Is there a place online that has profiles of women looking for someone to adopt their baby?

Question

Me and my husband recently found out that we will never be able to conceive. I am just getting started on researching adoption and was wondering if anyone knew of a website that actually has profiles or classified ads of women looking for a couple to adopt their baby. Any information is greatly appreciated!

Answer 1

First off let me say i am very sorry to hear you cannot have children. Also, if you get the Dr. Phil show in your area, PLEASE PLEASE watch it today, they have a story about women who go online to adopt, and end up being scammed, Please if possible contact a local pregnancy support center, or an adoption agency and ask them how you can get in touch with a girl or woman who is interested in adoption or how you go about adopting a child. The internet is very misleading and could cause you potential pain and misleading information.

Answer 2

Yes, there is.  You can go onto any of the websites such as abc adoptions, adopiton.org, and adioption.com and go onto their birthmother forums.  Birthmothers who want to post their situations can do so, and tell what they are looking for in an adoptive family.  Prospective adoptive parents can write them back.

Good in theory.  Right?  But the reality of such postings is that many of these "birthmothers" are not birthmothers at all.  They may not even be women in some cases!  They are way too often "scammers", who are going to do their best to bilk desperate parents out of a little money and a lot of emotion.

Some don't even ask for money, they just want to jerk a parent's chain and give them some grief.  

When are people going to realize that in order to have some sort of reassurnace that adoptive parents are not going to be taken by a talented drama queen disguised as a birthmother, and sincere birthmothers are not going to be lured into releasing a baby to a pedophile or criminal disguised as parent of the year, that they need to go though a licensed  itermediary, such as an agency or attorney.  Why?  This is what adoption agencies, adoption social workers, and adoption attorneys do all day long.  This is what we have expertise doing, and are able to recognize the red flags.  Hopeful adoptive parents, and hopefule birthmothers cannot!

Yet everyone wants to adopt for free -- providing no assistance to their child's birthmother, and no counseling either (unethical and a big mistake!).  This is some of the riskiest, most intricate and difficult kind of social work, legal work, and detective work there is.  Leave it to the professionals.  There are good ones out here, who not only care, but dedicate their lives to ethical, compassionate adoptions.

Answer 3

Oh my no.

It's bad enough that domestic adoption uses adoption profile letters from prospective adoptive parents, I cannot imagine the same being done for expectant mothers considering an adoptive plan.

Edit to clarify:

Why this is so offensive is that expectant women in crisis pregnancies are usually at one of the most embarrassing low points of their lives to the point where they are considering relinquishing their child away completely.  There is no glossy website that capture that appropriately and it is tacky just thinking that there are people who want to flip through such a directory.

Editing again:

I'm sorry for your loss of fertility.  I hope that you are successful at transitioning those hopes of parenting to adoption.

Answer 4

I would hope not. That sort of thing is properly vetted through a licensed agency.

Answer 5

It works the other way around. There are sites with profiles of those wishing to adopt and the expectant mothers choose from them.

Answer 6

familyprofiles.com and others like it will allow you to post your profile, and to get in contact with other mothers. also keep a lookout for personal webpages. i have heard of birthmothers hosting their own website in their seach to find the perfect adoptive family. good luck to you!

Answer 7

No, as far as I know, there is not.  Your best bet is to do your research and then contact an adoption agency or a lawyer.  There are sites for potential adoptive patents to show their profile, but none of pregnant women showing their profile.  

A great resource for those who are just starting the adoption process is http://www.adoption.com/ .

Answer 8

Not that I have ever seen.  There are sites that have profiles of parents looking to adopt, so that birth mothers can go and view them.

You should contact an adoption agency or attorney.  They will be able to give you details on the adoption laws in your state (some states forbid adoptive parents from soliciting a birth mother-doing so could make it impossible for you to adopt).  They can also tell you of the various options that are available to you, and how to proceed in a manner that is safe for all parties involved (adoptive parents, birth parent(s) and most importantly, the child).

