Is there any cure for pathological jealousy or envy?

Question

I'm in a relationship, and most of the time I'm extremely jealousy. I always have the notion my other is partying, and cheating on me. Does anyone have any suggestions? I've been going through this for about a year now, and it's h**l.

Answer 1

YOU have to personally call yourself out each time you encounter these feelings. If your significant other has previously cheated on you, and this is the reason for the jealousy, why are you still in the relationship?

I personally have no sympathy for people that keep blaming their significant others for why they feel inadequate. Take ownership in your relationship and force yourself to face your feelings head on. And if you can't tackle your feelings with your spouse, you gotta let 'em go.

good.luck.

Answer 2

Just let go of your emotions. Just let whatever will happen, just happen.  Don't try to control what is going on. Just don't let your jealousy control you anymore.  Talk to your friends about these feelings too. Maybe they have went through this already and can help you.

Answer 3

find out if your other is really cheating on you and if he is break up with your other. if not just calm down think of positive things if that doesnt work then go to a shrink

Answer 4

Learn to trust your partner! Assuming there is no cause for your jealousy, like cheating, then relax! It sounds like your own self-esteem needs work. Get an activity outside of your relationship, like a hobby or volunteer work.  

Answer 5

i think you should end the relationship and find a partner that you can trust.  

Answer 6

No there isnt.

But to be grateful for what you got.

Not think to deeply in those types of situations because if your jealousy keeps on gettin the better of you, you might end up losin the one you love..or like

Answer 7

4 years for me without finding a cure...but it doesnt help that every time i almost got over i found out i was being cheated on...but thats a story for another day.

I dont think there is a cure but i hope you find it.

Answer 8

Jealousy can be a green eyed monster or it can be your friend. if you let it control you it will drive you nuts and turn you into a green eyed monster too. If you don't let it control you it will be a warning to you that your mate may not be playing with a full deck. Investigate but don't confront and be calm and  not a raving jealous mate. Too much nagging about it if your wrong can drive them away from you or make your accusations come true.

Answer 9

Chronic jealousy is a curse, a mental disorder.  I have known friends who have destroyed relationships and themselves over vain jealousy of their gf or wives.  One friend had his wife leave him over it and she never ever cheated on him.  It's really a mental problem and probably has to do with trust issues with you.  I would se a psychologist and work through it otherwise your life will be h**l.  Just as bad as someone who lets say is an alcoholic, or suffers from some other grave psychological or mental affliction.  Get free of it and enjoy life.  Life's too short to be all f****** up over jealousy feelings.  I am married and I look at it this way.  I trust my wife, but if I ever find out actual evidence that she has cheated or seeing another guy, I will kill the guy and beat her up.  I mean that!  But I won't waste my time over empty suspicions or meaningless jealousy that has no basis in fact or reality.  I am not that insecure and you shouldn’t be either!

Answer 10

You my friend are insecure.  You need to accept that other people are just doing what they do.  Its not all about you.  My ex used to tell me I was doing everyone, everywhere in everyway.  I never did anything.  I did learn that insecurity roots itself in the belief that you somehow deserve being cheated on.  Begs the question what are you really doing.  In the end Karma wins.  What ever energy you choose is what will get you.  Choose freedom from confusing thoughts.  Write down what you know and can prove undoubtedly.  Forget the rest.  Confront your partner by saying is this what is going on?  "If this is what you choose to do, I can't deal with it" and move on.  You're obviously too young to spend so much time in doubt.  

Get more familiar with your self, what makes you think any one would cheat on you?

Answer 11

I am exactly like that and it sucks. I hope someone has a good answer to this question because my boyfriend thinks "im insane and rightfully so. It's like suffering isn't it? The only thing I've thought of is to be alone for the rest of my life so I don't have to deal with this or make anyone else suffer through it, but that is not reasonable advice, you'll probably have to see a therapist and all that junk. That didn't help me. Good luck, and if you find the secret to ending this please let me know!