Is there any way around this?

Question

my bf is going to start teaching in october on monday afternoons, he said he wouldnt be able to come see me any more at weekends as he needs to practice his lectures as this teaching experience could make or break his career- i think hes rather deluded to that having spent 17 years in academia myself before getting out. but he is new to it.

anyway he said he wouldnt be able to come over and go out on saturdays as he would be too hungover on sunday to practice his lectures. i cant see why he doesnt practice on tuesday etc like any other working week. but anyway, any suggestions as to what to do? so it works out both ways? in the end i told him to stop going on about it and just do it if its so important to him. he said i didnt care about things that were important to him, when i said that...

Answer 1

I dont know about you but the weekend is the only proper time to spend with your bf.You dont have to go mad on drink if u go out so he wont have a hangover or maybe just meet up and do something else together rather than go out, maybe get a dvd.I dont see why he cant do it during the week or maybe if he practices for a short time on saturday and sunday then meet up later.

He is prob worried about his lectures and afraid of failing, try sitting down with him and talk it over, maybe you could help him with his studying.

You could still go out with your friends on occasion if he didnt want to go out.

Answer 2

Maybe he should buckle down and stop getting hungover so he can spend that extra time on his work. If he's so worried about making his lectures look good, he could clean up a bit. And that would leave more time for the two of you as well as making him look more professional.  

Answer 3

I think that he is being responsible and you should give him some credit... maybe you can find something to do that WON'T give him a hangover anyway?

Answer 4

I know you want time with him but this is obviously very important to him and he needs your support right now. suggest to him some form of compromise so perhaps you go out together in the daytime on saturday so there's no risk of hangovers, or maybe he could practice every other weekend and see you on the other ones, or even make a day for the 2 of you in the week. once he gets the hang of things he'll be less eager to perfect it and will have much more time for you.