Is there any teen parents who could answer this question?

Question

me and my gf are thinking about giving our baby up for adoption. we really dont know yet what we are ganna do. we are both really scared about all this, and even though its natural we really dont want to at the same time. we want to because we are not sure if we would make good parents, and we dont want to because it would be really hard to give the baby away and have him or her being raised by some strangers. what should we do?

Answer 1

well it all depends on how old u guys are if u are 15 and younger u arent mentally prepared to have a baby so i think its best that u give the baby up but just ask for visitation rights........if ur over 15 then u should have a job and i think  that u would be able to care for the baby mentally physically and money wise but if u dont have a job get one and keep ur baby..

Answer 2

maybe give it to me

Answer 3

find some adoption parents and give it to them

Answer 4

I'm 18.

And my son is due in the next few weeks. I thought about giving him up when  I was 4 months pregnant, The more i thought the less I wanted to do it. The love I have for him is unreal and I couldn't imagine giving him to someone else EVER. I love him so much and he isn't even here, You have no idea how much a baby can do for you. No matter how old you are you'll never forgive yourself if you let that baby go.

Answer 5

before its born.

you should find adoption parents first.

once you do, get to know them.

if it doesnt go well at first find other parents.

its better if you see the family's environment

before you give it away.

Because you dont want a child that you know is yours given to a random family that wants a child and abuses them.

Chances are low. But its really your choice.

Answer 6

please don't give your child away...you can make it! you will regret it if you give you child away....please really really think about this

Answer 7

that's a personal decision.

I know plenty of people who had babies and probably struggled for a while, but now they're successful adults.

so I'm hoping my life will go about the same way. we'll see in about 5-6 months =).

Answer 8

Of course giving the baby away could be one of the hardest things you may ever do, but you just have to think about what is best for the child and the both of you. Teens do have babies all the time and are successful, but some aren't able to graduate HS or go on to college or pursue their dreams. Its something you guys need to think about more and think of what the best solution is for everyone.

Answer 9

my mom kept me

Answer 10

Keep it... If you don't, your kid's life will be traumatized forever... exaggerating of course but seriously your kid will wonder who his/her parents were and why they dumped him/her into the adoption center. You reap wat you sow.

Answer 11

well if you realy want to give him/her away for adoption, make sure that when they are born you dont see them, dont hold them etc, because if you do there is no way you're going to want to give that child away.

i was 16 when i had my daughter and im really glad i didnt give her up for adoption, things are different when they are born, but not always in a bad way.

you need to have a serious talk to your gf about this and make sure you both know exactly what you want.

good luck =]

Answer 12

You got to think like this, is this baby going to have a good life later on or is it best to give it to a family who will raise it from day one and take care of its needs, babys are expensive

Think of your kids future

Answer 13

the best thing, in my opinion, is to do whats best for the baby, and completly take yourselves out of the picture.

If you don't think you two are going to be good parents, then you won't be most likely, and should let the baby live in a nice family with very nice people.

you can keep in contact with the parents if its too difficult, but sometimes i think a closed adoption is the best.

so in my opinion, i think you should give the baby up for adoption just because you say you dont think youre going to be good parents, and its best for the baby

remember

take yourselves out of the picture and just think of the baby.

Answer 14

i am 18 and due in December.....i think if you two are together and can raise this baby right then you have to deal with the consequences.  me and my boyfriend were very scared to but being scared isn't a good reason to give up your baby.

GOOD LUCK!