Is there a cure for shyness?

Question

I am a shy person, sometimes VERY shy, in situations that I shouldn't be, and I hate it, because sometimes it stops me from expressing myself, making new friends, and doing things I'd LOVE to do.

So, is there a cure, what is it?

Thank you very much!!

Answer 1

well, one cure for shyness is to realize that people are all just differing perspectives from a relative reality, just find some information to bond on someone with and stop caring what people think about you, and if you conduct yourself without stupidity or naivity along with discarding religious views youd like to share with everyone, you'll be fine.

Answer 2

getting a job helped me cure my shyness a little.  i'm not totally the opposite of shy, but i'm not as shy as i used to be

Answer 3

I grew up extremely shy.  I eventually came out of it.  I started to come out of it when I started reading at church.  I would practice the readings for a week before.  I would get very scared before each reading at first.  After a while, the fear became less.  Reading was good practice, because I didn't have to speak ad lib.  It got me more comfortable before a good sized congregation.

I eventually even tried out for a part in a play, and got a small part.  I eventually got a few more roles....  But there are a lot of other things that helped also...

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I don't actually think there's a cure for shyness you just have to work at becoming a more outgoing person. I'm actually a very shy person myself and have a hard time making friends as well. But, maybe you can try introducing yourself to others and finding a job or joining clubs to meet new people. I find it really does work. And remember one day at a time. oh god...I sound like an AA meeting lol.  

Answer 5

Hello you will sanp out of it i was like that for years so i know what you mean.it will get better.  

Answer 6

Drink alcohol. I'm just kidding. If you have an anxiety problem you should get that fixed, otherwise just accept yourself for who you are and stop chasing after things.  

Answer 7

Safia, you are one of many who see themselves as outcasts because of their inability in expressing their likes and dislikes.  shyness is partly a result of societal pressure to be successful, to be beautiful, to be competitive and to impress others. powerless, ineffective, passive-dependent, and even defective, which increases our isolation from family, friends, neighbors, and perhaps from all humanity.  How can you change?  You've got to change your generalizations and your anchors, and the rest will come naturally. In other words "You are who you think you are" and your actions support your thinking.

Now think of the implications of this. Every time you've relived your failures and rejections, every time you've beat yourself up with your self-talk, every time you've felt sorry for yourself, you've been reinforcing the problem, and possibly made it worse.  What about your "anchors" these are beliefs we have about ourselves.  To begin changing them ask yourself these questions:

What about me is interesting? Attractive?

What do people like about me?

What qualities and accomplishments am I most proud of?

What should I change about myself? How would I go about changing that?

Create these anchors and your subconscious mind will do the rest and you will start to feel better about yourself and you will have renewed confidence.  There is more I can suggest but I have conveyed too much already.  You can do it!

Answer 8

Try Toast Masters ---

http://www.toastmasters.org/

This is a great way to boost you and remove the shyness.

There are some really great folks in the clubs to help you too.