Kids will be invited to our wedding because attending will require overnight travel and we are including some kids in our wedding party. I'd really like to know if there is any way to specify at the time of the invitation that parents will be responsible for the supervision of their own children at the wedding.
Here's why - - Our engagement party was just over this past weekend and a number of the children in attendance (who will also be invited to the wedding) got very much out of hand.
I'm talking running into people who were carrying food & drinks causing spills.
Then running around the hall with balloons in tow and almost trashing the chandeliers (because the balloons were getting stuck between the crystal parts and they were just trying to yank them out of the chandelier).
One of the mothers approached my friend - who had brought activities for her daughter to do - and asked my friend to watch her son and let him have the coloring book she had brought for her daughter (which the daughter was quietly coloring in). Her son is totally wild and I don't blame my friend for declining.
When it came time for the cake cutting, the kids were totally in the way, grabbing for cake, reaching to stick their fingers in it before it was cut to "claim" their piece, etc - - my Mom had to stand there and tell them "don't touch the cake".
I cannot afford to hire a sitter for my guests unruly kids (I'm already paying over $12-grand to feed everyone at the wedding). I will have some crafts and coloring activities for the kids, but I do expect the parents to supervise their kids. The whole TV in another room is not an option - - and it encourages dropping the kids in an out of the way place where they won't be supervised.
Is there a way to add a note to invites stating "the children in the family are welcome and wanted to attend, but parents need to ensure their children are supervised during the festivities".
Or should I maybe have a general discussion with the parents before the wedding to tell them that they need to keep an eye on their children if they are coming to the wedding?
I can't envision a tactful way to address this problem, but I don't want a wedding day wrecked by wild kids breaking things or causing damage to the hall. The saddest part is that some of the children were really well behaved at the party and I enjoyed seeing them and really would want them to come to the wedding and not be discouraged.
Please give me some ideas!
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