Is there a sit online you can get forms to take to hospital when baby is born for the mother to...?

Question

sign over full rights to my husband and I (this woman is pregnant with my husbands child and is signing rights over to us)

Answer 1

it is your husband's child, why not just raise it without a terminating her/his mother's rights?

Jealous?

and is that a good situation to be brining a child into?

Try to think of the child.  

Sorry, I just don't think a woman in a bad situation as yourself, unstable marriage, should be adopting.

Answer 2

You need to consult a lawyer.  If everything is not done "by the book", she can come back at any time.

If he is the father, he can take physical custody of the child without any paperwork.  You will then have to go to court and complete a step-parent adoption in order for you to become a legal parent/guardian of this child.  She will sign her rights over at that time.

Again, consult a lawyer or else it is a setup for a lot of pain for everyone involved-especially the child.

Answer 3

Consult a lawyer.

You should never contact the mother directly.  You are too emotionally connected.  Also, the mother can claim that she was forced, coerced, or lied to.

Answer 4

I would not look on-line for this information and try to do it yourself.  I would speak to an attorney and make sure everything is in order properly so nothing comes back to haunt you later.

Answer 5

I hate to say it Sarah, but you really shouldn't be in the delivery room and she shouldn't sign ANY papers over to you until later on.

I really question if she has been pressured into signing over this baby. This is her child, not yours. When she gives birth and wants to bond with that child, that is her bonding time, not yours.

And if she wants to keep the baby herself, she is entitled to 20% of your husbands income. Did you tell her that? That is the law, your husband can not refuse to help her unless she signs over the baby.

It's illegal.

I hope that she comes to her senses and does not make the terrible mistake of signing away her child because a man wants to "fix" a mistake he made, because she is ashamed, or because she thinks he won't help her if she keeps.

I hope that she gets some good counsel, and I REALLY hope that you will encourage her to believe in herself and her own ability to parent, instead of interfering with something that could be a beautiful time in her life, even if unplanned and scary.

Shame on you if you do.

Answer 6

Signing away her parenting rights in the hospital may not be the best time and place. While plans may have been discussed during the pregnancy the process of childbirth and the flood of hormones may have changed her plans toward mothering her baby. She is the mother the baby will long for and is the only one who will continue to make the perfect food for his/her growing body.

Answer 7

you should not even be in the delivery room. its not about you, its about her trying to parent her baby. When are adopters going to stop interfearing with mothers and children in the delivery room. This is criminal in some countries do you know that? do you know that in australia this isn't even LEGAL? And its illegal for a good reason!! Before my lifetime is over this will be illegal in the United States. Unreal.

Answer 8

wow, people are pretty nasty with this subject.I don't understand why some of the people seem to think it is so horrible that birth mother is signing over the child.  If she is not able to parent at this point in her life, why should she NOT give the child a chance at a good home life?  I think birth mother is doing something very unselfish and loving for her baby.  Anyway.... I would suggest you get a lawyer that specializes in this.  You can't get papers online.  When mom has the baby, there should be social services involved at the hospital too.    Good luck to you.

Answer 9

It makes me so sad.  It makes the child feel unloved, unwanted, unimportant, by the one person who should make you feel exactly the opposite.  Their mother.

What a lovely way to start life.  Having someone sign your rights away to another.  

I can't think of anything worse than trying to get a mother to do such a thing, the day she gives birth to her child.  Ugh.  

The child WILL want to know it's REAL mother at some stage.  It's so important for a child to know where they come from.  Signing rights might make it easier for you, but I feel that the childrens needs and what is best for them is so often overlooked - when fulfilling AP's needs.

I was one of those children.

Giving me thumbs down when I am expressing the pain I have felt through my life, is ignoring the sad fact that many adoptees feel this way.  Ignoring it, or pretending it doesn't happen isn't 'in the best interests of the child'.  

People who thumbs down, do it for their own agenda.

Answer 10

I'm not sure of any sights but wow these people are so mean on here

Good luck with everything!

Answer 11

"OH and btw i'm not going to be in the delivery room neither is my husband but she wants us there at the hospital when she gives birth"

So, don't go. You have a choice. Out of respect for a child who might lose its mother, stay away and let mother and child be alone together.

If this mother wants to keep HER child then be happy for her AND the baby who gets to be raised with its mother.

Answer 12

Get an adoption lawyer.  If you live in Illinois or Indiana I can refer you to someone.  Feel free to e-mail me.