I am sorry that you will not be able to conceive.  Adoption is a wonderful way to grow a family, however!  I wish you the best.

Answer 9

no..i dont think so

Answer 10

there was a big thing a couple a months ago about a couple that went on to my space and did a whole profile on how they would like to adopt a child and about there family and there religions and showed pictures of there family and so much more and they had a few people respond to it and they acually found a nice fit a girl was pregnant and she read there profile and it was a hit they were there in the delivery and every thing. I think it was the sweetest thing in the world. I am glad to hear that you are considering adopting to congradulations because there are alot of children out there looking for love and a mom and dad. they would be lucky to have you.  You got to have big heart to make a decision like that now days I think.

Answer 11

I totally understand what your asking~! I have 4 beautiful healthy grown children. I also have some who have earned their angel wings. We ourselves would love to adopt a child from either USA or another country. I saw a comment further down yes I watched the Dr. Phil show this is a repeat and yes you have to be very careful. I also feel these women didn't do enough homework on the potential mother who was going to let them adopt her "non existent baby"

I wish there were more places that were legal and legit or attorneys offering their services not for a high fee. If you try to do it on your own they say "Your trying to buy a baby" Through an attorney same thing except he gets about 20k or more.

I myself have been researching places on line or classified ads who mostly are attorneys placing the ads.

It's a shame that so many children need loving families but the cost regardless in USA or out of the country is so outrageous these poor children go without families because so many loving families don't have 20 grand plus to adopt a child.

I wish you luck and hope god will bring that right child into your life~! Just be careful no matter who you use "private,open" and even becareful of attorneys who run baby mills.

Answer 12

We adopted our daughter through domestic open adoption one year ago.  We applied with our agency, went through extensive background checks and a homestudy, and then put together a profile with pictures that potential birthmothers/fathers could look at to see if they'd want to meet us.  

Truly, this is the best way for domestic adoption to work.  It needs to be in the hands of the birthmother to seek out and choose the adoptive family for her child.  I would suggest attending some informational sessions at agencies in your area to find out the best way for you to adopt.

Good luck to you, and with some hard work I'm positive that you'll reach your dream of being parent!

Answer 13

((((HUGS))))))) Just wanted to invite you to this site for Christian women facing infertility and adoption - www.hannahsprayer.org

Answer 14

Sorry for not being able help. But good luck on your search and don't give up. please do not consider some comments it is not worthy

Answer 15

i think you have been watching too much tv....

a website with a catalouge of pregnant women ??? i dont think so

more like the other way around

Answer 16

Isn't that the other way around, it's usually birth mom looking for adoptive parents, so they can remain annoymous

Answer 17

Domestically there are more prospective adoptive parents then there are potential birthmothers planning to place there children for adoption. She will usually get to choose the adoptive parents after looking at many profiles rather then the other way around. As Joslin mentioned, that's why you need to be very causious of a "birthmother" looking for adoptive parents online, and wonder why she didn't go through an agency or attourney.

   As an adoptive parent I know there is SO much to learn about adoption, and it can be overwelming. Here are a few sites that may help get you started on your adoption journey.

http://www.adoption.com/

http://www.babycenter.com/preconception/...

http://www.bethany.org/  (this is an agency that handles both

domestic and international adoptions. They also have adoption forums for adoptive parents, those hoping to adopt, and birthmothers. You can ask questions and get answers from those who've been where you are now)

Just make sure you have resolved any emotional issues concerning infertility before starting the adoption process. Good luck to you!

Answer 18

Sorry you found out you can't have bio kids. We've been trying to adopt for a while now, and we're finally getting considered for some kids. They are older, though. we found them at adoptuskids.org. I think though if you're looking for a baby, most of the time, you either have to get one through foster-adopt (and that tends to come with parental visits w/the birth mom), have the birth mom choose you, or adopt internationally.

As far as the people who make you feel bad, if you go into their profile and block them, they can't see your question. If they can't see your question, they can't respond negatively with their "adoption koolaid" opinions are make us feel bad.

God bless you, your husband, and your future children.