Is there an organization seeking single pregnant gals harrassing them to give up the babies?

Question

Or is it society in general that promotes this idea?

Answer 1

I think that it is both.

With the drop in the number of teenagers who give their babies away to adoption, adoption agencies are drooling to get into high schools to promote adoption as an alternative to not just abortion, but now they are especially targeting moms and dads who want to parent.  I recently investigated the WEB site of an agency that someone advertised on Y!A and was sickened to read "Adoption is a loving alternative to parenting."  Parenting is not loving???  That is a new angle that agencies are using exploit young people.  So, yes, agencies and adoption lawyers actively recruit single pregnant women to give up their babies.  The parents of the single pregnant women are also very influential.  While not as common as in the baby scoop era, they still collude with agencies to have their grandchildren "adopted out".

Some parts of society are promoting adoption.  With the huge increase in infertility in the US, there is a large lobbying group of infertile people who actively promote adoption so it is easier for them to get infants.

Our current government supports adoption as an alternative to providing health care and social services for the poor.  In the US, it is shameful that many of the "poor" are working poor people who do not have health insurance and cannot provide the basic necessities for their families.  Someday the working poor are going to wake up to the fact that they are getting screwed and there will be h**l to pay.

I agree with the other answers that called out NCFA and the big agencies.  Private adoption lawyers also make big dollars by being the middleman in the adoption transaction.

Answer 2

Here's info about one here:

http://www.babybrokerwatch.com/

You can find more information here:

http://www.origins-usa.com

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.com

Answer 3

Both!

Check out the NCFA they believe 2 parent families are better than one and advocate for single mothers to surrender.

Answer 4

I think so. Here is a first hand account.

http://www.adoptionagencyratings.com/bet...

Answer 5

I would hope not.

There's nothing wrong with keeping the baby, and there's nothing wrong with giving it up for adoption it can be the best thing for the baby, because they get a mom AND a dad, and a financially stable home.. the best thing for the mom: no regret that she gets with abortion, a 2nd chance to finish college, high school.. get a good career, etc.. and not to mention the couple that adopts (they get the best gift in the world)

Answer 6

No one strong arms a woman to call an adoption agency or attorney to place a baby or child for adoption.  Unless the baby or child is in state custody due to abuse, neglect or drugs, that decision is entirely hers.  And the decision to abuse, neglect or use drugs during pregnancy is her decision too.  We must stop seeing birthmothers as helpless victims who passively sit by while ruthless adoption mongers steal their babies from them.  This process starts when an agency or attorney gets a call from a woman.  She begins the adoption plan, not the other way around.  

If we continue to see birthmothers as victims, it is degrading, disrespectful and offers no chance for real reform.

Answer 7

I think society perpetuates that myth.

Answer 8

Really interesting question and answers.  I've seen movies about things like that, but didn't know they existed in real life.

Answer 9

The only "advertisements" I have ever seen were for Pregnancy Crisis centers, and even those were only billboards or TV commercials.  I've been to a variety of OBGYN offices, and never seen a pamphlet or card at any of them.  It's also important to note that I was 21 and technically single during my first pregnancy.  Not once did ANYONE from ANY adoption agency ever contact me.  In fact, even when I was teaching high school, I never had a girl say to me that an adoption agency approache her.  My mother is also a teacher, and has never heard of such a thing.  

I think all this "coercion" stuff is way over dramatized.  If a woman contacts an adoption agency, what does she EXPECT they are going to want her to do?  She can always say no, but to expect them to present exactly equal cases is ridiculous.  They do provide couseling and help find social services for women who want to keep their babies, but to expect them to not show a glowing image of what they do is beyond belief.  No one forces the woman to do anything.  If she isn't sure what she wants to do, then yes, she is vulnerable to persuassion - but that is the very nature of uncertainty!  It's not like they are ambulance chasers running around after ever single mother they can get their hands on!

Answer 10

Well, a lot of us would say... The NCFA. Easter House adoption agency (or any of its manifestations). Gladney. Bethany. LDS Family Services. A Child's Waiting. And so on, and so forth. But you can check out their websites, do some digging on moms affected by their practices, and then make up your own mind.

It's funny, the people who think it degrades us moms to say that we were strong-armed, coerced, pressured... those people tend to NOT be women who relinquished a child... let alone women who relinquished after being sent to a maternity home, or denied access to their baby in the hospital, or repeatedly told that the loving thing to do would be relinquishing.

Newsflash: what's denigrating to us is to DENY our truths. And this is my truth: I WAS a victim of the adoption industry; I am NOW a survivor.

Is it denigrating to rape victims to say they were victimized? No, of course not.

Is it denigrating to... someone who has their house broken into... to say they were victimized? No, of course not.

And the reform argument? Makes no sense. If there is no wrong-doing in adoption, then what exactly are we trying to reform?

Answer 11

The National Council for Adoptions (NCFA)

Just about any religious organization

Just about any adoption agency (whether non- or for-profit)

And yes, most of society.  How many people think of adoption as a "great" and "loving" thing when a single woman gives her baby up for adoption?

How many people think it's a "great' and "loving" thing when the "birth" mother changes her mind? Not too many as far as I have seen.

Answer 12

Society does a great job of it and the adoption industry takes full advantage (to their advantage) $$$$