Is there a significant ritual that can replace a first dance?

Question

my fiance and I are getting married in a baptist church where dancing is considered a sin. Even though we dont hold to that belief we want to honor the church by not doing anything to upset them. Is there something else that can happen as a significant moment in between the two of us instead of a dance? I really want the feeling like the first dance but since that is not an option what is a different way to get that effect...

Answer 1

I'm dealing with the same thing. My FH and I are members of a Baptist church and I really really want to dance, but I know it's frowned upon.

I didn't think it was considered a sin, just inappropriate and not appreciated.

You might want to consult the pastor who is marrying you. He may have different things to say about it. If you hold the reception at the church, I doubt there will be dancing. If it's held some where else you may get away with it. Some of the older crowd or the pastor just may not participate.

One thing to consider is taking communion together as a couple. Have that be your first act as a couple. I think it's a great idea!!

Answer 2

I don't have any suggestions.  I thought churches like that only existed in Footloose!  Maybe you should invite Kevin Bacon to your wedding and let him shake things up a bit.  :)

Answer 3

How about a game centered around you and your groom?  Something like this:

The Bride and groom take off their shoes and trade one shoe...so both are holding a bride shoe and a groom shoe (the bride gets a chance to show off her shoes, too). Then the couple are placed back to back and are asked questions by the emcee such as...Who is most likely to...clean the bathroom, handle the finances, wash the dishes, splurge on a large purchase without telling the spouse...etc...you can think of some really funny questions. Anyway, if the bride/groom thinks its the bride...they raise the bride's shoe above their head...if he/she thinks it is the groom...they raise the groom's shoe. It's funny to see which questions they agree on and which they don't ;)

I think this sounds fun plus it also focuses attention on you as a couple.  Hope this helps :0)

Answer 4

Well, the first dance is normally to open the dancing. Are you having any other organized activities for your guests? The two of you can together open those. For example, if you were going to be doing pinatas (I can't think of anything more likely) then the two of you would take several swings together.

Answer 5

do a unity ceremony or sand ceremony at the reception

you have the cake cutting

maybe the both fo you give a toast or small speech

can someone sing a song?

Answer 6

I didn't know that existed. So you're having your reception in the church? Weird! I don't have any suggestions...except try to have the reception somewhere else, so you can dance with your new husband!