Genesis 2:24, Leviticus 18:6+, and Deuteronomy 24:1+

In the Christian Scriptures (New Testament): Matthew 5:32 and 19:3+; Mark 10:2, and 1 Corinthians 7:12+.

Answer 3

If you are being abused, stop worrying about what the bible says and get a divorce.

Answer 4

That is a really tough question,and an even tougher situation. I came out of an abusive marriage and was certain I was stuck. But then I found in 1 Corinthians 7:15 "if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage (not morally bound) in such cases... God has called us to peace."

What I got from this is:

1.  Because my husband was abusive he was not a believer of God's word that instructs him to love and treat his wife as Christ loves the church.

2. He had emotionally left me when he threw the first punch.  Whoever that monster was, it was not the man who stood at the alter before God and our family and friends and made promises and vows to love and cherish me.

3. God did not call me to be in bondage to an abusive man.

4. I was free and could rest in peace.

In addition to abuse, my ex had also had affairs.  The bible talks about adulterers being stoned to death. So I went on to live my life and considered him dead to me.

Needless to say, I left, filed for divorce, and have lived in peace ever since.  

Also, Matthew 19 talks about divorce being permitted because of the hardness of heart and immorality.

I don't know who you are, but God does; and I have asked Him to help you in the difficult situation, that He will bring you to safety and peace.

Answer 5

yes there is not sure where but iv read it...any time you fear that your life is in danger from physical abuse you can leave..and if they leave you also its ok...so get out while you can.

Answer 6

I believe the only reasons divorce is ok according to the bible is, infidelity or abuse.   I went through infidelity but decided to work on the relationship and don't regret it at all.  

Answer 7

You don't need one, if you're being abused in any kind of way get out of there.

Jenxx

Answer 8

I thought the Bible was completely against divorce?

Answer 9

Looks at Jeremiah, Chap 11 where God says he will give their wives and land to others because of their disobedience.  Never heard a sermon on it, but it's there.

At least get yourself and your children to a safe place. Call the abuse hotlines, county regarding a restraining order, etc.

Answer 10

Paul did say that wives were to be submissive to their husbands. That passage is often used to keep wives subservient to abusers, who are very good at extracting passages out of context. The beginning of that passage talks about everyone being subject to one another. Does an abuser fulfill that part of the passage? The rest of that passage says that husbands are to treat their wives as they treat themselves, to love them as they love self. Does abuse fall under that criteria? The summation of that entire part is that the husband should love their wife as themselves and the wife respect the husband. It is a two way street. I don't think that slavery is mentioned, and I don't think that abusers, be they husband or wife, ever enter into the spirit of that relationship. It is all one way for them.  They have broken the wedding vows and nullified the marriage.  The vows are not just for one person to keep.

The bible says to forgive our brother an uncountable number of times. That is not a problem, You can forgive an abuser. But that does not mean that God, who loves and cares for you more than any person could, and who has numbered all your hairs, wants you to continue to be abused. That is not consistent with the vision of the loving God that most of us were taught.

Jesus, when he sent out the apostles to the nearby towns to preach during his time on earth, told them how to treat any town that did not receive them. He told them to leave, and to shake the dust off their sandals as they walked away (Luke 9:5.) I think that dealing with someone who does not receive us as children of God requires us to leave and to shake the dust off our feet (and out of our minds) as we go.  And I think that includes getting a divorce because of abuse.

I think that Jesus wanted people to forgive and to turn the other cheek, but never asked us to be doormats. We have every right to distance ourselves from a harmful, toxic person.