Is there a parent reading this who has gone through drug issues with an adult child?

Question

How do you help them if they won't interact with you and you know they are in trouble but they won't let you help?

Answer 1

RE-HAB

but i am not a parent tho.

ur g*y friend ~chris~

Answer 2

Im not a parent but have helped parents in this situation, i have some booksmarts on the subject but alot of immediate first hand knowledge and have helped many. if you email me just give me a bit more info what drugs your aware hes on ect, its completely different from one to the next and there could be other problems.  I can hellp if you like annonymously

email me if you like at [e-mail]

Answer 3

they won't interact with you because they think we don't understand or are just going to give them some type of lecture. It's really hard with an adult because they can just walk out and never come back. What you can do is have them committed or turn them in to the police and let the system help them. But then they won't want to talk to  you for a while. I turned someone in (was an adopted child but 20 years old at the time) and now a year later they are just starting to talk with me again. They were ordered to get help and when they told the judge they couldn't afford it - the judge ordered that they be put in for help. But this person was caught with drugs on them. Your going to have to keep a strong heart - because you will cry a lot more if you don't help them now.

Answer 4

I am not a parent but i am a adult child that went through drug issues. To be honest the only reason i stopped was because i eventually got phychoses and it basically scared me so much.. i couldnt do drugs anymore because i was so scared of people and i couldnt leave my house. God forbid that happens to your child.

Other than that.. it is really difficult. Sort of like asking someone to quit smoking. They wont quit because you told them to. They have to want to do it for themselves.

Answer 5

my heart goes out to you for i am a parent who has a child that went through drug abuse. you need to get your child help if you can but i know thats very hard to do, they have to want the help first. you can contact me if you wish. hope your child doesn't have to hit rock bottom like mine did before he/she decides to get some help.  

Answer 6

Yea I did. It about tore my wife and I up. Our oldest got addicted to meth. We finally had to kick him out for the sake of the rest of our family. So his underage siblings wouldn't be exposed to all that junk.We finally told him he could come by to do his laundry, and get a hot meal IF he was straight.

He was a US Marine that was part of the initial invasion of Iraq in '03. He came home screwed up bad. I wouldn't dare suggest that the whole of the Marine corps. is like this, but the unit he belonged to seemed to be populated by drunks and drug addicts and wife beaters. When he discharged he just spun his wheels and got into this drug c**p. He told us that his experiences in Iraq traumatized him, and he couldn't get some of the things he did to stay alive, and do his duty out of his head. After he had been kicked out for a while, heck he snuck into the house, stole stuff, and pawned it for drug money and stuff, he attempted suicide one night by spraying most of a can of Raid into a cup, mixing it with a bottle of Coca Cola,and downing it all. Fortunately it didn't work, and he got some help through the VA. Now he's in school, working, and has some kind of a life to look forward to.

All I can tell you is let them know you haven't stopped loving them, but love sometimes means tough love. Let them know that this c**p isn't tolerated by anyone in the family, and you want them, for their own good, to dry out, and get some kind of life. If they will the door, and your arms are open. If they can't, well... the doors shut until they can.

Sometimes I wish people in these situations could be "shanghi'd". All you do is make a phone call, and a van finds them and grabs them off the street, and takes them somewhere to dry out and start over. With a little hard work and dicipline thrown in for good measure. Sounds mean? Even UnAmerican? Better this than wondering where your kid is and how hi he is. Better than having to tell a paramedic you don't really know if your child is HIV pos.when you have to call one because your child has attempted suicide, or even overdosed on who knows what. Better than holding your breath everytime the phone rings or there's an unexpected knock at the door, and you don't know if it's going to be someone telling you your child is sick or even.....