Is there any future for an older guy dating?

Question

a younger girl.....my present gf is 24 and Iam 38 but were both cool with it....no harm done and loads of laughs...and I actually don't fear the younger man syndrome (i think stiff competition keeps you on your toes...excuse the pun) but I know she fancies having a baby....and that means a commitment which Iam not wanting at present...so do I give her up and let her meet a younger man and have the family she deserves?

Answer 1

Why can't you give her what she wants? An older man is perfect for the qualities which you described. You're in the same position as my father and now he's married with 2 children <.<

Answer 2

if you love her and know that there is something waiting for her you will give her up if not then you better get ready to settle down

Answer 3

How long have you two been dating? If its been a long time, you should think seriously about what you really like and if having kids is not on your near future plans she should now. You tell her and explain her that you do not wanna hurt her in any way. She gets to decide if wether she wants to move on and find someone else who wants to form a family, or being with you knowing you donm't want a baby at present.

Answer 4

Hey...your not "older".  Im the same age as you and when i read your headline I thought you were gonna say you were like 70!!!!  :P  Yes, let her go.  In order for soemthing to work you have to have the same goals and ideals.  Her wanting a family is just way too big of a deal to ignore.  

Answer 5

My mom had the same problem with whom is now my step father there 16 years apart and wouldnt u know it me and mine are 17 years apart. lol.

But she wanted more kids and he didnt. They stayed together for a while longer and now they are both married and have my little brother and sister if u feel in ur heart that you 2 are fine and have a good relationship why throw away something good. Time will work it's self out to telling the both of u if its meant to be or if it is not but there is nothing wrong with being with a older guy and some time haveing kids. More girls i know like haveing kids with older men then they do the younger ones anyway and having relationships with them.

Also wud you really want to give something up that you might regret down the road.?

Answer 6

You do need to be honest, if she wants a family and you're not interested she needs to know.  

You might want to think  seriously about that, what you want. Because  people that really fit don't come along everyday, no matter their ages. Sometimes never.  If you have that kind of relationship think seriously before  letting it go.  

You said you aren't ready for that kind of commitment right now. If you are but in 2 years, she might be ok with that. Just think it over and talk to her about things.  Your ideas of when might be closer to the same than you think.

Answer 7

Been there done that but she really just wanted money, but if you want to pay child support till your 56 you go right ahead . If your so confident hit and run buddy hit and run.  

Answer 8

its normal for a guy to be older then the girl, i like a older girl 1 year and i think im too young for her. there is nothing wrong my dad is 10 years older then my mum

Answer 9

As long as you make it quite clear that you are not interested in a family, it is then her decision to stay or to find someone else.