Is there a way to deal with guilt & depression from an abortion please only women who have been through it?

Question

please dont judge i only want womens advice who have been or are going through it

Answer 1

hun i have had not had one but this would be better posted in women's health.

Abortion in this section gets peoples back up,

its normal what your feeling and it will pass in time,

im not to sure what else to say as i don't want to offend any one but there are counseling services out there that can help you

Answer 2

Hi.

A close friend had one many years ago.  She had no regrets, as many women do. Maybe you could do with counselling (but not from one of these anti abortion groups - they will try to make you feel even more guilty).

If you were 100% sure at the time, then you should have had no regrets. I hope you feel much better soon.

Answer 3

l have been in the same road as you, but it takes time to go over it, it also help to first forgive yourself so that God can forgive you as well,and u can go for counselling or share with someone you trust talk about. you wll feel better.

good luck

Answer 4

I have been there.  Its really tough but you eventually will learn to forgive yourself.  Someone told me one time that aborted babies grow up in heaven.  Maybe that's true.  If it is, its better than growing up here.  

Answer 5

I hope you're okay with me answering, as I haven't been through it but a member of my family has.  It was extremely difficult for her and she sank into a horrible depression that she hid from everyone.  But she got through it.  However she didn't start getting through it until she started confiding in friends or a family member because it was just too much to go through alone.  Her biggest fears were:  Had she done something horrible that she could never make right?  and How would people judge her if they found out.  Everybody has to face difficult decisions in life.  This is certainly one of the hardest.  But you have to find a way to move past it because that is the only choice you have.  I'm sure you made your decision based on the current circumstances in your life.  And those circumstances made it too difficult to have a child at this time.  You can spend the rest of your life second-guessing that decision but it will only drive you crazy.  You have to forgive yourself.  In a strange way, the fact that you are feeling so bad is an indication that you are a good person who feels responsible for the actions that you take.  I am sure you will not allow yourself to be put in this kind of situation again.   You should probably consider therapy or a support group.  Most importantly, you need to confide in somebody that you trust and that you know is not judgmental.  You need some support.  The pain will not go away immediately - it takes time.  Something like this can really damage your self-esteem so you need to do things that will help boost it - things that make you feel like a good person.  One way to do that is helping others.  You are not a bad person because of this.  You are a good person who had to deal with an awfully difficult choice.  It's going to be one day at a time for a while.  Slowly it will get easier.

I have been in a situation where I thought I might be pregnant.  I spent every minute of every day trying to figure out what decision I would make if it ended up that I was. Trying to figure out if I could handle the financial burden, give up college, would I tell my boyfriend that I knew I wasn't in love with if I was pregnant (probably not).  Would I tell him if I decided to terminate (definitely not). What kind of job could I get if I kept it?  Would my family support either decision?  Would I go to h**l if I had an abortion, would I ever forgive myself.  It was grueling for me and I only dealt with that for 2 weeks before I found out I wasn't pregnant.  So I can't imagine the torture you must have put yourself through.  To this day I still don't know what that decision would have been.

I think you will always wonder about your decision to some extent, but in time you will forgive yourself and you will be able to deal with it.

Stay strong.

Answer 6

I was munipulated by my mother into getting one when I was 16.  I had been with the guy for a year, and now we have been together for 4 years, married for almost 2.  It is especially hard for me because I am still with him, and we are currently ttc with no luck.  I know that we will have a child when the time is right...but I hurt every day because of what I was made to do.  I am responsible for my own actions, but my mother threw me out on the street, and told me to go have my baby in a dumpster for all she cared.  

After the abortion, I had to move to mexico in order to afford rent to finish high school.  I find it very hard not to blame my mother for the child I don't have.  Everyone's situation is different, and no one can tell you if what you did was right or wrong.