Is there a limit to love?

Question

I want to clarify right from the start that I am not talking about abusive violent relationships or ones where one of them can't seem to stop sleeping with everyboby they can. I am talking about a God given special kind of love like in the Titanic or The Notebook. First do you believe this exists and if you actually have it what would you be willing to endure for it? Not all love is this kind it is rare to find it but things happen missunderstandings that are not talked about and that grow inside your mind until that is how you see everything said or done, but the love is still there. What do you do then? What would you do if you were the one who felt wronged or the one who was left because the other one felt you didn't trust them but you really did. In this particular case I will say I have had several other relationships that were not good or healthy they were the kind I mentioned above but this one isn't anything like that. But I have fears of rejection and abandonment and we have always talked about them and I work through them by not being afraid to talk to him about them . He always took it personal when I repeatedly told him it had nothing to do with him. Well I expressed feelings along this line a week or so ago and he said enough is enough I wasn't trusting him or his love for me when I really was. This hurts unbelievably and I wonder is there really such a thing as a love that can't die? If you surrender your whole heart to someone and truly love them no matter the circumstances what then? do you fight for it? Do you just let them go and go through the rest of your life with this love for them and wait til Heaven where they say "Sooo sorry honey I didn't know what I was doing"? If you are the guy do you think his feelings about this are justified? would you feel this way and why? PLS only real heartfelt answers.

Answer 1

Connie you are in pain, but it sounds like you were not trusting his love because you don't trust your own. You need to work out why you don't trust somebody to just love you. There is that kind of love that you talk about, but too many people are in too much of a hurry to find it and they sometimes try to wish it out of the person that they are currently with. If you have to question anything about a relationship then it is not going to last forever. You will know true love when you wonder how you could have been so lucky to have this wonderful perfect person choose you. And if he feels the same way about you and you feel it from him, it is true love and it can last forever. Both people need to respect each other enough to never intentionally do any thing that will hurt. If you are constantly questioning if he loves you, then either he doesn't or your insecurities will push him away. Therapy may help you find yourself so that you can be happy with someone else. Life is way too short to ever spend a single second arguing or fighting with anybody, friend or lover. It took me way too long and a failed marriage to discover the real true love of my life. And then I got everything that was truly good and wonderful only to have it  taken away by cancer. I learned about love and that you can truly be happy, but now I will have to wait until Heaven to get it back. If it should come along again I will be able to recognize it and I won't hesitate to be in love again. I do believe it can happen twice. Please do not settle. It will be worth waiting for Mr. Right.