Is there a reason why I should get a girlfriend?

Question

I know that I will never have a girlfriend or have s*x, but I have always wanted to get in a girlfriend in one way, but I do not want to, in another way. My problem is that I could never imagine how any girl could love me. I see myself as a boring person; most of what I care about is history and politics, but I have a good sense of humor. I think that I am goody looking, but girls somehow think I am good looking. One girl told me that I am cute, another said "you're so cute" to me, another told me that I am handsome, and another told me that I have nice eyes. What do they see in me?

I also have an issue with getting married in the future, because I would have an issue with everyone knowing that I have had s*x, since I am married. If I never got married, I would feel less awkward because people would think that I have not had s*x.

I really want to have kids in the future and to be married, but shame will keep me from doing those things.

Answer 1

You will get a girlfriend, and have s*x. Anyways, everyone finds someone who they trust to see them nude. Most people feel the same way as you about the "I don't see what they see in me", I know I did. I then found someone who I trust and he calls me beautiful, and I still don't exactly believe him. Every boy and girl finds their other half eventually. When I first had s*x, I didn't want anyone to know. I then told my friend about it, but she had told others, and I don't talk to her anymore. You shouldn't feel awkward about people thinking you've had s*x because it's a very natual thing that we're all biult to experience. As long as you experience this with someone you trust, you'll enjoy it. I'm embarassed about my body to but I trusted my boyfriend enough for him to not judge. But you'll find someone, I promise :)

Answer 2

with the right girl by your side, there's no stopping you

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I'm a girl, but I can relate to so much of what you said here. I'm not sure how old you are, but my guess is that you are in high school. So am I. It's really nice to know that I'm not the only one out there who feels like this, because it makes me see that I'm not alone, and I hope you do too in reading this. All it takes is to meet the right person, and when you do, you won't feel boring or like you don't deserve them. They will make you feel alive, and you'll know you belong together. I think college will bring a new perspective (if you are not already there/if you plan to go to college), because that's when you are around a lot of different types of people and begin to meet those with similar interests to yours. High school just pretty much sucks, is how I see it.

I hope you don't really believe that you can never get a girlfriend and you will never have s*x, because that's not true. If you don't want to or can't find a girlfriend right now, that's okay, but it will happen someday. You sound pretty cool to me, and I know you'll meet someone who appreciates you. Now all you have to do it hope it works out the same way for me =].

P.S. I know that it seems embarrassing for everyone to know you have s*x, but I bet they don't think about it much. Besides, most people have s*x, and a lot of unmarried people have s*x, too, so you're not the only one. It's a small price to pay for the joy that a family can bring you. Don't let anything take that away from you.

Answer 4

no need to be ashamed that you had s*x if you were already married... i'm sure there is someone out there that will love you for who you are! no need at all to be insecure. girlfriends and boyfriends can be wonderful experiences!

Answer 5

You sound like a nice person, who's just insecure. Don't worry, there are girls out there who have the same interests as you, not all girls want a totally buff dude who likes cars and stuff. In my opinion, a guy just needs to have a good heart, the capacity to love, kindness, a good sense of humour, etc. Dont worry you'll get over your insecurities, and you sound like a person who has all the qualities listed above. I think right now you might be to young to feel ok with s*x, just like me. But when your older and married its no big deal about what people think about you and your wife. Anyway, im pretty sure all married couples have s*x, its normal, its part of married life. no ones gonna judge you,your doing it inside marriage after all.  

Answer 6

your a weird person arent you?

Answer 7

Were you brought up by really religious or strict parents? The human body is nothing to be ashamed about, and sexuality is something natural, you shouldn't be ashamed of it, it seems you have some issues. Also, everyone feels insecure now and then but don't let your insecurities control you! Maybe you should consider talking to a therapist or psychologist so they could help you get over these fears and insecurities... Don't think of yourself as a boring person, it is not bad that you like history and politics, on the contrary I think this will help make you more attractive to nice intelligent girls ;)